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AIBU over sons weight?

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Damnivy · 22/06/2018 18:35

Ds1 is 13 (just). He's been bullied quite a bit recemtly, at school and home! All of this bullying seems to start the same way.. being called fat by other kids!
It's really getting to him, he has now stopped eating at school, as he finds it embarrassing eating in front of other kids now!
Now I have started to question myself ALOT, over wether he is or isn't over weight. I don't feel he is, but why do kids repetedy bully him for this?
So, he eats a healthy diet, 3 meals and 3 snacks most days, (except now he won't eat lunch at school). Has plenty of fresh foods in his diet, he has never liked squash, and I won't buy fizzy drink for home, (as one of my dds kept sneakily drinking it), so drinks mostly water unless we are out for a meal or something and has fizz as a treat. We have a take away once a month (pay day) and only go out to eat for special occasions.
He's 13, 5ft 6 and 9st 11lb. So overweight for a 13 year old but middle range weight for his height. He is also quite active.
So AIBU for worrying about his weight, and thinking about some kind of diet change or are these kids just cruel and using his above average size as an excuse to bully him.
Also any ideas of how I can help my son would be greatly appreciated.

OP posts:
HappyStripper · 23/06/2018 15:48

Just a note. Please keep an eye out for eating disorders, they’re actually pretty common in boys and not eating in public is a very common first step. Maybe do some reading about keeping a normal and healthy relationship with food. My (significantly) younger brother’s friend developed one at around 13 and it’s been really hard on the family to reverse the damage done.

EatTheChocolateTeapot · 23/06/2018 15:56

The OP’s son is 5ft6 not 5ft4.
The problem is not your son OP, it is the bullies.

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