To find this sad?

[AnyLondoner]

DD is 4 and DS is 5, 6 in September. DD is such a sweet and caring girl, so considerate. Anything she gets, she always makes sure she shares it with DS, and if she can’t share, she will ask why DS is not having any. The other day we were in Poundland, and she wanted this pink toy, she also immediately reached out for the blue version for DS. Anything you give her, she wants to share it with DS, if she gets home and DS is not home, she always asks for him.

DS on the other hand will NEVER share anything with DD unless he’s told to, never asks for DD if he gets home before her. He will literally walk into the living room, sit down and eat his snack and won’t even notice she’s not there.

I’m gonna start redecorate the house soon, and I asked them if they wanted to share a bedroom. DS immediately says NO with angry face, and DD said yes.

I know that deep down he does love his sister and he’s just a child, but it just sad to see and hear how much DD cares for him and always thinking of him, and he doesn’t seem to care for her.

To those questioning the pink thing DD (also 4) has started going for the girly pink stuff, declaring songs 'for girls' or 'for boys' for fucksake despite my best efforts to avoid this. A switched on 4 year old unfortunately picks up on this bullshit of her own accord so lay of the snarky insinuations eh?

It's sad that she has been conditioned by society and by advertising to believe that pink is for girls. Wind your neck in.

My son idolises his big sister, she loves him but does have times when she just wants him to go away. The not sharing is something you can work on. But maybe let him have space away from her without any disappointment in his choice. My 2 have three and a half years between them. DS would still sleep in his sisters room if he could but she is loving her own space

*To her, he’s the older brother she looks up to

To him, she’s the annoying little sister.*

This

I know he's only a child, but sometimes DS reminds me of his dad, selfish and always thinking of himself and his own needs lol

That's not funny. You don't seem to like this child. That's what is sad.
Not the fact that a five year old would like a room and possession of his own.

OP, I suggest you read 'siblings without rivalry' from the 'HOw to talk so kids will listen' series.
Plenty of accounts in there from adults who weren't their parents favourite child and still talking with pain about how that was for them. Plenty of accounts from parents who hadn't realised how they were favouring a child or that other child/ren had noticed and was hurting from it.
You may feel that your 'selfish' child won't notice your attitude to him and how it differs from your other children, but he sure will. Children are very sensitive to this.

You have an ideal opportunity to turn this around now.