To be pissed off about not being invited to Xmas do?

[GunpowderGelatine]

Or am I being sensitive?

In previous Christmas Do's at my job we have always invited former staff who've remained close to everyone.

I'm leaving my job in September to start work in my DD's School. The organiser of the Christmas Do at my current workplace, I strongly suspect, dislikes me. She's quite a bit younger than me and very forceful when it comes to asking people to join in with non-work things. She's one of those who says "I'm not asking, I'm telling" So far this year she's got really pissy when I've refused to -

• do a 5km obstacle course thing, which cost £70 to enrol on
• go on a 'day sesh' (whatever that is) to a city 50 miles away on a Saturday all day
• bake a cake for the charity bake sale she decided we were having (for clarity i am utterly shit at baking and stuck a tenner in the pot instead).

I have 2 very small children, no nearby support and a husband who works most weekends, so when I do ask him to take time off so I can do something it's usually for something I really want to do, like a friends birthday, not a 'day sesh' or obstacle course with colleagues.

Anyway she is organising this year's Christmas do and left me off the invite list. Fair enough, I am leaving, but the colleagues in my office asked if I still wanted to come and I said yes as I am good friends with them. They emailed this lady (who works on the same floor, different office) asking to include Gunpowder and she replied to say "no, current staff only". To clarify, she isn't senior or above any of us.

AIBU to be fucked off that she gets to decide this presumably based on personal dislike, rather than anything else? Former colleagues have always joined us on the Christmas do's (ones she's been friendly with) or am I being sensitive?

Its June... Therefore you are ALL being unreasonable to even think about Xmas!

To earlier to judge really and you won't know for sure until after the xmas do. You could be right or it could be a case of budget cuts in catering for the party etc so reducing it to current staff only. Time will tell.

I don't think you're being over-sensitive. She sounds a nightmare.

Education parties, other posters please note, are entirely paid for by the staff themselves.
Other ex-staff have attended in the past.
Other current staff have asked for you to be included.

There are some very precious and unprofessional people about and she sounds like one.unfortunately. Not attending voluntary and out of hours work events due to childcare should not exclude you from anything. I'm not sure what you can do about it - I would ask head if its ok to join the xmas do and take it from there.

I'd just leave it. She clearly does not like you and this is her way of 'punishing' you for it.

I was very active in my last place of work. Helped organise directorate days, fundraising days etc but I wouldn't have attended the obstacle course or the day sesh either.

TRIP read the bloody thread properly 'headmistress' op CLEARLY said two other staff had been sent a text about the xmas do. And yes in some places former staff do get invited unlike ur place maybe
wonder if any of ur former staff would even want to join a xmas do with you in it. Honestly 'forcing' a quiz on them ha!

@hayli

What?