MIL and FIL want to babysit

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My daughter is 4 and a half months old, and my mother and father in law who I absolutely adore, want to look after her overnight.

They often hint and offer, to which we decline or say 'maybe one day soon' but I feel awful as if I'm keeping her from them the more they ask.

We see them regularly, they just absolutely adore her and LOVE caring for their grandchildren (DD is our first but they have a grandson who is 3 who they mind regularly)

I just don't feel like I need the break from her, and have no doubts that they'd do an amazing job, I'm just not ready.

Can I keep politely declining? I still think 4 months is really young! (She has stayed at my mams but my mam 'knows' her as well as I do, she practically moved in with us when she was born) but even then I can't fully relax.

I guess I just feel as though they think I think they're not good enough which really isn't the case.

Thanks x

Oh I missed that you let you DM have her over night!

Are there any 'real' reasons you don't want them to have her (smokers, dog, poor health etc) or are you just fretting do you think?

What does your DH think? I am concerned you are allowing more contact with your own mother than his parents. If you are uneasy with over night I'd agree with other suggestions that some time during the day would be a good idea.

I still think pragmatically that you need to be sure you're comfortable with your PIL stepping in at short notice if your mum is ill or some other emergency happens. You're lucky to have two sets of willing child carers so close by-don't do anything to jeopardise that whatever you do!

I bet OP that your PILs have just thought that you're ok with DD sleeping out because she's slept at your mums, they are probably a bit baffled to why you're saying no.

The earlier the better, otherwise it will come as a shock to the toddler. And the 2 sets of GPS should be treated equally, unless there is good reason not to..

I think you have more than PIL issue going on when the babies own dad can't be left with her.
I seriously think you should get help with your anxiety. Your poor husband

Just tell them you’re not ready and you’ll let them know when you are. It’ll stop them pestering. I think it’s entirely up to you feeling comfortable and you should totally ignore anyone telling you otherwise.