Morrisons refused to let DD pretend to pay for the shopping...

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Because my shopping included a bottle of wine.

Often pop to my local Morrisons for small top up shops. Popped there this morning to buy a few bits, including a bottle of wine. DD aged 3 likes to 'help' me at the self service checkout, scanning the shopping, and then at the end I lift her up and she uses my debit card to make the contactless payment, or puts the coins in etc.

Today as I was about to lift DD up to pay, the lady overseeing the checkouts rushed over to stop me and said DD wasn't allowed to pay for the shopping. She said it wasn't allowed as then the alcohol could actually be for her, or the debit card could actually be hers. When I pointed out that DD is only 3, and the debit card was mine, and it was clearly me really paying for the shopping she said it didn't matter

AIBU or is this completely bonkers? I could totally understand this if I had an older teenager with me but it feels like there is no common sense anymore

I work in a shop and I do the same if a child tries to pay for shopping woth alcohol in. I can't afford the fine or to have a written warning over selling alcohol to a minor. May sound stupid but we are checked monthly by undercover police, trading standards & headoffice.

As much as it sounds bonkers to most, respect the laws that shop staff are working under. They don't want to make anyones day harder or upset small children

Oh well - it is what it is as they say!
I would rather employees kept their jobs and put up with the rules etc/ they are all in force for a reason.

Some crackers have small scissors or pointy things in them - I thought it could be this rather than explosives

Explosives are a restricted product. Irrespective of what's in the cracker, you have to be 18 to buy.

Yes.... explosives lol Myrelationship I think the HoP are safe - from Christmas crackers anyway. Lol

What was inside? Cardboard masks... sprouts, turkeys, Santa etc.... we know how to celebrate lol

Some crackers have small scissors or pointy things in them - I thought it could be this rather than explosives

Nah, it's definitely the explosives. Otherwise...

Yabu you don't get to cost someone their job because you feel like it

But whoever would sack someone for this is being very unreasonable

Serious, yes. They could potentially confiscate your paid for shopping I believe, because the transaction could be deemed illegal. A refund to your account can easily be processed to cancel out the one you had insisted on making.

I imagine that it is where things could get complicated and ugly though, because some people behave like such entitled idiots to shop floor workers and others who don't make the rules, but have a job to hold down. It puts them in such a difficult and unfair position.

What happens if the adult holds the card to the contactless reader but the child reaches out and touches it?

This is all a total load of crap. No shop would confiscate goods, sack staff, declare war on Russia or whatever bonkers idea posters here have next.

Allowing someone under 18 to pay is a £1000 for the cashier, who would probably also lose their job.

Supermarket would also be fined.

Oh for gods sake. The 3 year old isn’t purchasing the booze! What kind of dimwit would fine a cashier under those circumstances? In all honestly I’d judge the cashier as pretty dim for suggesting it was s possibility

Maybe she was getting pissed off with you holding up a hill whilst you faffed around with your child / shopping? Maybe she just wanted to make a point Yes. If I was in the queue behind OP it would have sent me crazy.

May sound stupid but we are checked monthly by undercover police, trading standards & headoffice.

Is that really the case? There have been cuts all over including police and councils. Do they really check every month? Although I can believe head office, as a bullying culture has developed over employees in the UK.

This is the most bonkers thing ever. You don't need common sense when you have rules.

For those of you saying it holds up the queue, no it doesn’t. You pick up toddler, they put the card on machine, it beeps and then it’s done. It engages them, they enjoy doing it.
It would take me far longer if I wasn’t involvong him, he’s a typical toddler attention span of a gnat, would be running away or trying to amuse himself touching things and being mischievous if I didn’t engage him.
This thing when you involve your dc in the tasks to get them done, it manages their behaviour and helps them learn things, “say thank you to check out lady” etc etc. It’s callef parenting.
People have been doing things like letting their toddlers press the button for the green man, or get the change from the shop assistant for generations.
If you can whinge about this, you’d twist about anything or you are very intolerant of little people.

It wouldn’t be both the police and trading standards. Only 1 have responsibility for this, the other wouldn’t waste their resources (and I’m pretty certain it’s trading standards)

It's always a laugh when those who clearly don't know what they're on about preach at people who have worked in a sector for years .

If you can whinge about this, you’d twist about anything or you are very intolerant of little people.
No I'm just intolerant of the annoying parents whose little snowflakes are allowed to do anything and who completely ignore the fact that despite a rule seeming silly, a real person could risk their job just to pander to the needs of a 2yo.

Rather than focus on the jobsworth focus on the child being raised to be entitled.

Only recently have little people ruled adults.

I got I'd for buying Jack Daniels barbecue Sauce, even the assistant was laughing

She challenged me and asked if I was buying the prosecco for my gd - I replied no, it’s for our NYE house party consisting of 8 adults blah blah. Anyway to cut a long story short - she didn’t believe me and called for her manager.

This happened to me with my ds. Ridiculous.

No it is not ridiculous. The sales assistant was behaving entirely correctly.

Only recently have little people ruled adults.

Don't be so hyperbolic. Letting my toddler wave a card over the payment machine has nothing to do with entitlement. Just like it doesn't when I let him press the lift button or pour the milk on my cereal.

Get a grip

Mila my point was at people who said a toddler paying would hold up the queue. A separate issue raised to that of the alcohol.
So my child is entitled because I involve them at the till? Do you realise how ridiculous that sounds a child is entitled because ther parent gets them involved in everyday tasks/chores like shopping? It’s hardly what you could call indulgent like buying out the toy department.

Don’t call my child a snowflake.
You sound like a fool calling a child names.

Most people are quite happy to involve a child in conversations and tasks. You sound weird. What did you do with your own children, the whole seen and not heard?
I noticed you attacked an older mumsnet user for being on this site.... well from your attitude you must be at least about 95

Oh for gods sake. The 3 year old isn’t purchasing the booze! What kind of dimwit would fine a cashier under those circumstances? In all honestly I’d judge the cashier as pretty dim for suggesting it was s possibility

What kind of dimwit does not understand it is illegal to sell alcohol to or for under 18s?

What kind of dimwit does not understand the serious implications for the staff and the shop if they breach that?

What kind of dimwit does not understand that the simplest way of making sure no member of staff is put into the position of having to make judgemen call on it is to enforce it strictly on all occasions?

Well clearly the kind of dimwits posting on this thread.

I'm 27 and a few months ago, Tescos wouldn't let my pensioner dad buy wine with his shopping because I was standing next to him and didn't have ID on me.

To be honest I was quite happy about it - my dad was pissed off though.

• Hadn't even been shopping together, had just gone to meet him at the checkout