Morrisons refused to let DD pretend to pay for the shopping...

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Because my shopping included a bottle of wine.

Often pop to my local Morrisons for small top up shops. Popped there this morning to buy a few bits, including a bottle of wine. DD aged 3 likes to 'help' me at the self service checkout, scanning the shopping, and then at the end I lift her up and she uses my debit card to make the contactless payment, or puts the coins in etc.

Today as I was about to lift DD up to pay, the lady overseeing the checkouts rushed over to stop me and said DD wasn't allowed to pay for the shopping. She said it wasn't allowed as then the alcohol could actually be for her, or the debit card could actually be hers. When I pointed out that DD is only 3, and the debit card was mine, and it was clearly me really paying for the shopping she said it didn't matter

AIBU or is this completely bonkers? I could totally understand this if I had an older teenager with me but it feels like there is no common sense anymore

It is so stupid, It is not like she toddled up to the checkout, debit card and shopping in hand on her own, quite obvious it was you.

I was refused sale of an age restricted product the other week. Twice in one week actually.

It was doubly annoying because a)its not a legal age restriction. It’s moral, so no blow back from any one. B)I work for the company that make the product I was trying to buy, and you have to be over 18; I was signed in under the company and wearing my company ID, C)I’m 28 and look 40.

Bloody stupid,

Do you know it's only just occuring to me that I've done 'worse' than this so many times with my dc at Lidl.

At the checkout whilst I'm speed packing, I usually give ds2 the task of entertaining ds3 (in the trolley) and pass my purse to ds1 to pay.

He's ten. He takes my debit card out and uses the PIN - both dc do this for me sometimes.

I often have alcohol in the shop. Never been pulled up on it.

I think it's an absolute disgrace when people turn away adults buying alcohol for themselves while they have a child with them, no matter what age the child is. The adult is the one purchasing the alcohol. Use some common sense people. Nowhere does it say, if you have a minor with you, you may not buy alcohol. It's a joke. Parents can't very well leave their children outside or in the car. Do we really need to find babysitters to go and buy a bottle of wine.

tripyouout, don't be a GF.

You must know as well as I do that there are people doing PhD's who work in supermarkets on the side.

And looking down your nose at people doesn't make you look very intelligent.

@tripYouOut what job do you do then??

My toddler loves doing tap and pay. I always let him – it's such a simple act but it puts a huge smile on his face every time.

We've done it with alcohol in the shop too and nobody has said anything.

Pay peanuts get monkeys. What were you expecting from someone whose job it is is to watch people using self-service checkouts in Morrisons?

If they were smarter they wouldn't be there.

And yet if they weren't there to watch the checkouts you'd be in a flap at the first hint of "unexpected item in the bagging area." It's not cool to denigrate retail workers, it just makes you look like a bit of an arse, tbh.

It’s a world away from being kids and being sent to buy a pack of baccy or fags for our parents. I knew a few kids who had to pick up cans of beer at the time too. Things really have changed!

SeriousSimon So you'd think it okay to flap your hands in the face of someone attempting to do their job because your child's desire to scan a piece of plastic takes priority over the law and the potential loss of that person's job.

Hmm.

Happened to me last Christmas. I am 60, male with a beard. In Waitrose with my wife doing a big shop. Two trolly loads. Halfway unloading second trolly at the till the wine appeared. I was asked for ID. Do I look under 25 I asked? You could be under 18 was the reply! I said no ID on me, so now what. I was told that I could not have the wine. Fine I said, keep the lot. With that we walked out and went to Tesco instead, no issues there.

Silly jobsworth woman.

Why would a 60 year old man with a beard be on a forum called MUMSNET?

@Miladamermalada Contrary to the title it's not just for mums and everyone is welcome here.

Because it is the best way I can learn how to deal with my kids. (11 & 14).

It’s great that older men are on here I think!
Maybe the stores should just ID every one and be done.
Would cause bigger queues , but we’re used to this.
There must be an answer to this.
ID check in before you shop? Airport style security?

Thanks 9am

John Lewis wouldn’t let my 10 year old pay for the Christmas crackers - they watched me give her the money, I was standing next to her. It’s the law so fair enough

What did the Christmas crackers have in them though? Must be a reason for these rules!

Christmas crackers contain explosives

I've given my 13 year old my credit card before and sent him off to do the Asda shop with his 11 year old brother. I had no idea we were doing anything wrong!

What did the Christmas crackers have in them though? Must be a reason for these rules! technically explosives, although you’d need quite a few boxes of them under the Houses of Parliament to do any damage

Yabu you don't get to cost someone their job because you feel like it

Some crackers have small scissors or pointy things in them - I thought it could be this rather than explosives!

The law is you can drink in your own house at 5. It is not illegal drink alcohol underage (just buy it) so even if a parent is buying it for their teenager how is it not allowed?