To think my 'family' are rubbish?

[eyycarumba]

For perspective, I'm adopted. Maybe more of a rant than an AIBU because I'm pretty certain I'm not!

Just found out my 'family' are having a 60th birthday party for F tomorrow night, family get together, all siblings (their own children) going. Nothing had been said to me, I found out from F's sister who asked how I'm getting there. Asked M about it and apparently it has been planned for weeks but I wasn't asked as they presumed I'd have plans (I don't). We don't have a bad relationship (now anyway, childhood was not the best), no arguments and we see each other weekly as I do their weekly shop! M said I can come if I want, but I'm not going to as I'm obviously not wanted (didn't say this).

I am hurt. Really hurt. I've had to go have a little cry in the work toilet, I was made to feel separate and left out throughout my childhood but I thought that was in the past. Would it be unreasonable to tell them to fuck off next time they want something?

Gosh, eyycarumba. What a vile bunch.

I would suggest hiding or muting the social media posts, if you are not ready to block. At least then you don't have to see it all.

I'm so glad for you that you have a supportive partner.

I agree with @ADarkandStormyKnight you need to shield yourself from their vileness!!

eyycarumba what a truly awful thread. I hope your OH is brilliant and you can both move on from these toxic individuals. My cousin is adopted and he is our family. No question. Your ‘family’ and I say this in the loosest term treat you appallingly. Time to surround yourself with people who love and respect you and remove those that don’t. Stay strong. And I hope you stop doing there bloody shopping, your not the hired help!

This is one of the saddest posts I've read, I can't understand how someone can adopt a child and then not allow them to call you their mum or dad and to treat them so shockingly. They should never have been allowed to adopt if they weren't going to treat you as their child. You are not their servant to do their bidding. Stop the shopping for a start.

Their behaviour is shocking. I really feel for you OP .