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Primary children on London bus

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PretABoire · 13/06/2018 10:35

I get the bus to work in London each day. Unfortunately for me and all the other passengers, so does a large family with 3-6?? primary aged children. I assume the parents take it in turns and often bring random other children with them. The problem is that this is a packed commuter bus and I'm starting to get Right Pissed Off with their behaviour.

The parents encourage the small children to squeeze under elbows and between people to skip the queue onto the bus. The parent then uses this as an excuse as to why they have to join them. They then proceed to yell, daily, "get on the stairs, get on the stairs!". Besides the fact that you obviously aren't supposed to stand on the stairs of a moving bus (many adults do as it's usually the only space available) - these kids will then agian, slip past anyone waiting for a seat upstairs and nab the first one available, or completely block the stairs meaning that most days, someone ends up missing their stop because they can't make it past the wall of sprogs blocking the steps. I've lost count of the number of times I've had to ask these kids to move for someone, but they just stare blankly and stay put.

The school is only about a 25 minute walk from the bus stop they get on at. No mobility issues - if they are running late, or miss the bus, I've seen the lot of them sprinting to school or the next stop.

WIBU to say something to the parents next time someone misses their stop due to their tribe or they fail to queue for the bus/a seat? I feel myself getting closer to snapping at them with each passing day - especially when I'm having a bad back day and the kids keep squeezing past the queue to grab a seat.

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PretABoire · 13/06/2018 15:24

@longlostpal it doesn't sound like you know london transport particularly well, and besides your points are really not making much sense (adults aren't causing problems so it's their fault when the kids do?) so perhaps toddle along now

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longlostpal · 13/06/2018 15:29

My point is that it’s hard to complain about others breaking rules when you yourself are breaking rules. And you’re not exactly painting yourself in the best light when you say things like “toddle along now”. Although if you can’t be polite online it doesn’t surprise me that you get ragey on public transport.

BottleOfJameson · 13/06/2018 15:35

lol reading this thread is just ridiculous. Why on earth should OP have to avoid taking the bus because other people are behaving badly on the bus? Particularly when she has a lot further to go. That's ridiculous.

PretABoire · 13/06/2018 15:36

Blimey. You're pushing a point no one is trying to make. This isn't about 'rules' - it's about manners and not being selfish. Do you honestly, honestly think that because there is a queue which isn't causing problems, they have every right to cause all the bloody problems I've described? I bet your kids are the 'can't do wrong' type too :D

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PretABoire · 13/06/2018 15:37

Yes this wasn't a "help me achieve a zen-like state on my commute" thread, I just wanted to know if it would be appropriate to mention the behaviour to the parents, and perhaps how to go about that

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C8H10N4O2 · 13/06/2018 15:55

I've lost count of the number of times I've had to ask these kids to move for someone, but they just stare blankly and stay put.

Why do you need to ask them to move for other people? If I need someone to move so I can get past I'd ask them myself. Perhaps that is causing confusion?

The school is only about a 25 minute walk

Its public transport for any member of the public who wishes to use it, not transport for long journeys.

WIBU to say something to the parents next time someone misses their stop due to their tribe

What stops you? You say you wouldn't hesitate to talk to adults whose behaviour you didn't like, why have you not taken it up with the responsible adult who is apparently the root cause of the behaviour anyway?
Tribe seems an odd word to use in this context and the behaviours you describe are also adult behaviours IME.

Aeroflotgirl · 13/06/2018 15:57

Yabvu it is not a commuter bus, it is public transport for everybody. It may take her longer with young kids in tow. I would get the bus in her position.

longlostpal · 13/06/2018 15:59

Ok, well good luck complaining to the parent about the kids standing on the stairs, from your position.... standing on the stairs.

Buxtonstill · 13/06/2018 16:02

Walk to the stop before yours? Stops are measured so there is a 5-10 walking gap between them. Is it the no 12 bus?

PretABoire · 13/06/2018 16:16

I just said 'commuter bus' as shorthand for 'bus during rush hour full mainly with commuters' - apologies if that upset or confused anyone

Sometimes I do get on an earlier stop but there are the same problems with people unable to get off the stairs because the kids won't move, obviously any adults standing on the stairs do their best to get out of the way (but this isn't possible with kids sat on the bottom few steps as there often are)

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Changebagsandgladrags · 13/06/2018 16:18

You're not adding to your hour's journey by leaving 20 minutes early. You just get there earlier with 20 minutes to do as you please...

RestingBitchFaced · 13/06/2018 16:54

YABU - if they are not affecting you personally, and causing you to miss your stop then tough shit. Don't see why you need to speak up for 'other people' that have affected

OliviaStabler · 14/06/2018 06:38

@PretABoire Apologies, I missed that update.

MongerTruffle · 14/06/2018 06:44

isn’t the general concensus that children should stand for adults
No
Do you honestly think that a 4 year old should stand for an 18-year-old?

ForalltheSaints · 14/06/2018 07:01

Free bus travel for children in London should end, except for those with long journeys to school, and perhaps low income families. Far too many children are overweight and do not walk short distances as a result.

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