Your parents were fully aware that your Db/Dsis were growing and distributing cannabis but choose to say and do nothing about it? I only ask as I found out over a year ago now that my dsis and her partner are involved in a drugs operation and have been growing cannabis. I won’t comment how I found this out in case I out myself but needless to say if I didn’t trust what was said to be true I wouldn’t have even thought on it. I’ve sat on this for a long time now so not to cause upset within the family but I’m so done.
My dsis is nothing but a manipulative, greedy, ruthless money hungry cow yet I’ve gone completely against my morals and sense of what is right and said nothing. Well that was the case up until last month when I decided to tell our parents what had been going on. Now you can call me petty and childish is you like. I’ll be honest and tell you that yes, I told them because I wanted them to think bad of her. But mostly I told them because I couldn’t and shouldn’t have had to keep it quiet all this time. What they are doing is utterly disgusting. My dsis shows no loyalty to me yet I’ve kept such a big thing like this quiet for over a year and I have felt angry with myself.
She and her partner have been together for years. They have three children together and live together but claim to live apart. He, for all legal intents and purposes lives with his brother ie registered for council tax, car insurance etc, however they both live together and have never been apart. I’ve always known this to be the case but as my dsis will never change and has more front than Brighton I ignored it, as after all it doesn’t affect my life.
Her partner some time ago now inherited a large sum of money from his grandmother and my dsis had the nerve to sit in front of me and tell me to my face that there’s no way she will ever register as living with him officially as she will no longer be entitled to any benefits as he would have to declare the money. Now, claiming to live alone is one thing but claiming to live alone when you and you partner have a pretty decent nest egg and can afford to live comfortably without claiming anything, and then on top of that earning thousands from drug dealing is another thing entirely. Again though, it doesn’t affect my life so I kept out of it. But knowing now that she and her partner are growing and dealing drugs to people, possibly even young kids and teenagers the same age my children makes me feel sick to my stomach.
So I told my parents. As previously mentioned i told them partially (childish or not) because I wanted them to know just what she was really like but to my shock my parents didn’t even react. They didn’t ask for any details, appeared very shifty and since then every time tney’ve visited they have been cagey. To say I was upset with their reaction (not just because they didn’t go omg your sister is the devil) is an understatement because I really thought they would care. But I came to realise it’s not that they didn’t care. They reacted in the way that they did either because they already knew about what has been going on or they are somehow involved, whether that be directly or indirectly. I hate thinking this of my parents but my Dh (who’s your typical man and usually doesn’t notice much) has also said he thinks there is something else happening here. I know that what my Dsis is doing doesn’t affect me directly but I’m still furious. I don’t agree with drugs unless they’re used for medical reasons and think drug dealers to me are scum. I didn’t think my own family would be mixed up in this and I’m upset. I’ve started to distance myself from my Dsis as I can’t go on pretending anymore as I’m not a fake person and find it difficult to not show my reaction. The only thing my dad has had to say about it is that he doesn’t want me saying anything to my Dsis but why? We bother no now, the cat is out of the bag as it were. I’ve found myself now though not wanting to be around them either. They all make out that they’re perfect parents and grandparents but my Dsis has no morals, she thinks that if you shower your kids with money and expensive gifts you’re a great parent, and she looks down on other parents who don’t do this. My parents are also obsessed with money and feel they can splash the cash whenever tney want on my kids as opposed to spending any quality time with them. But the fact I know how much my parents earn (less than we do) and they’ve still got a large mortgage for the next 10 years all this going on makes me wonder how they are affording a 40k extension on their home plus other things. Don’t get me wrong I don’t usually care what people earn, I don’t care and I don’t ask. What a person earns doesn’t mean squat to me but i can’t help wondering if all the holidays my parents go on (usually every other month) and the fancy renovations on their home are being funded through these dodgy dealings. I felt so bad even thinking this but I really can’t think of another explanation for my parents unusual behaviour and their reaction to such a big thing like this. Thoughts?