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Friend spends the weekend with me then ‘reviews’ her experience, wtf!?

999 replies

Biscusting · 09/06/2018 21:25

Friend has been good friend during our uni days. We’ve loosely kept in touch over the years, but different career choices, interests, distance and children have pushed us in different directions.

She messages me out out of the blue to ask about staying a weekend with us. We live in an area popular with tourists.

I’m feeling a bit put out, as don’t fancy hosting, but we had no concrete plans and thought it would be a nice catch up.

Anyway she stays we have dinner out one night. She’s spends a day visiting a popular attraction and we have a nice evening in with a selection of nibbles, pizza, cheese and wine etc. Uneventful, pleasant weekend I feel.

Now i’ve just been browsing FB and looked on her page to see if she’d posted any pictures. To find she’d written quite a lengthy post about her stay. I don’t want to copy and paste, but basically it’s along the lines of, ‘had an okay weekend with Biscusting, staying at her place. Found the breakfast underwhelming and conversation with her DH a bit dry.
The sleigh bed in the guest room was too high and I bumped on the wooden edge so often I have a bruise. The room was too small.’.....the WiFi speed was poor at best’

She goes on to critique the decor and waffles on a lot about the tourist attraction she visited. Then ends the post with ‘all in all i’d give her two stars’

Wtaf is this!? Has she mistaken FB for trip advisor and my home for a hotel!?

We don’t have many shared friends, but people have liked her bloody post. 13 people!

Now the thing is she talked about coming back at the end of July for an exhibition and we made relatively firm plans about her return.

AIBU to tell her to jog on?

OP posts:
NWQM · 09/06/2018 22:06

Did she do anything to thank-you for the visit? Just so unbelievably rude. Sitting here quite stunned for you.

FrogsSpawnofSanta · 09/06/2018 22:07

I'd reply

I can only assume from your lack of manners in posting this that you have mistaken my home for an air b n b or a hotel. I am sorry your stay didn't live up to your expectations, therefore I will not be inflicting my breakfast, bed or dh's conversation on you again.

Aeroflotgirl · 09/06/2018 22:07

I would tell her to feck off, cheeky Bint she can stay in a hotel if it's that bad. I woukd make a comment on her post saying, thanks for the assassination of my hospitality, some friend you are!

Sparklesocks · 09/06/2018 22:08

She isn’t your friend.

Definitely don’t have her back, the cow can fork out for a hotel if she’s such a princess.

Rainbunny · 09/06/2018 22:10

Don't post in her comments -she can delete your comment. I'd take a pic of her post and share it to FB with a strong opinion of the event! She can't delete your pic & post!

Gemini69 · 09/06/2018 22:10

Socially Awkward my arse...

she's a stuck up sneering judgmental patronising social media hungry Monster .. who literally CRAVES the attention the FB Posts provide her...

she's NASTY OP Flowers

BlackAmericanoNoSugar · 09/06/2018 22:11

Post back in the same way - might be humorous, might not.

"On behalf of the management I'm sorry to hear that your stay wasn't up to the standard that you expected. I feel that the staff have let you down, DH in particular has been soundly flogged and demoted to shed-dweller until has learned some amusing anecdotes. We feel that the kitchen was probably not adequate to providing a good standard of breakfast, so it has been ripped out pending the installation of a better quality, industrial kitchen. We have also chopped up the bed that caused you injury and it will be replaced with a padded version. Unfortunately the upgrades will not be completed by the time of your next booking, so we have cancelled that on your behalf and would be happy to suggest four or five star establishments on request, I'm sure one of them would suit you better."

Grin
BasilFaulty · 09/06/2018 22:11

Oh my god I'm sorry but I was open mouthed at this!!
I'm so sorry OP. She doesn't sound like a friend.

Maelstrop · 09/06/2018 22:12

Maybe she was aiming for humour, but it’s fallen flat, she comes across as seriously rude.

puglife15 · 09/06/2018 22:12

I would have thought this was a joke if a mate of mine had done it but reading what you say about her I think she's serious Shock

I'd just message her saying "Just saw your "review" of your stay here on Facebook..."

And see what she replies.

BrazzleDazzleDay · 09/06/2018 22:14

If it was a friend of mine I think I'd have to presume it was tongue in cheek. But saying that, im very much act first think later so by this point we would either be on the phone killing ourselves laughing or I'd have had a very public calling out

CocoAndTheChocolates · 09/06/2018 22:14

You can write on your page and select individuals that you want to exclude from seeing it

Lonelynessie · 09/06/2018 22:15

The brass neck of some people 😲Cheeky cow.

DesertSky · 09/06/2018 22:15

What a weirdo!

Maybe it’s a new craze to invite yourself to stay somewhere and publically review it? Hmm

Caribou58 · 09/06/2018 22:15

Okki Said:

Depends how you want to make her feel. If you put a sarky rude comment you're not going to look like you're a cut above her. I'd go for something like 'That's really hurtful and in bad taste. We welcomed you into our home and I thought we'd had a good time. If you regret asking to stay next month you could have just cancelled - which you now have.'

What's that saying - they go low, you go high.

THIS.

NotARegularPenguin · 09/06/2018 22:16

If you reply to her review your friends won’t see it, only her friends.

Lorddenning1 · 09/06/2018 22:16

U have to comment OP or there is no point putting it on MN Grin

Stinkywink · 09/06/2018 22:16

Yro

Sidge · 09/06/2018 22:17

Bloody hellfire. How rude.

I’d post something under her post like “I’m not sure if you’re trying be funny but I’m actually really hurt by this post. If you were aiming for a humorous Trip Advisor-style review it fell a long way short. I think it’s best if you don’t stay here again in July, as we planned, as no doubt our hospitality would just become a butt of your jokes”.

Stinkywink · 09/06/2018 22:17



CookPassBabtridge · 09/06/2018 22:17

Yes I would take the high road too, but definitely say something. Call her out on it.

GinandGingerBeer · 09/06/2018 22:18

No way! ShockShockShock
Has she lost her mind? Confused
Who does that? Publicly on FB!

HolyMountain · 09/06/2018 22:19

'That's really hurtful and in bad taste. We welcomed you into our home and I thought we'd had a good time. If you regret asking to stay next month you could have just cancelled - which you now have.'

I agree with this message ^.

Misericord · 09/06/2018 22:22

Have you replied? Wondering if it was some kind of bizarre joke...

MadMags · 09/06/2018 22:22

Now the thing is she talked about coming back at the end of July for an exhibition and we made relatively firm plans about her return.

Say: what an odd way to cancel July's visit. Hope wherever you end up staying is up to your standards.