To think my hubby should not discuss our sex life with his colleagues?

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Just that really. For the record we have a good sex life and non of the 'comments' were bad in nature but I still feel they were far to explicit/private to share etc....

I've already had 'issues' with this colleague, he's not the best 'role model' but I've stuck with it as I know my hubby likes him and my job entails looking out for people such as this however it's getting beyond the joke now IMO and my DH is very easing led astray

So am I BU?

I feel awful now, I don't want to bring him across as a bad DH because he's not. He has his faults but so do we all. I think the PP who mentioned male insecurity due to family members may be onto something there (don't want to say to much as it could out me).

Thank you for all of your concerns though, it's good to know I wasn't being out of order for feeling as annoyed as I did. He has since apologised so hopefully it won't happen again

WhyTF are you feeling awful? 'Bringing hubby across in a bad light' - he's shown himself to BE in a bad light, hasn't he!

The issue is that this friend is a twat. It's what your husband has done to date and what he does now that's the issue, not the friend (he's a secondary problem).

Error 1: being so immature, thoughtless and disloyal as to share intimate sex act information with this friend whom he knows is a twat having no regard for you, himself, or the potential of said friend sharing that information with others. What was he doing, showing off, trying to score points because he's got a wife who's 'up for it'? Whatever the answer to those questions is, it's unacceptable and he needs pulling up by the short and curlies for having done it. What an utterly disrespectful and childish thing to have done - how old is he, 12?

Error 2: Will be if he fails to a. realise what an utter twunt he's been (I sincerely hope his apologies has been arrived at with a massive dose of reality check and understanding of how utterly wrong it was and he will be massively on the back foot if in fact he ever does it again. He needs to grow up and tell his 'friend' to fuck off.

Fwiw I don't think you're husband sounds horrible and if you say he's lovely, then I believe you. Yes he made a mistake with what he said to this bloke. Obviously some people think discussing stuff like this amongst friends is ok and everyone has their own boundaries which is totally fine. He's acknowledged he fucked up and apologised and I doubt he will do it again.

Fwiw I don't think you're husband sounds horrible and if you say he's lovely, then I believe you.

I think if you think a man who tells his workmate that his wife gives him tit wanks and then laughs when the same workmate mocks her for it 'doesn't sound horrible' then I really don't want to meet the men that you do think are horrible.

I agree Margaret.

Sorry to say, but I'm glad I don't have an "amazing" husband like that. I think it's quite common for some men to talk like that with their friends. My husband has some friends that like to tell everything that they got up to with their wives, they think my husband is boring because he doesn't join in.

I did some work experience a few years ago for our local recycling/waste company. Apparently it was a 'real laugh' to head back home after being on the bin lorry, shag your wife before having a wash then come back to base and tell all and sundry she was 'bin dicked'!

Even the women thought it was a real laugh.

I can see how OP's husband may well have shared more than intended in circumstances because of this. She is not mothering him, patronising him or whatever has been said. Maybe all of those with the grown up perfect DHs just don't know what's said to colleagues in the assumption it will never get back to you.

Marriedwith.... no, I don't discuss our sex life in front of my friends hmm

Funnily enough where I have an open friendship and an understanding dh I'm probably in the minority who understands why you forgave your dh and why you feel bad about how he is being judged in your post.

Don't post in aibu unless you are prepared for the backlash. If I posted every time my dh pissed me off I'd have been told to ltb and him to ltbitch.