And would you allow them to work for you after this?
Speaking to someone (male) today regarding some works they have been engaged to do at my home. I'm not a delicate flower. I have done a job for many years requiring me to deal with all manner of people and I consider I know how to talk to others and conduct myself.
So, conversation kicks off with him asking if I'm available on a particular date. Then launching into a spiel about how he needs to come and check a schedule of works (that he did!) is right. Which makes no sense, but ok...
Then he snaps at me 'so are you sorting out X task or what? - YOU need to get that sorted'
This is something his firm were meant to be arranging for me, getting samples for me to pick from. I remind him of this and he says it's not possible to get samples (blatant lie) 'so YOU'LL need to sort it yourself right? It's down to you - IF you want the job done'
I politely express surprise and say that's not what I was led to believe or my experience. 'Oh REALLY?...so what's YOUR experience then?' sarky tone.
At this point I said I didn't feel the conversation was very helpful and that we should both speak to the company who engaged him/ his company. After commenting that I obviously wasn't going to tell him my experience was I?(sneery tone) we ended the call.
I later spoke with someone at the other company. Their response was to tell me oh his manners just a bit abrupt.
To me this went a long way beyond abrupt and was outright rude. I really don't want his company doing the work. But if I don't use them I've been told it will be a 4-6 week wait to get someone else in! So I'm over a barrel really and now have no confidence in his firm to do the job to a decent standard.
I'm also annoyed that anyone considers it acceptable to talk like that. It's like when people use the 'oh they just say it how it is' which 9 times out of 10 is just an excuse for complete rudeness.
I highly doubt he would have spoken to a man like that either. So AIBU?