So I’m not a mum or mum to be but felt like this was the best place to get advice...
Sorry it’s a long one
I’m 24 have been dating a guy (27) We met on Bumble. He asked me out first after a few days chatting on the app. We went for drinks. We had a great time, had loads in common and talked about a huge variety of things. We slept together that night (no judgement please) and it was a bit of a typical drunken thing but still good and we had a laugh too. He dropped me home in the morning. He didn’t text me so I decided I would, just saying thanks for the lift (this was the evening of the same day he had dropped me home) and that I had a good time. He replied and in a nutshell said he had a good time too and it’d be nice to see me again. We had a couple days texting back and forth talking about general stuff, then it stopped for a day and the next day he text me asking if I’d had a good weekend and what I’d been up to. and then he asked me if I wanted to go for some food during the week, I said yes so we went for a casual dinner and some drinks. Back to mine where we then decided to go to the pub near mine, walked through the park with my dog and had a drink at the pub. Went back to mine and slept together, we were tipsy but not drunk like last time, it was really really good, he stayed the night and I dropped him home in the morning. He kissed me goodbye. After that I decided I’d let him text me first. He didn’t... do a few days later on Sunday evening I think, I text him saying good weekend? Because I’m pathetic and didn’t want that to be it.. He replied the next day, saying he did and asked about mine blah blah. I said in a light hearted way you need to up your texting game!! He then didn’t reply and I sent another text while a little tipsy saying not get all serious after 2 dates because I’m not but I do like you and thought we were having fun but from the hours/days you take to reply I guess you don’t feel the same? And I said I like honesty I’m not about games or guesswork. He replied saying I know I need to up my texting game, I like you and we are having fun. Then changed the subject to something about our last date. Then we had a few texts back and forth again about standard stuff. I went away for a weekend and text him when I got back asking how his weekend was and suggested going for drinks as I owed him some (my card wouldn’t work when I tried to get a round in las ttime) He was keen and we decided on a place and time.
So this recent date (2 days ago) was so good. We were sober to start obviously and getting on really well as we have before, good conversations, easy relaxed, we got a bit drunk and decided to get some dinner to sober up as neither of us had eaten. He paid for it and paid for more drinks than me despite me owing him a few. We were having a really nice time, he got me to play pool so it’s not like he was rushing me back to sleep with him. After that we sat and talked about the weirdness of dating apps etc. Then we decided to go back to his, discussed what we’d do as he had work in the morning and he said he’d drop me home in the morning again. We put a film on and got into bed but obviously didn’t really watch the film. The sex was really good, seems to get better every time. We just had such a nice night together, talking, spooning
, it sounds cringe but it just felt so natural and good. We weren’t super drunk either
We were sober the next morning and it still felt natural and no awkwardness. He dropped me home and kissed me goodbye. I said you can text me this time in a very light hearted jokey way as we’d talking about how bad he was at texting the night before. He laughed and said ok. Kissed me goodbye. I actually thought he would text. But 2 days later and he hasn’t????? I just don’t get it.
He’s said he likes me, he’s paid for food and drinks for me, he’s been on 3 dates and we’ve had pretty great sex. I know a lot of people will think that because I’ve slept with him on each date he’s just using me for that. But it’s not like I’m s booty call and he’s calling me up every time he goes out and getting me over. We have nice dates, either food or drink or both, and then even when we go back and have sex we talk and laugh and have a good time. My head is soooo confused. The first 2 dates I was ok with it, thinking I don’t know him that well, I like him but as I don’t know him wel who knows, was happy just seeing what happened. After the last date I feel like I really like him. And when we’re togrther he seems to feel the same. But why isn’t he texting me? Every other guy (2 ha) I’ve been with have been really open about how much the liked me and I didn’t really like it (I don’t think I liked them that much) but with him it’s all I want!!
Please help!