About kids stil 'playing out' at this time?

[VelvetSpoon]

My neighbours kids (ages 2-10) are outside screaming shouting and generally making a racket. They've been out there since I got home at 6. If I'm lucky they might go in around 8. Though at weekends it's not uncommon for them to be out even later.

I cannot relax with the windows open as the noise they make is deafening. I've got the tv volume up high because at a normal volume I can't hear them.

AIBU to think primary age (and younger) kids should be indoors by now?! I know mine would have been. And as a child I was only allowed out until 6ish then it was indoors for dinner and bath. Am I hopelessly out of touch or are my neighbours a pita? (The parents sit indoors the whole time with the door shut btw- so they don't have to suffer the noise! and usually only come out to call the kids in at 8).

Winter comes far to quickly so its nice to see the kids out playing. My neighbours kids were outside making a huge noise but i just ignore it as there having fun.

Galach I tell you what, buy my house and see how you enjoy it.

Personally I find incessant screaming and shrieking, shouting loud enough you can be heard 30ft away irritating. Those of you who don't think you would be annoyed by it must either be deaf, liars or have the patience of saints. I have been at soft plays where there was less noise than these kids generate.

It's not just the noise though is it, you want them to be in by 6 that's what you said in your OP. Lots of schools are still on holidays so they are probably making the most of it till they go back to school next week.
I live near a school so I know about noise, there are also playing fields behind my house that get used by sports clubs. But I imagine on most days for you it finishes at 8pm at the latest, which in all honesty isn't that late.
If you really have a problem with it then speak to the neighbour, I'd probably be a little bit more understanding and less preachy than you have been on this thread though.

Have you ever actually asked them to be quiet, maybe they don’t realise how much noise they make

Where did this horrible expression 'playing out' come from? Surely it is 'playing outside'?

Where did this horrible expression 'playing out' come from? Surely it is 'playing outside'?

1859 ?

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I imagine someone shortened playing outside to playing out. Hardly confusing though is it.....

Sorry, I think you sound miserable. Every street has one resident like you!

Kids playing outside at 8pm on a sunny, warm evening. What piss-taking bastards your neighbours are OP!

Thank the lord the street is safe enough for children to play ouside and have fun with their friends, also think about the children with disabilities who cannot ever run around so yes YABU

YANBU.

I don't think a lot of people realise the amount of sleep a Primary aged child needs. The children in my street are often out screaming playing until at least 10pm on a school night. No consideration for others with younger children who go to bed at 7ish.

It's no wonder some of my class are struggling with energy if they are out playing late when they should be asleep.

If DS10 didn't go to sleep at 8:30, he'd be horrific.

Why ask if you are BU when you clearly think you're not. I get it that these threads get to be places to rant and let off steam but FFS OP don't post in AIBU and then get shorty when people say you are being unreasonable.

Love these threads.

These threads are always a hoot.

Firstly the people who don't bother to read the OP who clearly states she doesn't mind children playing out.

Then there's the "oh better outside than inside on an X-box" brigade as if they're the only two possible options.

The fact is if you live in close proximity of other people it is the decent thing to be considerate and mindful that you don't impact your neighbours more than is necessary.

So children playing outside? Perfectly reasonable. Children making general children noise? Perfectly reasonable.

Children screaming outside, bashing balls against OP's fence and generally making her living situation untenable isn't. I'm surprised more people can't see the difference.

You could be living next to my neighbours OP. It grinds me down. They really do scream and screech and shout, I'm sure if I'd acted like that when I was their age I'd have been told off. I've seen them taking running kicks at our fence. As well as loudly remarking "Look, safariboot's on the toilet" . (Even through the frosted bathroom window they can still see). I can't think straight when they're making that racket, and when I'm trying to work from home it's intolerable.

And yet it would be totally unreasonable to object. They're children playing, that's what children do. We've no grounds to stop them. The law's quite clear, children playing cannot be considered a statutory noise nuisance. (Well, except for the fence kicking business, but I can't prove it was them because the fence was decrepit anyway.)

All we can do is try and adapt. I moved my PC and TV to a different room, that helped, though it won't do you much good if the brats are out on all sides. I seem to spend nearly all my life with headphones on now.

You should go out and wave your broom stick at them and scare them away

For older children it's not too late to be out, however I think parents should be considerate of others and moderate the amount of noise they make.

For example, in the summer the family opposite me let their kids run about and play in street to around 9pm, shouting and squealing while playing as kids do; that's fine. BUT, when you've got a baby you're trying to settle and get to sleep but can't because the neighbours kids are screaming in the street, it is very, very annoying.

When my LO is old enough to play/make as much noise as possible with other kids in the street she can, but not past a certain time where it impacts on others. I think it's just selfish otherwise.

I think all the bingo numbers have been ticked on here.

"Oh there's nothing nicer than the sound of children out playing"

"Oh, isn't it far better than them being stuck indoors on screens"

"Why shouldn't children be out playing on a lovely Summer's evening".

All of them missing the point that the OP is making. There is a massive difference between children out happily playing on a Summer's night, and children out screaming and arguing and banging balls against the fence for hours on end. It is the latter that is bothering the OP and you can't blame her.

OP YANBU.

Oh, and some of the comments on here have been extremely nasty and spiteful - and are coming from posters obviously dying to demonstrate how lovely and tolerant they are.

I’m with OP, only read 1st page, but... the sound of children playing nicely is just lovely, the sound of kids causing havoc and parents oblivious to how this affects others is at the very least bad manners and selfish, we love kids playing even late at night but there are limits to what is acceptable and screaming, fighting, banging balls on neighbours walls is not happy kid play it’s actually obnoxious, more so on the part of the parents ignoring it, clearly they’re thinking they’re having a few moments of peace and quiet at the expense of everyone else.

Kids having fun playing is a nice sound. Kids screaming and falling out isn't.
I feel your pain. We had neighbours who's kids played football ALL the time...lots of shouting and excitement but it was tolerable because they played nicely together. When they had friends over the dynamics changed and there was falling out and whiny kids....that did my head in.
There's not much you can do but try and ignore it...or move into the middle of no where with no neighbours.
Btw turning your tv up to full volume is a bit excessive.....surely that must be disturbing your neighbours.

The noise of neighbours children is just noises of life surely? Do you get similarly annoyed by people using lawnmowers, or chainsaws, or hedge trimmers, or doing DIY and banging about? Or is it just children who annoy you? I'm just thinking of the sounds that have emerged over the sunny weather in my neighbourhood. I expect you made a noise when you were a kid, and make other noises that other people may find annoying e.g. your loud TV. None of us go through life without having some sort of impact on someone else, but usually people live and let live.

All of them missing the point that the OP is making

OP should have got that point across properly then. The original AIBU was in regards to children playing out at that time to which most people have said yes she is BU. It’s not unreasonable for them to be out and also no one else’s business about what time they go in or to bed.

It is however unreasonable to be making the noise and causing the hassle that they were making which is a different matter altogether, and likely the point the OP was trying to make. So in relation to that part of your posts YANBU and your neighbours are a pita.

I would rather have the noise of kids (playing not too loudly) than the drunks and druggies, who use the green next to our old house. Kids noise usually winds down, but the drunks etc get louder and start fighting as the night goes on. Plus the ice cream truck that used to park 2 foot away from our front door with chimes and engine going at 8pm. Kids noise my kids can sleep thro, other noise no.

This thread is the epitome of why British children are obese and why children should be seen and not heard.

Children make noise, they scream play ball games, generally just being noisy playing children.

Yabu

**that should say mind set of “children should be seen not heard”