About kids stil 'playing out' at this time?

[VelvetSpoon]

My neighbours kids (ages 2-10) are outside screaming shouting and generally making a racket. They've been out there since I got home at 6. If I'm lucky they might go in around 8. Though at weekends it's not uncommon for them to be out even later.

I cannot relax with the windows open as the noise they make is deafening. I've got the tv volume up high because at a normal volume I can't hear them.

AIBU to think primary age (and younger) kids should be indoors by now?! I know mine would have been. And as a child I was only allowed out until 6ish then it was indoors for dinner and bath. Am I hopelessly out of touch or are my neighbours a pita? (The parents sit indoors the whole time with the door shut btw- so they don't have to suffer the noise! and usually only come out to call the kids in at 8).

YANBU, there are primary aged children like that near my house. They spend their time running around the streets shouting and screaming and repeatedly kicking their ball against fences. Can be out up until around 10pm as well.

Having raised 2 perfectly normal boys and indeed having been a child myself the volume next door is not normal. Maybe for a school playground? But I don't live next door to a school. And no school has a full playground at 8pm.

Do you really think I should have to keep all my windows shut just to be able to hear my tv or music? Or have to have the volume up full?

Have you discussed it with their parents?

Next door's are out on their noisy as fuck trampoline, yelling and swearing at each other.

I would dearly love to remove that trampoline.

I think its great that they're outside playing and having fun. Better than stuck inside on an X-Box. Children are loud when they're playing.

You're being grouchy and unreasonable.

I don’t think it’s unreasonable as such for kids to be out playing and being noisy. 9pm might be too late for my liking.

I am surprised though at that time on a school night. Did has been in bed since 7.30 and she’s not an early riser.

Why have you changed what you're annoyed about?
Your AIBU was

AIBU to think primary age (and younger) kids should be indoors by now?!
Not about the noise they are making which you are clearly exagerating to get people to agree with you. There is not 6 kids stood outside your hosue continuously screaming from 8 in the morning to 8 at night, there just isnt.

I don't see why the choice is outside annoying neighbours or inside on an iPad. They could be playing a game, drawing, reading, doing something with their parents. Anything but outside annoying other people!

If you read my posts I've said several times it's not about them having to be in bed or asleep by a certain time. My children never had formal bedtimes. Keep them up til whenever. Just not making a racket outside.

My 5yo and 2o have just come in. How the heck do you get them to go to bed so early when it’s hot and bright outside still? Summer evenings are for playing in the garden, stop being such a grouch. If it was loud music I’d understand, but the sound of kids playing is hardly offensive.

I feel for you

Tbh people thought we were OTT keeping ours quiet ten years ago

It's a nightmare the amount of noise some allow.

I have just read some more posts and slightly change my answer.

If my kids were out being little shits noisy. Then I would be getting them in or at least telling them to shut up.

General kids playing out at this time I've no issue with but if they are being as you describe I'd either be telling them to shush or speaking to their parents

OP you'll get slayed for this post but I'm with you. I have two little children who need 12 hours sleep and so are in bed from 7pm, there are currently neighbours children outside screaming and yelling, and my direct neighbour will probably light up his rusty noisey lawnmower in a out 10 mins. I don't agree that children should be outside playing late on a school night when it has been proven time and time again that young school age children need a lot of sleep.
Summer hols are different, but we're not there yet.
It is for this reason we are planning to build out in the country where our noisiest neighbours will be cows. Summertime really stresses me out for this reason.

If you read your OP you will see it was (originally untill no one agrred with you) about them having to be in by a certain time.
AIBU to think primary age (and younger) kids should be indoors by now?!
And you kids did have pretty formal bedtimes if they were always in by quarter to 8 in the summer.

You sound very miserable and grumpy

YABU.
8pm is really quite early. If you don't want to hear neighbours in their garden you will have to shut your windows. It's part and parcel of urban living.

My 3yo DS came in at 7.30. He's not super tired yet because he had a nap earlier, so he's having a cuddle with his dad and watching cricket on the telly. I think 7.30 is plenty late enough for a 3yo.

It's perfectly clear from my OP that im annoyed by the amount of noise they're making. If they were playing quietly outside I wouldn't even know about it.

And who on earth are you to tell me that I'm exaggerating? I can assure you it's true. Perhaps you just have more considerate neighbours?

Unfortunately I can't discuss it with the neighbours as they don't speak to me. Just send me passive aggressive notes telling me to fix my fence (the day after it fell down - it was fixed 3 days later) despite their own fence on the other side now having been down for 5 months. They've also made it clear I am not to speak to their children including telling them not to climb on my fence, use my driveway as a play area etc.

YANBU. Not a problem for them to be out but making loud noises at this time is antisocial. If they're too young to keep the noise down they should come in earlier.

If you want peace and quiet surely a residential street is not the best place to choose to live. By its nature there will be noise - whether its kids, noisy garden equipment, other peoples conversations/music etc during warm summer evenings. Its part of living in a community. If you find it makes you grumpy maybe its you that needs to make a change because other people are not going to suddenly start being quiet at 7 or 8 pm

Yabu to expect them to be inside. Yanbu to expect them not to be continually screeching. However I think the very fact you think kids should be inside from 6 is telling about how tolerant you may be of noise and how you might be presenting that to us.

My seven year old is still up, currently watching her brothers football match, other kids in the street will still be out playing. Unless my kids were really GENUINELY making an unreasonable amount of noise I’d be shaking my head at a neighbour wanting them in before 8!

Call the fun police and report kids playing out on a summer evening

The sound if children playing is hardly "deafening", yes YABU. If you had a young baby you were trying to get to sleep I would have some sympathy, but you are just being a grump. Children make noise, its just what they do.

My children didn't play outside as we didn't get back from their CM until 6.30 or later. We'd then have dinner, spend time together, baths, watch a film or read and they would fall asleep as and when. Children not being outside doesn't mean they have a bedtime or are being put to bed at X. It just means they're not outside. Hope that clears it up

Yabu sorry its still lovely and warm here and no where near sun going down. I love the sound of kids squealing and laughing in summer evenings.

YABU, it's not late.