I don't think OP is a GF. I don't agree with what she's saying, but I think it's a subject that's worth discussing. I have found her responses to be thoughtful and sympathetic
However this consideration hasn't been shown by many other posters on this thread.
Let's just review some of the comments made (comments from others in bold) shall we:
And if that causes someone to get mentally ill then they should definitely not be having children.
If someones mental health is so precarious then surely that's another reason not to have IVF and bring a child into the mix.
Anyone who's got any mental health issues - no children for you!!
Children are expensive so if you can afford a chid you can afford ivf.
I don't really agree with IVF at all
If you really want children you will find a way to have them
If a couple badly want a child then they would find the means to fund it. If they weren't prepared to do that then obviously the want for a child wasn't that great in the first place.
I believe that’s children are a privilege not a right
If the NHS pays for people who can't have a baby naturally they how long will it be before the NHS has to pay to allow men to have babies. Its essentially a life style treatment
It's a lifestyle choice not essential.
Children are a non essential lifestyle choice, but if you conceive your children naturally it's totally OK to use:
NHS maternity provision
State education
Child benefit and tax credits
There are hundreds of posts on MN every week defending child tax credits, saying that it shouldn't be only the rich who can have children. Posters on low incomes post that they can't afford childcare, new clothes for the kids - all sorts of challenges that come with difficult financial situations.
But can't conceive naturally? Children are a lifestyle choice. If you wanted them enough, you'd be able to afford them.
There's too many people on the planet.
What a total waste of time and money when there are so many children needing adoption.
There is no medical requirement to have a child. We're not underpopulated. You could adopt or foster. Nobody NEEDS a child.
There are so many children in need of homes waiting to be adopted, and the world is over populated already - but if YOUR reproductive organs work OK, then you get a pass, you can carry on populating the world and you can have a birth child instead of providing a home for a child in foster care, and get your maternity care on the NHS.
Is infertility a health care issue? No one dies of infertility
Infertility is not an illness
With alcoholics, obese people and drug addicts, you are treating the medical problem that theirs lifestyle choice has caused. Not having a child in itself is not a medical problem although the cause is
The WHO has defined infertility as a disease, but don't let that bother you. Best our NHS money goes on people with completely self-induced healthcare issues relating to smoking and obesity than on treating those people who through no fault of their own were born with faulty reproductive organs
however ivf doesn’t actually cure infertility the person is still infertile
It's OK to treat COPD and diabetes with medications even though they don't CURE the condition (that might be lifestyle related if you're obese or a smoker). But if your reproductive organs don't work, through no fault of your own, then no treatment for you!
And let's not forget
I worry about the long term implications. Ivf after cancer treatment etc is OK, but for conditions such as poor sperm mobility, what if that is passed on to the next generation? Are we breeding infertility issues that would naturally be curtailed if infertile people didn't have children artificially?
If all else fails, why don't we infertiles just DIE OUT, and save all the bother, don't risk passing our barren genes on. Natural selection, let the defective ones die out.