Tell me what you think...
I am friends with a group - we were a mothers group put together a few years ago. It has taken me a long while to see this, but the seemingly sweet as pie mum is actually a mean girl underneath and Im finding i harder and harder to be around her. I wouldnt bother, only I like the other mums.
Increasingly I have realised things that she does...
Tries to create a little sub gang where she invites another mum back to her house after an event and tells you though youre not invited. Trying to make me feel excluded.
Taking over all events as if they are hers. I organised a group outing recently and she took it over like it was hers.
Always taking the helm organising everything and not letting anyone else have a thought - things like group trips or more recently a group present. All the ideas I put forward were poo pooed, she just told us what we were spending and what on for our friends birthday. Everyone else says great, I say why dont we have a vote and I somehow end up looking like the bad one as I have an opinion.
Same goes for group trips. She tells us where we are going, for how long and what is costs. I said on one trip the length of stay would not work and it was like it or lump it. No consideration.
I went on a trip with her friends who I did no know. She just raced to the biggest room, not including me and I was left to share a room with a couple of her friends which by the way were grogeous and I had an amazing trip. It was on this trip I realised how mean she was. It was out of the usual context of our group. She expected us all to wait while she shopped at certain shops, but then when I asked to go back to one place she said Ive already been there, dont want to go again. The country was one where it was not safe to travel alone . One of the other girls said she would come with me in the end which was very kind.
She makes fun of me in front of others and tries to make people thing she is very down to earth when she is trying very hard to be a person from the same country as her husband as it is seen more highly than her country. She thinks she is more cultured and worldly ,/
Ugh. Anyway I dont know if I'm describing it very well but frankly the behaviour is very school girl and ive had enough. It does not make e feel good.
Latest is her asking to use my regular babysitter on one occasion or so I thought, then booking her for more occasions at events we were both going to. When I brought this up with her, as she had got in before me to book the babysitter, she just said you snooze, you lose and then went on to tell me how great this babysitter is. Ah yes, I know!! I told her off on this occasion but she is just cunning about everything. The babysitter has been the straw that has broken the camels back so to speak as she really got into my business with this one and did not seem to care what she did to me, even after bringing it up on a couple of ocassions.
Problem is no one else sees it - they think she is sweet as pie.
Why am I the only one to see it? I think she knows what she is doing but then with the whole taking over and organising things has seemingly no idea of others feelings?
Does anyone know anyone like this? How do you handle them? I am just keeping my distance, but have to have a bit of interaction due to group things.
Help!!!!