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To have let DS have the Chinese?

86 replies

VeddersSirens · 03/06/2018 00:03

DH has been drinking wife beater all night so is generally a bit of a cunt, picking arguments, being sarcastic, heavy sighing etc

Any last night DS2 (17) stayed out at a friend's all night. We ordered takeaway, his half was still in the fridge today.

Tonight he's come home, had tonight's tea (BBQ, although not much of it) and then asked if he could have the Chinese from last night. It was his anyway so I said yes.

DH now has a face on over it, saying it's a piss take, I'm ridiculous to let him, "what a fucking carry on" etc etc ... it was his anyway!!! WIBU or is DH just being a cuntish drunken arsehole as usual?

OP posts:
MadameJosephine · 03/06/2018 00:16

If this is genuinely your usual Saturday night I’d throw the twat out. I wouldn’t have that kind of behaviour in my home, particularly around my DC

User467 · 03/06/2018 00:17

I'm confused by what the issue was. Did your DH want it? Did he not think your son should have asked you? Is he annoyed he stayed out? I

kaytee87 · 03/06/2018 00:18

I'll ask again, why are you with this man?

ElderflowerWaterIsDelish · 03/06/2018 00:18

Why is your husband acting like that?..surely he had some of the Chinese takeaway when it came?...why is he begrudging your son his own share?

Why do you call it wife beater? (Does he drink it and get violent?)

Also if he was so bothered about having Chinese takeaway when your son took his own share why didn't he just order another?...

I know he's your husband but in this case I'd ha e to say, put your son first

ElderflowerWaterIsDelish · 03/06/2018 00:19

*have

PickAChew · 03/06/2018 00:20

You're being unreasonable to have D before the H. Don't blame the beer for him being an arsehole.

AnnieAnoniMouser · 03/06/2018 00:24

He’s the same twattish bastard he was when you last posted about him. If you can’t leave him for yourself, then leave him for your DS who deserves better than being forced to live with this bastard.

NerrSnerr · 03/06/2018 00:27

DH just being a cuntish drunken arsehole as usual?

If he is usually a cultish, drunken arsehole why are you with him?

You can see why your 17 year old chose to stay at friends. He shouldn't have to ask for his own food.

Do you have more children? Is it best for them to have this carry on?

snewname · 03/06/2018 00:28

Surely it was his third then, or if it was his half, why didn't dh get any last night? In which case I can understand dh wanting a share of it.

Sparklesocks · 03/06/2018 00:29

Your Dp sounds awful op. Enjoying a few beers at the weekend doesn’t mean you get to act like a prick without consequence.

RedDwarves · 03/06/2018 00:30

Great of you to put your son in this situation. It's not even his father, ffs.

BitOutOfPractice · 03/06/2018 00:31

What are you asking op?

It's not about DS and the Chinese is it?
If you're asking "is my DH an arsehole?" Tufnell yes, I can answer that. Yes he is.

Eliza9917 · 03/06/2018 00:31

Put your kids first and ltb.

Elspeth12345 · 03/06/2018 00:46

You poor thing, he sounds awful.

Of course it was ok for your son to eat the take-away that you had saved for him and of course your DH (dickish husband) was wrong for being angry about it.

I'm guessing he's not the kind of person who's open to a discussion about his drinking habits/problem?!

supersop60 · 03/06/2018 00:50

usual Saturday night unfortunately
That's very sad. Your DS will no doubt be leaving home, and every Saturday night for the rest of your life will be like this.

blueshoes · 03/06/2018 00:55

'the Chinese'. Do you mean 'the Chinese takeaway'?

Pinkprincess1978 · 03/06/2018 00:55

I don't get that it was his take away? He wasn't in to order or eat the game of so was just left overs. My 10 yr old get very upset if I left anyone east his left over pizza - and that his his pizza that he has partially eaten. If I had been looking forward to some left overs all day I would be s but annoyed if someone else ate it. But how I expressed that annoyance and if I could have done anything about it (ie, do you mind DS eating left over take away) would be my character..

SleepingStandingUp · 03/06/2018 00:57

Op said she bought it then he called to say he was staying out so it was what she'd bought for him

chinesechicken · 03/06/2018 02:55

My step dad used to expect me to ask for permission to eat things out of the fridge when I was a teenager, and used to make me knock on the front door of my own home . I left when I was 17 and thank god the cunt is gone now. Never forgiven my mum for subjecting me to his shit.

9amTrain · 03/06/2018 02:57

Tell your husband to fuck off.

And why do people call it wife beater? Seems a bit sick...

HappenedForAReisling · 03/06/2018 03:22

the Chinese'. Do you mean 'the Chinese takeaway'?

I'm so glad you clarified that for us. pedant fail

9amTrain · 03/06/2018 03:39

@blueshoes No, obviously she meant the Chinese President.

DianaT1969 · 03/06/2018 03:39

My step dad used to expect me to ask for permission to eat things out of the fridge when I was a teenager, and used to make me knock on the front door of my own home . I left when I was 17 and thank god the cunt is gone now. Never forgiven my mum for subjecting me to his shit.

OP - instead of starting MN threads, pack his bags and start being a protective mum. It might be too late to save your son. You've be minimising this. What will your son say about you in 10 years' time?

EmiliaAirheart · 03/06/2018 03:43

VeddersSirens, your husband sounds like an utter waste of space as both as a husband and a step-parent. You sound like a nice person, but you're also failing your son as a parent. You're forcing him to be around a drunken asshole, and you're too spineless to stand up to such bullying and cunt-ish behaviour. No wonder your son wanted to get out of the house, if this is a typical night at home. How long til he leaves for good and rarely comes back? Will he forgive you one day for setting the bar so low for his step-parent?

PyongyangKipperbang · 03/06/2018 03:43

Usual Saturday night unfortunately

How many years have you put your poor son through this shit rather than dump the abusive prick you are married to?