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AIBU?

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To hate FaceTime

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Tabathatwitchett · 01/06/2018 21:04

I know I'm a bit of a Luddite and I don't much go for technology but I'm wondering if I'm the only one who hates FaceTime. I hate the invasion into my privacy- the fact that one minute I'm sat on the sofa chilling and the next, I've effectively got unannounced visitors.

If you FaceTime me I won't answer unless you have warned me in advance. However my dh ALWAYS answers and proceeds to point the bloody thing at me/us. In the past this has included the kids getting ready for the bath, me wearing my pjs at the end of a long day.

I have told him repeatedly to fuck off stop doing this but he doesn't get it at all.
Mumsnetters- tell me I'm not being unreasonable in wanting to flushing his fucking phone down the loo if he does it again....

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SluttyButty · 01/06/2018 23:05

I HATE FT with a passion. My grandson does it so I engage because it's him but I still hate being caught unawares.

Bluntness100 · 01/06/2018 23:07

Have you posted the same thread recently op? Someone posted the exact same thing in thr last few weeks,,,

notsusan · 01/06/2018 23:22

fucking facetime can absolutely do one. awful app of hellfire.

once got forced to say hello to my FIL when I'd only just opened my eyes, still in bed. cringing even now.

my dh travels a lot for work and loves facetime - I just hand the phone to my nearly 3yo now, she's quite good at hanging up

CheshireChat · 01/06/2018 23:32

pyramidbutterflyfish you're thinking something really formal here. In reality, it's generally a quick text asking if I can go on in 10 minutes. It also helps that I try and make sure I can actually focus on the conversation at that time, rather than be running around doing chores and wrangling the feral child DS.

Verdad · 02/06/2018 01:06

Such a sad post. You have to schedule calls with your own parents?

Don't be so ridiculous. We always text or ring our parents to arrange to FaceTime - nothing sad about it, everyone appreciates a little notice. Otherwise it can be an intrusion.

lottiegarbanzo · 02/06/2018 01:15

I think it's great.

But, the issue here is your DH thinking he has to 'get' your reaction for it to be real. He doesn't. He just has to believe you.

alphajuliet123 · 02/06/2018 01:21

I had to double check the OP's name as I thought I had written it and forgotten. Same. Hate it. Disabled it on my phone, and, while I see the benefits, it's now by appointment only

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Tabathatwitchett · 02/06/2018 02:37

Have you posted the same thread recently op? Someone posted the exact same thing in thr last few weeks,,,

No. I'm obviously in good company in my hatred!

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MrsJonesAndMe · 02/06/2018 06:03

I speak to my mum twice a week (phone) and we always agree a time beforehand - otherwise they might be mid dinner or we might be mid bed time. Doesn't make us weird - just sensible.

Donthugmeimscared · 02/06/2018 06:21

I love getting phone calls/texts/visitors but can't cope with video calling (have an android so no ft) I'm really self conscious and shy and even with people I know I just can't deal with seeing myself talking so I never answer those calls. My dd drives me mad as she is constantly on ft and I seem to have 4 uninvited guests round most of the time. She doesn't seem to get that it's intrusive. Especially when I walk into the kitchen first thing to find a split screen of her hates staring at me.

I know this is a problem with me has I also won't be in videos or photos.

AmayaBuzzbee · 02/06/2018 06:48

Yanbu, I hate this too (and my DH does the talking/pointing).

I don’t mind him talking to his family whenever he wants, just don’t involve me in it! I don’t need to se them or wave hello. Of course this always happens when I have changed into comfy slobby clothes, pjs and taken make up off. All of his family are always immaculately dressed/presented-till the moment they go to bed. I am mot, and just want to relax! Invasion of privacy is exactly what it feels like.

Bluelonerose · 02/06/2018 06:55

Ah yes every fucking morning from 7am Dd has FaceTime on.

The ONLY good thing is at least it proves Im not the only mom who loses her shit in the morning judging by somethings I've heard

GrumpyOldMare · 02/06/2018 07:11

Is facetime like skype? Never heard of it till now! But then I'm antisocial anyway.

MrsJonesAndMe · 02/06/2018 07:15

It's the apple (iphone/ipad) version of Skype Grumpy.

GrumpyOldMare · 02/06/2018 08:18

Thanks MrsJones. That's why I've not heard of it....strictly Android here.

notsusan · 14/10/2019 10:28

100% with you. Hate it

MinusFamily · 03/05/2020 18:42

100% behind you OP. Currently fallen out with my 20 year old daughter as she walks around the house on FT going room to room. Complete invasion of privacy, makes me feel really nervous! She now isn't talking to me and thinks I'm completely wrong!

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