To hate FaceTime

[Tabathatwitchett]

I know I'm a bit of a Luddite and I don't much go for technology but I'm wondering if I'm the only one who hates FaceTime. I hate the invasion into my privacy- the fact that one minute I'm sat on the sofa chilling and the next, I've effectively got unannounced visitors.

If you FaceTime me I won't answer unless you have warned me in advance. However my dh ALWAYS answers and proceeds to point the bloody thing at me/us. In the past this has included the kids getting ready for the bath, me wearing my pjs at the end of a long day.

I have told him repeatedly to fuck off stop doing this but he doesn't get it at all.
Mumsnetters- tell me I'm not being unreasonable in wanting to flushing his fucking phone down the loo if he does it again....

What's insular about not wanting to be a grainy unflattering image on someone's screen with no warning?

FaceTime is worse than a knock at the door though. You knock, I can quickly tidy my hair before I open it. When your dh is pointing a phone in your face with visitors you didn't know you had looking it you it's a bit, invasive...

It feels invasive and I'm not keen and neither are my children when the phone is thrust into their faces.

I've just deleted the app on his phone
I really hope this is a joke, Tabatha. If not it’s hugely inappropriate and controlling.

I really hope this is a joke, Tabatha. If not it’s hugely inappropriate and controlling

Laughing at this. We've been together for 26 years. Honestly he will not see this as "controlling" in the least.

cardi I thought it was you having a joke

Harriet I assume it’s someone you know? Friend or family? Someone who has met you and ‘nows What you look like?
Takeout don’t thrust it in their faces then. That isn’t necessary for them to use it.

Not in the evening when I'm looking all slobby, during the day, no problem.

Yeah, so? I'm a bit of an introvert and like my privacy. Is that a crime now?

Harriet what joke?
Tabatha You dont think it’s wrong to delete an app from another adult’s phone?

cardi....might I suggest.. a little lie down and maybe some quiet contemplation as to how we are all quite different?

@cardibach Perfectly happy to meet people in person or chat on the phone just really don’t appreciate the intrusion and invasion of my personal space when I am in on the sofa in my pjs.

Harriet no, it’s not. I don’t really see the connection between that and using FaceTime in normal circumstances.

I hate it too. Even talking to my DH when he's working away, I just feel self-conscious and like we're both on the verge of giggles.

It's weird.

It's an app cardi, not a life source. He can always reinstall it.

And actually no, his family don't usually see me slobber out in my pjs as I usually reserve that for when I think I'm not entertaining guests.

I don’t like Facetiming too.

I love FaceTime! My son and his wife live several hours away and they FaceTime us most days. But I love my DIL and we get on really well. 😉

Harriet or maybe you could do that? In the real world, I know nobody who hates people dropping in or phoning them. People actually like their friends and at least some of their family and enjoy seeing and speaking to them. However much MN might convince you otherwise, shutting everybody out is unusual behaviour.

Then you're clearly not an introvert, and think differently, and don't mind technology that can boom someone's face into yours without warning, so it's pointless trying to explain really.

Back so don’t answer it. Text them and tell them it’s not a convenient time. Call them back later. Although I wouldn’t mind this - I like my friends and family and they mostly know how I look 8n my pjs and accept that my house isn’t pristine.

'In the real world'. Your world, then, cardi? How arrogant.

I like my friends. They're not like you though! Joy.

I love it...only have it on the ipad though.
My cousin usually visits our nonna on Saturday afternoons so I facetime her so she can get nonna to see DS (her great grandson)

Or me and mum both have ours on when we are doing the washing up kitchen so we can chat without using our hands to hold our phones.

Harriet how is it without warning? It rings. Don’t answer. If someone else does and you can’t trust them to leave you out of it,leave the room or ask them to.
Tabatha there’s the difference. I d9nt c9nsider close friends and family ‘guests’ to be ‘entertained’ even when they are her (and they don’t me when I visit). We just get on being ourselves. There will be more effort over food and more activities for fun, but slobb8ng and pjs still figure.

My mum's abroad and even we tell each other when we'll facetime (well, WhatsApp video). She's occasionally called me without warning and heck yeah it feels intrusive, even if I'm 100% sure she wouldn't judge the state of me or my house.

Also, I used to hate my in-laws just dropping in as they're judgemental arseholes, I'd probably would've grown to accept it if they were decent human beings.

Totally agree! I rarely get FaceTime calls, but would hate them unannounced. I don't even like people phoning me without texting first though!