To hate FaceTime

[Tabathatwitchett]

I know I'm a bit of a Luddite and I don't much go for technology but I'm wondering if I'm the only one who hates FaceTime. I hate the invasion into my privacy- the fact that one minute I'm sat on the sofa chilling and the next, I've effectively got unannounced visitors.

If you FaceTime me I won't answer unless you have warned me in advance. However my dh ALWAYS answers and proceeds to point the bloody thing at me/us. In the past this has included the kids getting ready for the bath, me wearing my pjs at the end of a long day.

I have told him repeatedly to fuck off stop doing this but he doesn't get it at all.
Mumsnetters- tell me I'm not being unreasonable in wanting to flushing his fucking phone down the loo if he does it again....

You're very lucky then cardi. Unfortunately not everyone's families work like that.

cardi why such a chip? Are you missing your friends and family or something?

Harriet it’s fairly clear that ‘the real world’ in this sense means ‘off mumsnet’. Not just my friends. People I know. People I work with. General opinion elsewhere.

Also, I don't k ow how old you are, but assuming you're an adult, it's really quite astounding that you haven't come around to the concept about families/people being different, and not everyone's dynamic works the sane as your own

I give up. I think it’s strange people want people to text them before visiting. Now Violet wants a text before a phone call. And no, Harriet I’m not missing my friends and family as they are welcome to visit or phone or FaceTime whenever - and they do.
I’m going to leave you all to this now.

No helping some people see things another way is there bye cardi!

YABU. Today I FaceTimed my DD who is 5000 miles away and who won’t be back in the UK til Sept. My DF who is a true Luddite was delighted that he could see her and speak to her and was amazed that it was free.

My mum lives in Brisbane so we FaceTime once or twice a week with the kids

I stopped Whatsapp message notifications on DHs phone because his sister sends millions of pictures through at 11pm most nights and it was waking me up, whereas he was sleeping through as he is a heavy sleeper. Hes useless with technology so hasn't reinstated it. I do not feel guilty.

He also thinks I cant install facetime because I have an android phone. I havent corrected him on that score. I bloody hate it, the tinny sound is much worse than a normal phone call and gives me a headache. I leave the room when DH is doing facetime so I cant be ambushed.

I manage to keep very good contact with my family by just using the phone and email.

Cardi happy to accept that I'm odd! I just don't like phone calls. Everyone's different

I love FaceTime as way to stay in touch and for children to see grandparents etc when they live far away.
Just ignore it if it bothers you or disable it from your phone!

I do ignore it and I don't have it on my phone. As my OP says, my issue is when dh answers and points it at me/us without any advanced warning.

I get the benefits to long distance grandparents but hope you text first...

Gah! Hate it because whenever I use it I seem to grow extra chins, wrinkles and grey hairs.

cardi, seriously, do you not get that some of us are incredibly private people who might not want to be/speak with people all that often? I’m like that, and my behaviour is most certainly not strange, but I think you are very odd and rude to imply that it might be.

Also, I love the fact I can see my mum and that my son knows what she looks and sounds like. Doesn't mean I like unexpected calls, especially from people that are more interested in the pots in the sink than having a conversation...

It is not facetime that is the problem here but your 'D'H! He needs to be more respectful of your privacy!

I love it. My DD has provided me with 2 beautiful Granddaughters, who I would love to spend loads of time with, or at least see every day. Well, I get to see them in the flesh once a week, usually for a good chunk of the day. Then on all the other weekdays, I get to be facetimed by the two year old, who loves nothing better than to put on the werewolf filter and 'scare ganny'. Weekends, well I get mostly ignored, because her DH is home. That's fine, as my DP is home as is my DS, who goes to school.

Devils invention 🤬

Your dh is the issue
I have thus switched off on my phone, he will go to anither room if using it as he knows I hate it.

I only like it with people that I feel comfortable talking to no matter what state me or the kids or the house is in. So pretty much just my sister and brother and sometimes my parents. I absolutely hate anyone who forces you in their conversation by shoving the phone in your face when you're not prepared. Dh is notorious for just leaving everyone hanging while he goes to the toilet or cigarette or tops up his drink. He expects me to entertain whoever he's talking to at the time. So now I always keep out when he's facetiming anyone.

YANBU in the context you describe...and DH should respect your wishes

I totally agree that he's in the wrong and have told him so very clearly

Bloody hate it

I simply NEVER pick up a FaceTime call, EVER

I bloody loathe FaceTime. DH and I were talking to the DC over it, as they're with the ILs this week. I'm just getting over the flu and looked fucking awful, so what does MIL do? Screenshots us mid convo and posts the image on fucking Facebook.

I love speaking to my children when they are at exh's house in holidays, and for my parents to see the girls but def not receiving random calls

“My mum's abroad and even we tell each other when we'll facetime (well, WhatsApp video). She's occasionally called me without warning and heck yeah it feels intrusive,”

Such a sad post. You have to schedule calls with your own parents?