To think it takes the piss when wealthy people say this?

[FeeseAndChickle]

I follow a few insta-mums who are clearly very well off financially mainly due to their husband or partner having a very good job, a successful business or family money.

They all regularly post photos of their new clothes, nice handbags, holidays and decor of their lovely big houses.

However I have noticed lately that a couple have done posts along the lines of 'I am not posting pics of my house/holidays/clothes to show off, completely the opposite really. I am just so happy that we finally have the house of our dreams/amazing holidays/designer bags and have to pinch myself. It just goes to show that anyone can have what we have, you just have to go out there, work hard and get it!'

AIBU to think that saying 'you just have to work hard and go and get it' royally takes the piss? I'm sure 99% of people 'work hard' at their jobs and won't in a million years be able to afford some of the things these people have? And it's not as simple as 'going and getting it'.

AIBU to think these types of insta-mums are just saying it to justify more bragging photos of all of their stuff?

This is madness. I confess to having no idea what instmums is - if you don't know these people why do you give a fuck about what they have or don't have? I assume no-one is forcing you to follow these nobodies so stop following them or whatever it is you do.

I genuinely don’t understand why anyone would be impressed by a fool spending thousands on a handbag but then I only follow cats, dogs and a miniature pony on Instagram!

That's the comment that implies a criticism of SAHM. Not the OP.

If you read the fucking OP it would help.

very well off financially mainly due to their husband or partner having a very good job, a successful business or family money.

They have husbands with very good jobs, husbands with a successful business or husbands with family money.

They are flaunting that money and talking about working hard themselves for it.

WTAF has any of this got to do with SAHMs?

Nothing except in your head.

It's disingenuous to say sahm don't make a meaningful contribution to the earnings of their partners, high earners or not. People who work unsociable shifts or who travel abroad/work long irregular hours and who rely on their dp to cover their share of childcare etc couldn't do their work unless they had help. Not everyone (even quite high earners) can afford nannies (and the assoc costs) or live in places where childcare is available at short notice or outside office hours. British working culture doesn't lend itself to easy family life.

It really irritates me when SAHMs take credit for how much their partner earns. Like their hoovering skills are taken into account in his annual review.

This is quite anti sahm and is deliberately disingenuous. It's not about 'hoovering skills', it's about all the other support they are giving to enable him to work and have a family life.

When I remarked on a friends nice house and she was lucky, she said she and her h had worked hard for it. I just thought loads of people work hard but you need luck as well.

Do these women actually work themselves or are the married to Bankers and Head Teachers ect and living off their husbands success.

I think that you can succeed in life by working hard but there is a difference.

People do work hard at there jobs, that’s fine there is no denying that. But you will never get rich working for someone else.

You need to work hard for yourself and take risks accept occasional failures and move on.

"Anyone in the public sector probably works the hardest."

What rot.

Do these women actually work themselves or are the married to Bankers and Head Teachers ect and living off their husbands success.

I love the idea that bankers and head teachers are society's two, totally equivalent, most highly paid groups.

I also don't understand why you follow wealthy people Because you like looking at photos of their stuff then complain they are bragging. Seems a bit fucked up to me.

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If you read the fucking OP it would help

WTAF has any of this got to do with SAHMs?

Oh stop shouting and swearing for goodness sake. Completely unnecessary.

Read carefully. I have already said that there is nothing in the OP about SAHMs. It was YOUR comment that alluded to it.

This one, if that helps to jog your memory about your own POV,

I’d be embarrassed to display nice things which I only had due to my partner’s work. They’re living off someone else. It’s nothing to be proud of

I don't understand why anyone would follow them. Why look at all these apparently "beautiful" homes if you can't afford them? Many of them are done to get gullible followers who want to spend money and emulate them (hence the sponsorship) or they are just attention seekers going "look at me".

Their partner probably did work hard, but he was obviously given the opportunity to work hard in a well paid job. If you have a min wage job you could work 100 hours a week and still bring home less than £40k after tax.

I do think SAHMs are half of a team and would never resent money they had in a joint account, but I do confess to feeling secretly superior to some of the women who judged me when i was a new single mother. Some of them pitied me, advised me (that was painful, and ludicrous) gave me second hand stuff i hadnt asked for, excluded me socially, pigeon-holed me. You get the picture. Now I am working with my own house and I feel l8ke I have shown i can run a household. They are part of a team and i get that role, i do, but i would roll my eyes and laugh at a sahm posting trite platitudes about hard work and success all over instagram/facebook.luckily i dont see that though!!

Op u should listen to what alain de botton says about so called meritocracy on you tube

Come on, surely we can have this discussion without slagging off SAHMs? This behaviour would be just as obnoxious if the women themselves were the breadwinners.

I don't have a problem with SAHMs. What I have a problem with are women (never seen a man do this) who stand their talking about how they don't have to go to work because their husband earns so much and spends their time going out for lunch, for spa days and so on whilst their children are at private school. If they have all that and just chat normally to their friends about it then fine but if they stand their loudly talking about it 'performance parenting style' oblivious to how they are making people who are less fortunate feel.

All I can suggest is that you stop following these “new money” people.

I have a Facebook and an Instagram account, I would never dream of posting something I have bought, such as a hand bag or a new piece of jewellery.

I believe that people who do those kind of things are lacking self esteem.

It just goes to show that anyone can have what we have, you just have to go out there, work hard and get it!'

If hard work was all it took, every woman in most of Africa and India would be loaded.

... and I don't think "wealthy people" is an accurate description; I think 'chavs with money' is more apt .

... and I don't think "wealthy people" is an accurate description; I think 'chavs with money' is more apt

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