To think it takes the piss when wealthy people say this?

[FeeseAndChickle]

I follow a few insta-mums who are clearly very well off financially mainly due to their husband or partner having a very good job, a successful business or family money.

They all regularly post photos of their new clothes, nice handbags, holidays and decor of their lovely big houses.

However I have noticed lately that a couple have done posts along the lines of 'I am not posting pics of my house/holidays/clothes to show off, completely the opposite really. I am just so happy that we finally have the house of our dreams/amazing holidays/designer bags and have to pinch myself. It just goes to show that anyone can have what we have, you just have to go out there, work hard and get it!'

AIBU to think that saying 'you just have to work hard and go and get it' royally takes the piss? I'm sure 99% of people 'work hard' at their jobs and won't in a million years be able to afford some of the things these people have? And it's not as simple as 'going and getting it'.

AIBU to think these types of insta-mums are just saying it to justify more bragging photos of all of their stuff?

I don't understand things like this. Why follow people you don't like / agree with?!

Hmmmm... maybe you should waste a bit less time following crap on Instagram and more time working to improve your lot in life?

Just saying...

I don't follow anyone on Instagram.

It's all fake and and most things have been sent by company's. My new bag = received this morning in the post with a note saying please show this on your account.

OP - whilst I am sure they’d like to believe it, the statement is in definitely incorrect. It’s all good and well to tell people that you just need to set your mind on something and work hard at it (blah blah blah) but this is not possible nor will it work for everyone (or indeed most people even).
It’s more a “don’t judge me, I worked hard for this life” statement imho so that people don’t get snarky

Following mindless twits who wouldn't piss on me if I were on fire and aren't clued up on real life seems pointless. Unfollow

This ^^

I couldn't care less about handbags and shiny stuff. An acquaintance is constantly posting pics of 'lunchtime fizz' or 'cheeky mimosa' with a Prada/Gucci/Chanel bag in the background, the logo ALWAYS placed 'just so.' She wears a Rolex, so there's always an oh-so-casual glimpse of that as well.

I've not idea who it's for. Strangers? People from a former life? God knows. They could be perfectly nice people, who are caught up in the pout/preen/polish showing off of instagram, and might wake up to themselves at some point.

I follow three people who I find uplifting, thought-provoking and genuinely interesting. The others I couldn't care less about!

Christ.

I’d be embarrassed to display nice things which I only had due to my partner’s work.

Point it out to them, OP. They’re living off someone else. It’s nothing to be proud of.

You see it on MN, too. People say things like ‘we earn £xxx’ when they mean their partner does. For some reason some people see landing a high earning partner as meaning that they themselves are now wealthy.

It’s just pathetic.

That sort of statement is just there to ease their conscience and send two messages

• 1 I’m not committing the only sin of showing off

2- i haven’t just been born into money so I’m not one of those people who had everything handed out to them on a plate.

Re working hard or it being down to HER hard work.....

My parents are wealthy or rather they have become wealthy. It was done through hard work, taking risks, making sacrifices and yes also down to luck (such as being well educated).
It also has been down to living a life that most people would describe nowdays as sad. Saving money first and foremost and living a very frugal life.
My dad has been the one who was having the very successful business. However he would never have managed wo my mum support.
So imo, her role in their success is just as much down to his hard workmThan to hers.

yes, women with little part time jobs paying pin money, four children, $$$$ houses who are ladies who lunch and specialise in being smug. They can fuck right off.

They’re living off someone else. It’s nothing to be proud of

These are SAHM's, is that right OP?

Come on, surely we can have this discussion without slagging off SAHMs? This behaviour would be just as obnoxious if the women themselves were the breadwinners.

Come on, surely we can have this discussion without slagging off SAHMs?

Quite. It was only a matter of time.

Thing is, hard work alone isn’t enough. It’s hard work, good luck and support ideally.

I got pregnant with my son just before I was due to start a teacher training course, I had to postpone it. At the same time, my OH needed to do his masters which we couldn’t pay for. He’s an architect and without his masters he couldn’t basically complete his training...so we did work our arses off. OH got a second job, I started doing my teacher training with a little baby. BUT, I have two healthy, retired grandparents who were my childcare so that I could go and study, without worrying about my son or paying fees. My dad bought us a car so my OH could drive to university. I got a student loan and a bursary which, by budgeting extremely tightly we managed to use to also make up the short fall in my OH masters qualification.

Even now, we bought a house after getting a sizeable deposit off my mum and dad, as well as living with them rent free for 7 months to save. My grandparents are still our main form of childcare for our youngest son.

So yeah, for three years straight my OH and I worked 15 hours a day, 7 days a week whilst huddling a baby, studying and commuting. But we had so much support at home that we were able to do it. As hard as we worked, without that support, we wouldn’t be now buying our first house, both secure in our careers with a very good income.

Social media is all full of smug bollocks anyway.

I know someone who spends more time on perfecting her social media presence than actually on her life, and she doesn’t even have any type of following.

Social media is all full of smug bollocks anyway.

This. Instagram is designed almost entirely as a means to brag about your material wealth.

yeah, whew, I work full time, but the level of woman on woman misogyny here is eye watering. The instagram queens sadly probably do earn fair money from advertising - some of those designer handbags will be freebies to entice their flock.

Don't be a sheep, but also, dumping any woman looking after her kids primarily as someone who doesn't have the right to any nice things and who should basically be ashamed is a leap!

I knew there was a reason I have never learnt how to use Instagram, I don't need any more of my precious energy stolen from vain and vacuous people.

I'm much more of a right move stalker. Now that's great fun.

Stop wasting your life following them and read books instead!

I think it’s a little bit from column A and a little bit from column B.

There are genuinely people who have worked hard and made the right choices and the right time and it’s paid off for them. For those people I would never begrudge them their successes and every credit to them!

Then there are others who seem to get rich from the hard work of other people. They tend to be a bit more annoying.

I would not say I was rich far from it. But have made the right moves in life and my partner and I are not on the breadline, however on mat leave at the minute so that will be interesting!

If it upsets you I would say don’t follow those people, sometimes it can be a curiosity thing though, but I also would say that people don’t put their real life on social media. You would not get one of these people taking a picture of themselves looking like hell because their perfect husband had kept them awake all night with his snoring and flatulence. So I would just take it with a pinch of salt! X

Oh how I would laugh when the Inland Revenue get interested in how they afford all that shite when their OH's business is 'loss making' according to the tax returns :).

It's on a par with people who moan about being stressed and needing a holiday ..who don't work and have paid help and luxurious lifestyle...of course I'm jealous of their amazing privilege but don't fucking moan to me that you need a break...rant over

Come on, surely we can have this discussion without slagging off SAHMs?

Nothing to do with SAHMs!

They might well be working for all we know.

Read the OP - there’s no mention of whether they work or not.

If you follow these people you are giving legitimacy to their opinions

This, AND you are giving them the opportunity to increase their unearned wealth as they will be offered free stuff due to all their followers!

ShellyBoobs, you're right. There's nothing in the OP about SAHM. It was you who posted this, however:

They’re living off someone else. It’s nothing to be proud of

That's the comment that implies a criticism of SAHM. Not the OP.

Now you've posted:

They might well be working for all we know

In which case, they wouldn't be 'living off someone else', would they?

I rather suspect that in truth, 'they' all have rather different sets of financial circumstances.