to think that people say weird things when you are pregnant?

[EmmaPomma]

17+3 and so far this pregnancy have been told:

• your body is going to suck afterwards
• oh you're having a boy, they're not as cute as girls but still nice
• general horror stories about childbirth that I would rather not hear

Not really an AIBU but has anyone else experienced such odd comments before?

Yikes! I’ve had two babies and never had anything like the above.

What wanker said this to you? It really isn’t usual ime.

Oh except the birth stories. I did get those. I think a lot of women feel compelled to talk about childbirth for a while after they’ve done it. A bit insensitive to go on at you when you’re pregnant though.

@FatherMackenzie so it's just me then

The horror stories don't really scare me but I don't like hearing them as I want to go in to my birth not worrying about all the possibilities of what could go wrong! I kinda think what will be will be... the amount of unsolicited comments I've had from a number of problem (thankfully not close friends) has been pretty high however!

@FatherMackenzie oh they were said by two people (both colleagues, both female and mothers)

I'm pregnant with DC3. I have two DS's. The comments I have had are ridiculous:

'Are you hoping for a girl?'

'Was it planned?'

'Oh no what about middle child syndrome?'

'Oh you're pregnant? I thought you'd probably be barren at your age'. I was 35.

@NakedMum33and3rd so it's NOT just me then!

was it planned 

@iklboo jeeez, someone said that to you? At 35 as well? Pretty normal age to have kids these days I thought!

*'was it planned' (that was meant to read)

They can fuck off iklboo. I had my youngest 2 at 40 and 44.

yabu people like that make weird comments to everyone! x

Yeah FIL's wife. DH was not too happy and told her she was being ridiculous.

Well done your DH.

Oh all the time when I was. ‘Bet you’re glad it’s a boy’ ‘you’re not very big’ ‘good luck with birth you’ll need it’ etc etc. Think people just make conversation but don’t think!

@Amanduh I've had 'bet you're sad it's not a girl' - really strange!

Yep,

"Are you sure it's not twins?" "God you're big" followed by "gosh you're tiny" from someone else 15mins later - JUST MAKE YOUR MIND UP!

"Boobs are never the same after"
"Was it planned followed by How long have you been trying for?"

I'm sorry someone said that to you about boys. I've just had my second boy and they're both awesome. Very cute (Imho) and sooo loving! Congratulations!

Oh yes I had the “are you sure it isn’t twins” a few times. I was huuuuuge though.

I found that a "Bollocks to the Poll Tax" t-shirt helped. People stopped commenting on the bump and started commenting on that instead. 😂

Someone told me all about every medical problem that they knew of someone having. If someone does that, tell them to stop. I was too surprised and was just upset later thinking about all the sad stories.
Mostly the inane comments are just people grasping for some small talk and pregnancy is an obvious choice. Mostly it's probably well meant and they cringe afterwards!

When I announced I was having a second girl, loads of people said to me "oh your DP must be so disappointed"!
With my first it was all "Was it planned?" which shocked me as I would never ask anybody that unless we were very very close and this was random customers at work!

“You’re definitely having a boy, because your arse is bigger as well as your bump”

Not just rude but also wrong, as DD’s arrival demonstrated.

Same. "Looks like ur having twins". Telling me about emergency c sections. Asking why I would even consider breastfeeding as it is apparently "embarrassing". Asking if I'll go bk to work, what my childcare options were. TELLING me that I HAVE to get rid of my dogs.

I've had the eating for two comment today because I kicked the pudding off the bottom of the spoon when feeding my 17 month old. She was wearing a white t shirt and I wanted to try and keep her a bit clean, as we were in PIL's house. Fuck off, FIL!

I am guilty of the oversharing about birth stories Am going to start sharing with the people who make comments now. Telling them about having my fanny stitched back together in graphic detail will probably make them go away faster, no?

Licked, not kicked.

Currently 23+4 and already have a DS

I’ve had comments like ‘I bet your hoping for a girl’ and ‘wouldn’t a girl be lovely to complete your family’

Actually no! I would LOVE another boy!

The day DD2 was born, I was lumbering around the town, deliberately disobeying the midwife who, two days before, had told to me to lie on my left side in a darkened room with no sound, no book - just lie there. I was extremely pissed off, so decided to go out and enjoy the spring sunshine. I couldn't walk as fast as DD1, who was 4 at the time. I met a neighbour, who looked at me and said 'You're colossal!' She then clapped her hand over her mouth and apologised, but it was perfectly true! My waters broke about 2 hours later and the baby was born that night. Mind you, if it had been a stranger who said that to me, I might have given birth in a police cell!