to think that people say weird things when you are pregnant?

[EmmaPomma]

17+3 and so far this pregnancy have been told:

• your body is going to suck afterwards
• oh you're having a boy, they're not as cute as girls but still nice
• general horror stories about childbirth that I would rather not hear

Not really an AIBU but has anyone else experienced such odd comments before?

Standing waiting for my 4yo DD for come out of school 8 months pregnant, another mum comes and speaks to me
Her: (no hello, hi, alright) are you having twins?
Me: No, just the one
Her: you are fucking massive

Never even spoken to her before! So rude! She isn't a small lady herself and I'd never dream of mentioning her size!

People seem to think you're public property when pregnant

This is so true

Congratulations on your pregnancy! Yup, had the "wow, you're huge" and loads of things about what I won't be able to do when the baby was born. That I should cut off my (long) hair as weirdly I won't have any time to wash it . I also found the constant question of whether I'd be breast feeding really intrusive and weird.

Ladyplasters I had this! My response was to the (plump, but obviously not pg offender) was "when is yours due?"

"Are you sure it's not twins?" "God you're big" followed by "gosh you're tiny" from someone else 15mins later - JUST MAKE YOUR MIND UP!

^^ SO many times I had that! One minute I was huge, the next I had a "neat little bump" perception is everything.

A guy once asked me if it was twins (I was 6 months) and I said no. He raised his eyebrows so I mentioned the many scans I had already been to. He simply shook his head and replied "they make mistakes you know" like he was qualified to know this

I had was it planned from a couple of people too and was a bit taken aback!

My DH has had absolutely loads of people say 'well done' to him and he finds that really weird. He has been responding with 'thanks, I've been practising for years' (!)

mummy2one fellow twin mum here. I had my 2in a single pram lying back to back, someone looked in and said "omg there's 2of them in there!"
Quick as a flash I replied "omg really! Where did the other one come from?" Idiot.

I’m 11 weeks and only four of my friends know (I didn’t want to tell anyone yet but all have guessed because of my sudden lack of alcohol) and all have shared awful birth stories! It’s like a compulsion. The worst story (three day saga involving a blood transfusion) ended with my friend saying after a pause: but that is really rare.

She was obviously mentally unwell. Why would you dwell on it after finding the information to be untrue? Let it go. You’re pregnant. That’s a good thing. Just let these things go.

I’ve come to the conclusion that the “are you having twins?” question is deliberately meant to be rude because without exception every single person who asked it looked incredibly disappointed when I said “yes, it is twins”.

If you say you are having twins pretty much everyone asks “was it IVF”. I developed a variety of ways of deflecting the question as I didn’t think it was anyone’s business.

One particularly rude and persistent stranger would not be put off so I asked her what position she and her DH had been in when they conceived their child.

That was a pretty effective way out of the conversation.

I’m sorry to say OP that the intrusive and impertinent questioning gets considerably worse once the baby actually arrives.

Ugh it's infuriating! I've had:
'I remember first time round when you couldn't walk with your legs together' (I was carrying a lot of fluid)
'Woah you're MUCH smaller than last time'
'You look massive today'
'Whatever you do, don't have an epidural' (from a man)
'You're not having a c section are you?!' (Like I was some too posh to push idiot)
' Why are you having a c section, was it forceps last time?' (Yes it was but I don't really want to discuss it with you male colleague)
'They seem to give out c sections willy nilly these days, would never have happened in my day'

Sick of being asked if I’m hoping for a girl this time, so we have a”complete set”. As if having another boy will somehow make our family less complete.

And complete strangers (man who came to measure up for flooring!!) if it was planned.

Had plenty of “another month? But you’re enormous!” whilst pregnant.
Now he’s been here for ten weeks and I get people I’ve never spoken to saying “you’re not feeding him yourself then”. No, clearly I give him to the ndn to feed and if you think we’re having a conversation about why I had to stop breastfeeding you can piss off!

Today, a colleague told me I must be having a girl as I have put on a lot of weight on my face and arms.