to think that people say weird things when you are pregnant?

[EmmaPomma]

17+3 and so far this pregnancy have been told:

• your body is going to suck afterwards
• oh you're having a boy, they're not as cute as girls but still nice
• general horror stories about childbirth that I would rather not hear

Not really an AIBU but has anyone else experienced such odd comments before?

I've had "are you getting notions?", when I've been trying to choose something "gooey and chocolatey" for my then DH.

Someone walked over to my twin boys in their pushchair and said "oh god it's not 2 boys is it?"

It took all my will power not to hit her!

Also, if I hear double trouble or you've got your hands full one more time I'll scream! I've started telling people now how annoying it is to say these things to twin parents and they back track so quickly, it's quite funny to watch

A colleague said to me at 30 something weeks pregnant "oh you're pregnant? I just thought you'd got fat" .

Luckily I don't have body image issues and know I'm not fat!

general horror stories about childbirth that I would rather not hear there was a thread about a week ago asking why people don't tell pregnant women whata going to happen . . .

I had these types of comments with both pregnancies, sadly it doesn’t stop after you’ve given birth. People have “interesting” comments and advice to give when they arrive, just ignore! They know not what they say!

Was it planned? Inc by my MIL...

A random colleague told me, when I was around 15 weeks, "oh that's still early, my friend lost a baby at 5 months" (!!!)

And yes, general horror stories.

I don't know why people have to make unpleasant comments.

Friend: Was it planned?
Me: Yes, it's an IVF pregnancy.
Friend: Wow, you never do things the easy way, do you!

My DS and DIL had up until a coup,e of weeks ago 3 boys under 3 , that's identical twins and their big brother. They live in quite a small rural place so folks always approach them when out and about with the boys..they have the usual 'you've got your hands full' To 'will you try for a girl? But my DS does get a little miffed when complete strangers ask 'where the twins natural or IVF? he said it's a bit like asking 'is all working properly 'down there' ( although he said it differently) one way of looking at it I suppose

sals I can see where he's coming from. That's fucking rude!

You've put on weight... No ive actually lost it from vomiting.

You are huge.... But not as big as you whats your excuse. And I'm actually not that big at all.

Was it planned. Loads of these comments. Eye roll wtf. It was as were my other two not that it's any of your business.

I'm sure I'm guilty of saying the wrong thing at times too though so I apologise if I have caused anyone any offence

Went to a family party last month and everyone who asked how i was doing practically asked me like I was hard done to and severely ill? Given it's my 5th but I'm doing great and he's very much wanted, he's not an inconvenience and it was just as much my choice to be pregnant as DHs 🙄

34+2 and had the following conversation with reception at my GP surgery yesterday:

Her “are you a first time mum?”
Me “yes”
Her “my first baby died”

Like I completely understand how fucking awful that must be but surely that’s a deeply inappropriate thing to say to a heavily pregnant woman?!?

Ooh you don't want a big baby, hope it's less than 2pounds, makes it a lot easier.

Said by a childless woman. On me replying that would mean my baby would be in nicu she said "just saying, is all" while rolling her eyes.

On the day that I announced I was pregnant with my first baby, someone at my work asked if I was going to have anymore after that - maybe let me get this one birthed first eh?!!
And I had the horror stories from left, right and bloody centre! Why do people try and terrify us? Now if I know anyone who's pregnant I don't say anything negative at all!

Expecting 2nd DD and lost count of how many times I've heard 'oh no never mind. Maybe the next one will be a boy' . When I say we're over the moon with 2 girls and no more babies for us It's like we've grown 2 heads! Argh!

Crispysausagerolls no you’re right, she should have been fanning you, feeding you grapes and telling you how wonderful you are as a heavily pregnant woman.

No...but to work as a receptionist in a GPs and randomly say your baby died is a deeply, deeply inappropriate thing to do. Obviously. It’s not like i had asked her about her children or anything; it was totally unprofessional and inappropriate. Pretty big gap between that and expecting to be waited on 🙄

"Was it planned?"

"No. Fucking gutted. That's why I told you with joy in my voice. And a smile on my face."

How gross to effectively ask about someone's sex life like that

Generally, I've been quite lucky but when I was pregnant and nearly due with my first child, we had gone out for the day at Llandudno, I was sat near the pier waiting for DH who had gone to get the car (couldn't park..ended up miles away). A lady came and sat next to me and said 'I had a baby... I threw him off the end of that pier and he died'. I looked into it later as it really bothered me, there has been no baby thrown off Llandudno pier thankfully.

So many when I was pregnant with DD
*Are you sure your not having twins (no it was all cushioning fluid)
*Im sure it’s a boy (didn’t realize you were a medical professional)
*can it hear me?....(ummm she’s sleeping but yeah I guess?)
*what color will it be? (What!?!....mums half Indian but I have no idea what rouhtthat question on)
*loody horror stories and people tellin me about ow other children have died...just please no stop.
*Peoples bad birth stories....just no!

Oh and is it planned....yes I’m having her now aren’t I.

By far the wierdest was a friend of my mums who said childbirth was one of the most ‘sexually exhilarating’ experiences of her life!

The most annoying is from s friend that already has two kids and dismisses everything I saw about being tired or worries about after the baby. She just says ‘ just wait till you have two kids then you’ll know what real challenges are like’ particularly annoying as she mosned and worried and bombarded me with her anxiety through both pregnancies. I’ve been pretty laid back!

I love and hate these threads- hate them because all of these comments are so inappropriate but love them because we can all have a good eye roll at the idiots who came out with them.

My office manager at work was by far the worst, a few of her gems were:

'You don't look pregnant, you just look like you've eaten too many puddings'

'I'll just squeeze past your bulk'

And my ultimate favourite when we had our office photos done for the new website, I was 36 weeks pregnant:

'Did they have a camera lense big enough to fit you in?'

Mind you, made it all the more satisfying when I told them I wouldn't be coming back to work after my maternity leave!

Flowerfae

Wtf is wrong with people

An American colleague loudly started asking me in the office if it was planned and how long we'd been trying. Talking about my sex life in the office is not something I'm keen on...

She's well meaning really, just very out there and very loud!

People seem to think you're public property when pregnant, just shrug it off. Or stare them down.