Softzilla, the police

[Unreasonableunreasonableness]

I can't update just now but here's the new thread. I will update later when I can.

Hope you’re ok OP. I appreciate the updates and think you are handling the whole situation very well.

Being stalked someone is a really, really unsettling experience. So much of it is low-key weirdness that escalates slowly, so it's pretty common for a victim of stalking to find that other people mostly minimize it, or suggest ignoring it, or (of course) tell the victim that s/he 'must have' done something to provoke the stalker.
So it can be comforting and reassuring for a victim to have a resource like MN where s/he can vent about what's going on, ask for advice etc. It's the type of thing that can prey on a victim's mind for a long time, so not at all unreasonable for the OP here to carry on posting about the situation.
When it was happening to me, I found MN useful because I didn't want to bore all my friends: I never felt in danger as such, but it was thoroughly unsettling, and it was another situation where things would die down for a bit then the fucker would pop up again, and the friend who was supposed to be helping me deal with things was also being... unhelpful.

So leave OP alone if you are 'bored' with the story. It's not like there's a shortage of other threads to read.

Awesome posts there random and reanimated. I've been fortunate enough to never have anything go beyond a short period of harassment and that time was bad enough. Thankfully the person who did it to me listened to the advice of mutual friends who warned them their behaviour could get them into trouble if they persisted.

I've read all the threads and have been keeping up with your updates OP.
Just popped in to agree with this in defence of some recent bitchy posts
Being stalked someone is a really, really unsettling experience. So much of it is low-key weirdness that escalates slowly, so it's pretty common for a victim of stalking to find that other people mostly minimize it, or suggest ignoring it, or (of course) tell the victim that s/he 'must have' done something to provoke the stalker.
Totally agree with this and in fact it can even start out as seeming funny - as in we can laugh about how bizarre and ridiculous the behaviour is because it seems so unbelievable at first and it can quickly take an unsettling turn which, because you've previously been a bit amused and WTF about it can feel like over reacting.
The behaviour by these people is so odd that it is actually hard as the victim to believe its happening and to NOT assume you must be reading it all wrong. Therefore you try and carry on as normal assuming the other person will also do so, then it escalates
OP if you find support here pls carry on and ignore the rude messages

This is drawn out precisely because stalking is something that so often goes on and on in RL. And no, the OP won't be getting any kind of enjoyment out of it. I've had unwanted attention before and it's downright creepy. I bet you wouldn't be saying any of those things if it was a man doing the stalking, would you, Bit? Just because it's a woman who's doing the stalking doesn't make it any less unacceptable.

And I agree that if you find this to have gone on for too long, just get lost and hide the friend, same with the other poster who agreed with you.

@BitOutOfPractice, it really is laughable when ppl claim not to be interested but carry on reading the thread and commenting on it. 🙄

Do move along dear

Morning folks.

Could we have a little bit of peace and love, please? We don't expect everyone to agree here. It is AIBU, after all. But if you've just had enough of a thread, we do think it's polite to just tootle off and leave everyone else to it. There is plenty more to look at elsewhere on the boards. It does seem a much to tell people when they should stop posting on their own threads, and it seems a bit unfair if a thread becomes a bunfight over when it is and isn't acceptable to keep posting.

Thanks!

Carpe, but someone obviously has a gun to their head and is being forced to type. And don't forget, we need others to tell us what we want to read and comment on or we'd get confused.

(Whispers) I think there is an Actual bunfight thread out on AIBU - maybe that might be worth a look for a few people?!
slinks back under my rock....shhhh

Well said MNHQ!

@YouTheCat 😂

Classy Real Classy

Odd that you criticise the person who is only responding to the poster who told her tofuck off.

I think bitchy thought she was on the bun fight thread..

@Unreasonableunreasonableness I hope that the shitty stuff here isn't getting to you and I really hope that today goes well.

Just checking in to see how you got on at group today. I hope it all went well

Just checking to see if things are ok. Just one question, do you think BitofPractice is connected to S Z .Just seems a bit strange that someone so anti pops up now

Hope today went well

I wondered that too BlueEyedBengal, I wondered if the poster was either SZ herself, someone she knows, or someone who thinks her behaviour is acceptable.

@TheMadHugger you do realise that I was told to fuck off first don't you? Perhaps you might like to address that person's "attitude" eh?

It's not "shitty" to disagree. It's just my opinion.

I can assure you I'm not SZ (@BlueEyedBengal I commented on thread 1 and have been reading on and off since) and I have no idea who she is in RL. You can check my posting history to see I have a long and prolific back catalogue on MN on a number of topics. I just happen to be just one of a number of MNers who are concerned that this particular issue has been somewhat inflamed by these threads in a way that may not be terribly helpful to OP

Actually BitOutOfPractice I didn’t tell you “to fuck off” I used the widely known MN acronym ODFOD, which hasn’t been deleted unlike one of your gems.

Get off your high horse, even HQ told you to wind your neck in (I’m paraphrasing obviously) but you must know that their comment was directed at your posts.

Oh and calling OP an attention seeker and constantly having a go at her isn’t concern. Stop trying to pretend otherwise.

Yes @SoddingUnicorns, I used the same acronym back. Yet I was the one who got told off for it. Go figure.

Have I been deleted? OK I haven't had much chance to read back (and now I have I can't remember what I said then .) I really am quite amazed at the strength of reaction to a different POV from some PPs. MNHQ also said that it's not on to tell someone when they can and cannot post - I'm guessing that applies to you telling me to DFOD too?

No, Bit, they were telling you that you can’t tell people when to end a thread.

I wasn't at all. I was expressing my opinion that the OP was not doing herself any RL favours by continuing to feed the baying calls for updates and was fanning the RL flames on the "advice" of a bit of a mob mentality here.

That's been interpreted by some (including MNHQ ) as me telling the OP to stop posting full stop. OK, maybe I didn't express myself well. And clearly I'm in a minority. But that doesn't stop it being my opinion.

Right I am off to face the Friday motorways of Britain now so I'll leave yo all to it