to refuse to drive DPs car?

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DP has a meeting in London today. He's parked at ASDA and the meeting has gone on longer than expected. He's phoned me and asked me to drive his car to a different car park so he doesn't get a ticket.

I've said no. My reasons being:
a) I drive an automatic, have only been driving for a year and don't feel comfortable reverting back to manual after so long of not driving one
b) I'm not insured on his car so could end up in trouble for driving it if I did for some reason get pulled over. I work in law enforcement and would also likely lose my job.
c) his car is falling apart and it's likely it's going to conk out any day. Imagine it breaking down and me having to explain why I'm driving it with no license.

Apparently because I've said no, it's my fault he's likely going to get a ticket.

AIBU to refuse to drive his car and think that if he gets a ticket that's his problem?

Most of my accidents, not for many years tho, touch wood have been in carparks. Not a risk I'd take.

Is your licence for automatics only?

If you’re not insured it’s a no go!

However, weirdly, you might actually pay less insurance if you're a named driver on each other's policies.

If you're not insured to drive it, you can't drive it on public roads, end of. And it's certainly not worth potentially losing your job over it.

He'll have to pay the fine if he gets one. Entirely on him.

Can't you just drive it out and then back in again. Then buy a pineapple?

@BusterTheBulldog because it puts his insurance up a whack to have someone on there who has zero no claims. Makes no sense when we have our own cars.

@A4710Rider no return for an hour so no!

To clarify a common misconception, the "driving other cars" extension, is NOT automatically included on insurance policies as a given.

It varies between insurers as to whether they offer it or not and you should always check.

He's asking you to commit a crime? WTF?

@Stinkbomb no it's not.

Lol. Please dont go and point out to Asda that your dp has done exactly what the rules are there to prevent. Using the car park to go to a meeting.
If he is unlucky they have anpr monitoring. In which case its a 50 quid ticket.
Serves him right. Presumably could have avoided it by paying to park elsewhere.

This sort of thing drives me mad, if I had his problem I’d either speak up at the meeting and say sorry my parking is about to expire I need a few minutes to sort it out or simply risk the ticket.

It would not occur to me to phone my DP to come and sort it out for me, but if my dp had this issue he would totally ask me to sort it out for him 😡 bloody men, always wanting looking after and things sorting out for them 😡😡😡

You are absolutely right not to do this for him.

You are 100% right.
You should not do it of you are not covered by insurance/ in doubt your insurance covers it.
Tell your partner I would risk your job and he is very unfair to ask.

Can he not just say to the people in the meeting "hey guys, my parking's about to run out. Mind if I go move the car?"

That seems more reasonable than asking you to move it for him.

The third party thing is usually not offered to younger drivers or newer drivers, I always seem to get it as I am old and have been driving years, no doubt as I get older I won't get it as I will be deemed a higher risk, such is insurance. Also are cars in the same household counted in this, does it go by registration document. DH and I always have each other as named drivers anyway

Its not the case policies usually always cover 3rd party on other cars. My childrens' new driver policies definitely excluded this cover and only covered the car named in their policy. My camper insurance doesn't either.

bloody men, always wanting looking after and things sorting out for them

Lilly - I know you are directing this at the OP's DP and your own DP, but please don't generalise to all men. I certainly wouldn't expect my DW to sort out a problem like this, unless it was convenient for her and I really couldn't resolve it another way. My DW often phones me at work when she has a computer problem expecting me to be able to resolve it. I don't rant about "bloody women", I just accept that it's easy for her to ask me, and I'm happy to try to help.

@DadDadDad agreed. I don't believe this issue has arisen because he is male. I also know of plenty of women who ask unreasonable things of their partners. It's more a people thing than a man/woman thing!

Surely in the time it took him to phone you he could have moved the car himself.
I have been in plenty of meetings where there were breaks because people had to top up the meter.

Forget about all the reasons you don't want to do it, you shouldn't have to do it because your DH is an adult. If he's capable of passing a driving test and holding down a job then he's able to park appropriately and sort it out himself if his bad decision has consequences. We all sometimes make mistakes or have unfortunate accidents and need to ask for help, like accidentally locking the key into the car, but this isn't a mistake or an accident and he shouldn't be expecting you to go running after him like a primary school child who has left his lunch box at home.

I personally would move it as we are a team, all our money is family money. So he wouldn’t get fined “we” would.

@Stephisaur it's not possible on this occasion. He's in a contained environment and has to go in and out if security. I'm sure they'd be fine if he asked but it'd take a fairly long time. Serves him right I guess.

YABU for even mentioning A and C, when B settles the matter! Of course you shouldn't drive it if you could lose your job for doing so!

Husband drives automatic, i test drove an automatic and no way i could do it so understand how you feel about being shoved into another transmission