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Using NDNs dropped curb

291 replies

Cleo2628 · 28/05/2018 22:38

Our NDN have a dropped curb but we do not. We’ve enquire but it will be near £1000 which we can’t afford. We moved here last June, and in some notes about the house the previous owner said that she used to neighbors dropped curb to get onto our drive, so we have done the same. Our neighbour had started doing very passive aggresics things eg. blocking my car in with his wheelie bin, parking very far back so we can barely get onto our drive, standing in his porch and watching us reverse off the drive etc. We don’t go onto his drive at all whilst using the dropped curb. I don’t want to annoy anyone but we just use the dropped curb, over the pavement and straight onto our drive. AIBU?

OP posts:
GladAllOver · 29/05/2018 16:17

It is perfectly possible for him to own the kerb
Theoretically yes, but only in relatively rare cases. If the neighbour owned the footpath outside their house, so would the OP outside hers and it would be on her deeds.

Momo27 · 29/05/2018 16:18

The OP said she contacted the council and they confirmed that the NDN doesn’t own the kerb in this particular case.

The issue is that the OP is driving over a pavement. Oh and also the NDN’s driveway, because apparently when he puts his bin at the end, it prevents her accessing her paved front garden.

And there seems no evidence that the NDN has actually complained, because the OP hasn’t spoken to him. She’s assuming he doesn’t like it because he stares at her. I suspect he’s thinking he has a crazy neighbour.

JacquesHammer · 29/05/2018 16:20

If the neighbour owned the footpath outside their house, so would the OP outside hers and it would be on her deeds

See above. That works on one side for us but not the other!

Hygge · 29/05/2018 17:47

Pengggwn - "I'm not going to sit here debating what an unknown council would or wouldn't be happy about. It isn't his kerb. He can't prevent her driving over it."

I'm not talking about her driving over it though, and you know that because you quoted me exactly. I was talking about how the kerb isn't there for the whole world to use as an access point to drive along the pavement.

And you said it was, and I said it wasn't, and eventually you also said it wasn't as well but now you don't seem that sure.

But you do know the unknown council wouldn't be happy about people using dropped kerbs to drive along the length of the pavement even if the OP did have a dropped kerb that she doesn't have and even if a car that's not there is blocking it even though it doesn't exist to be blocked.

Pengggwn · 29/05/2018 18:51

Hygge

You can go on about this all you like. He doesn't own the pavement.

UrsulaPandress · 29/05/2018 19:05

Is it ok to drive Ina pavement then?

Asking for a friend.

UrsulaPandress · 29/05/2018 19:05

On a.

Original poster
Cleo2628 · 29/05/2018 19:08

@pengggwn thank you! You & I are on the same wave length!

OP posts:
birdonawire1 · 29/05/2018 19:08

If you’d asked nicely first with a bottle of wine and cake thrown in you wouldn’t be having these problems

It’s just plain rude. It may belong to the council but they paid for it.

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 29/05/2018 19:39

The OP @pengggwn thank you! You & I are on the same wave length!
totally ignoring that every other person on thread has said that you are being unreasonable

crispysausagerolls · 29/05/2018 19:40

I really thought that OP was a man and I don’t know why

Hygge · 29/05/2018 19:54

@Pengggwn - I didn't say he did.

I said the dropped kerb wasn't there to allow people to drive along the pavement.

Then you took half my comment and tried to make out I was wrong, and you won't admit that no council in the country will put in a dropped kerb to let everyone drive down the pavement.

But you're the one person who's made the OP happy so well done.

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 29/05/2018 19:55

I don’t think the dropped kerb is the issue, it’s that you seem to be cutting across his drive to get to your own. That’s the cheeky fuckery right there.

Myimaginarycathasfleas · 29/05/2018 19:58

Oh, ignore my post, just reread your OP. But are you sure you don’t go on his drive at all when you use the dropped kerb?

sunnydaynoworking · 29/05/2018 19:59

It would cost me a thousand pounds to get a nice patio put into our back garden. Think I might go and sit on the neighbours' patio instead.

SharronNeedles · 29/05/2018 20:14

Okay okay okay, so anyone can use the dropped kerb, but to go where? You can't for left, or right, or block it... So you can only go straight ahead which is onto his property. OP is not doing this and therefore he has every right to be pissed as she could be causing damage to something he may well have to foot the bill for.

SharronNeedles · 29/05/2018 20:16

Also...do you all have massive pavements where you are?! There is no way a car could possible use our dropped kerb and access out neighbours drive without driving over the non-dropped kerb or crashing into our boundary wall and taking down my apple tree!

UrsulaPandress · 29/05/2018 20:22

The photo helped to understand

MyShinyWhiteTeeth · 29/05/2018 20:26

My grandparents had this issue with their NDN. They cut across the end of their drive when they parked their car.

My grandparents had a mini hedge and border on the boundary which they drove over. In the end they put a fence and gates up when they did the garage. The NDNs were not happy but eventually got their own dropped kerb.

I can remember how angry everyone got about it.

Hygge · 29/05/2018 20:29

"The photo helped to understand"

I can't see the photo, was it removed?

UrsulaPandress · 29/05/2018 20:29

Apparently

Hygge · 29/05/2018 20:30

Thanks. I do have trouble seeing photos on MN.

They are either not there at all or I see them double posted.

ferrier · 29/05/2018 20:31

The OP @pengggwn thank you! You & I are on the same wave length!
totally ignoring that every other person on thread has said that you are being unreasonable

Nope. I and a good few others said the NDN was the unreasonable one.

MumofBoysx2 · 29/05/2018 20:32

I would be annoyed about that. They have paid to get their kerb dropped, and you are getting the same kind of access for free. I think you should either pay for yours to be dropped or not, but definitely stop driving over theirs, either way! (unless you want to offer to pay half of their costs for dropping theirs). For what it's worth, I think it is crazy, the cost of doing this. I think every home should be able to have access to their house without going through a ridiculous system of paying so much money. After all, it does save wear and tear of parking on public roads!

MyShinyWhiteTeeth · 29/05/2018 20:35

I'm being cynical here but I imagine the OP cuts across the corner of NDN drive every time she parks her car and the picture demonstrated how likely this was.

My grandparents NDN were unable to get into their drive easily once the fence went up.