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Using NDNs dropped curb

291 replies

Cleo2628 · 28/05/2018 22:38

Our NDN have a dropped curb but we do not. We’ve enquire but it will be near £1000 which we can’t afford. We moved here last June, and in some notes about the house the previous owner said that she used to neighbors dropped curb to get onto our drive, so we have done the same. Our neighbour had started doing very passive aggresics things eg. blocking my car in with his wheelie bin, parking very far back so we can barely get onto our drive, standing in his porch and watching us reverse off the drive etc. We don’t go onto his drive at all whilst using the dropped curb. I don’t want to annoy anyone but we just use the dropped curb, over the pavement and straight onto our drive. AIBU?

OP posts:
5foot5 · 28/05/2018 22:59

Is it a busy road and could you get hold of a plank?

When I was a child my parents made a drive up to the house but they could not get permission to have the kerb dropped. Dad got hold of a thick plank which he kept in the garden near the end of the drive. Whenever we arrived home he would stop in the road and one of us would retrieve the plank and lay it in the road beside the kerb so he could get up on to the drive. Then we took it out of the road and back in the garden. Seems like a faff but we managed like that for years.

GladAllOver · 28/05/2018 23:01

Yep. It's illegal to drive on the footpath except from a dropped kerb. Using the one next door doesn't count.

AllMYSmellySocks · 28/05/2018 23:03

I mean I couldn't care less if my neighbour used my drop Kerb so I do agree he's being petty but since it's his and he obviously doesn't want you to use it I think you need to find a different solution (Park elsewhere or save up for your own drop kerb).

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Cleo2628 · 28/05/2018 23:09

Okay well when we spoke to the council the said the dropped kerb was technically their property not his. Also I’m not driving sideways across the pavement as our driveways touch side by side. I am a new driver and new to the area so didn’t want to cause any upset but honestly didn’t think I was doing anything wrong as I wasn’t going on his drive! But a lot of you think I am so I must have misunderstood what was right/wrong in this situation. Thanks for your responses

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ChampagneSocialist1 · 28/05/2018 23:10

WOW bumper CF NDN parking/dropped kerb threads tonight

SimonBridges · 28/05/2018 23:11

Did you talk to the neighbour before you did that?
It wouldn’t bother me but it might well annoy other people.

ChickenVindaloo2 · 28/05/2018 23:12

I can't get past the fact that you're driving on the pavement.
Why do you think that's ok? I hope you get caught.

And you are beyond rude to take a liberty like that without even asking your neighbour.

Believe it or not, if you can't afford something, you can't have it!

StealthNinjaMum · 28/05/2018 23:12

Op please don't leave us before you've drawn a diagram.

ChickenVindaloo2 · 28/05/2018 23:13

I think you own your neighbour an apology.

WyldDucks · 28/05/2018 23:14

If it costs £1000 then you should really stump up £500 for use of your neighbour's.

LighthouseSouth · 28/05/2018 23:15

If you don't gave a dropped kerb, you must be driving across pavement or their drive to get to yours?

Wolfiefan · 28/05/2018 23:15

So you're just driving over their driveway to get to yours? It's not your property. Stop being a CF. HTH.

ChickenVindaloo2 · 28/05/2018 23:15

Well what ARE you driving on then if you're not driving on the pavement OR on his drive?

And it's not "technically" his property, it's HIS property. Which you will damage with excessive wear and tear.

Let me guess, you were born in the mid-late 1990s?

LighthouseSouth · 28/05/2018 23:15

*have!

GladAllOver · 28/05/2018 23:16

Okay well when we spoke to the council the said the dropped kerb was technically their property not his.
Of course it's council property - it's part of the road and footpath.
If you want one you have to pay for it but it's never yours.

LivingMyBestLife · 28/05/2018 23:22

I hope this is a reverse. YABU.

ferrier · 28/05/2018 23:25

I'm not so clear cut that YABU- imo it does all depend on the exact layout. How does the dropped kerb align with your and your NDN's drives? Is it obviously theirs or could it equally serve both drives? If the latter then YANBU.

Maelstrop · 28/05/2018 23:27

You know you’re BU. He has to maintain the area for his own use. Get your own, you cf!

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Cleo2628 · 28/05/2018 23:28

Awful diagram but best I could do on my phone!

Using NDNs dropped curb
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CluedoAddict · 28/05/2018 23:30

The pavement outside the neighbours will have been reinforced to take the weight of the car. You are driving over the pavement outside your house which isn't reinforced.

AntiHop · 28/05/2018 23:31

So you have to drive across your neighbour's drive to get to yours?

RavenLG · 28/05/2018 23:32

You're a CF. Have you even spoken to him about using something he paid for? Pay to get your own or park int he street like a normal human.

Wolfiefan · 28/05/2018 23:33

You drive over their drive to access yours? CF.

LavenderDoll · 28/05/2018 23:33

Pay for your own
How can you think yanbu

Nooblynoo · 28/05/2018 23:36

Your next door neighbour has paid for their kerb to be dropped. Not the people you bought your house from. So you don't feature. You are being totally unreasonable and appear to have a sense of entitlement. You want a dropped kerb you must pay for it.