I know I'm being U to be gutted she didn't say mama?

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DH has three dcs from before our relationship, we have 1 dd together. She is 8mo. DH works long hours so she spends the majority of her time with me. I feel selfish and horrible but I'm angry she hasn't said mama first. She is constantly shouting dada. She can also say hiya and wave. I'm gutted. We won't be having any more children.
What did your dcs say first?

It's the easiest sound. My dd said "da" when she meant bus.

DD's first word was fish, followed by hello in a French accent 😂. Took her to Sea World - she was in heaven - alllooooo fshhh.

Can't remember when DD called me Mummy, but DS was 18 months when I got Mama with him looking me in the eye. My DC's are bilingual - virtually Their first words in DH's language were swear words.

Sea Life Centre I mean.

It's not personal. She isn't referring to her dad. It's the sound most kids make first.
Yabu to be angry :/

I thought the reason the male parent is called dadda/babba/pappa in most languages is because they are the first sounds all babies make. Everyone knows who the baby's mother is (pregnancy being a bit of a giveaway) but it is helpful for bonding if father thinks baby is his as soon as possible (because we are mammals males in olden times males could never be totally sure ). The baby at this stage does not know what the 'words' mean.

My 15m old has only ever come close to 'mmmmmmm' to mama. He says dadada all the bloody time. I took him to the park earlier in the week, all I had was dadada dadada and duck, duck, dadada dadada, duck dadada.
I'm not at all bothered, he's knows I'm his mother. I'm still hands down his favourite person unless someone else has chocolate

We got car, ball, shoe, gone, door, tree, book and more before we heard Mummy or Daddy. Now I get 'Mummy, mummy, mummy, mummy, MUMMY, MUMMYMUMMYMUMMYMUMMY!!' about fifty times a day

Also if it helps, DS also correctly knew where to look at "where's Bella (parents dog?" Over "where's mummy?"
He's known where to look for dog since 9m old. Until recently, when asked where Mummy? He looked at the TV

My dd said baba first I was gutted haha

I have no idea what either DS or DD said as their first words. They both talk enough now at 14 and 12

My friends kid has never had a dad. He didnt want to know and as a result no one has ever mentioned dad or daddy and she shouted dada first. Its just a sound.

Ds1 said banana and dada before mama, ds2 just says dada all day long whenever he sees anything that he loves, the dog, his brother, me or dad, I don't think it means anything!

My first word was the dogs name. My first steps were also toddling after him. The first time I laughed was also at the dog. My parents got a shit deal lol

It's just a new syllable. My daughter said "ggggg" from about 4 months and "dadadada" and "bababababa" from about 5 months. They don't mean anything. I'm wildly oversensitive but if you read about speech development you will see that this is just her trying out different sounds.

Angry at who? The baby? Yes totally unreasonable.
Your husband? Yes unreasonable.
Why are you taking it as a personal slight? You need some perspective

I think almost all babies say dada first.

One of mine was 2 1/2 before he called me anything. He said his Aunty's name and my best friend's name first along with difficult words like "chair"! I just found it funny. I don't think it was a reflection on our relationship!

Anthropologist Desmond Morris suggests that the easiest letters to pronounce are b, d, p, and m.

Hence, Baby, Dada, Papa and Mama. In almost all cultures across the world, the words for mother and father are very similar.

My DD said dada first but in no way associated it with her dad. She eventually said mama after a good long while and lots of other sounds but it was associated with me straight away. Dada is just easier to say.
Please don’t get into a competition with your partner (even in your own mind) for your child’s love or attention. You are both entirely loved and important people and will be relied on for different things. Work as a team.