I know I'm being U to be gutted she didn't say mama?

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DH has three dcs from before our relationship, we have 1 dd together. She is 8mo. DH works long hours so she spends the majority of her time with me. I feel selfish and horrible but I'm angry she hasn't said mama first. She is constantly shouting dada. She can also say hiya and wave. I'm gutted. We won't be having any more children.
What did your dcs say first?

(Sorry, that was inelegantly phrased with too many "firsts" , but you get the picture!)

Both of mine said dada (and a lot of other words) long before they said mama. Apart from the whole sound thing I just thought that it was due to me talking to them about their dad, when he would be home from work, etc., during the day so they heard it a lot more than mama. Could that be true in your case as well, OP?

Talking to a friend of my parents, they had a close friend who bought up their child as a single mother from before birth. First SOUNDS were Dada. No dada on the scene, it's just a sound.

DS said "Bed" and he used to shout it at me when he was tired. People were very impressed.

Dadada

I was a single parent, there was just me.

@anothershirtruined
That is probably it. I always talk about him when he isn't here and refer to him as daddy. He doesn't refer to me as mummy because I'm always here

DS said tractor before Mummy
And mummumam before Dadda
But , thinking about it. Won’t you be saying here’s Dadda , so he’s copying you
Spend tomorrow training DC to say Mumma Mummmy etc are

My first word was No! My son's first word was train. DD's first word was mama but she had speech delay (ASD and severe learning disabilities) so it came very very late.

Don't be upset - there will be many, many firsts ahead of you. Enjoy your beautiful baby - they grow up so quickly (sobs at the thought that I have pre-teens!)

Believe me I have tried to get her to say it
I even have a video from today of me trying to get her to say mama and she is just shouting dada over and over again

Oh, bless you.

My DD said 'dada' first too. She said it for ages before she said mama, and she said it an awful lot to my partner.

Thing is, she hasn't got a dada!

We are two women. There is no chance 'dada' means anything except an attempt to say 'mama'.

My DD’s first word was bye-bye. She Waved at me when she said and crawled away. Make of this what you want. I’m not bothered

Ds first word was fish, dd, dog. Sure they said “daddy” before “mummy” but no idea when it appeared in their vocab.
Honestly, don’t stress. Just enjoy asking her, “who do you want to change your nappy?”, “who do you want to get up with you this morning”? etc. She’ll say “dada”, perfect
My two still come to me first for cuddles, affection and solace. They love their dad, but no one is their mum! That’s more special to me than whose name they said first

DD is 12m and only says Dada or Dog 😂 I come last in this house in terms of words but I'm the first person she wants for comfort which means more to me than words!

My first word was dada and I didn't even have one
Both my kids didn't say mum for ages. I really wouldn't get angry about it, you can't change it now!

Ds said duck, book, star and bear before he said either mama or dada. Come to think of it he never said mama to me he said Mimi. Grandma was mama! Dada well before either! Unfortunately babies learn stuff when they are ready. Chill out and enjoy not being shouted for whilst it lasts!

Yes I believe dada is easier for them to say than an m word
My first word was our dogs name

When she is a bit older, wakes up in the middle of the night with a bug and vomits all over her jimjams, duvet, pillow, sheet, side of the bed and floor .........you'll be wishing she had never learned "mummy!"

Your dd probably doesn't use "dada" to mean her daddy yet though. It is just an easy sound to copy.
When she does start to say "mama" she wont initially use it to mean you - that will come later.

(My brother went through a phase of calling all men "daddy" when he was about a year old which was awkward!)

And I bet she already has many ways of getting your attention - she doesn't need to shout "mama"!
Babies can communicate long before they learn to talk.

In the nicest possible way, you have become hung up on a complete non-issue.

My ds said mama first, I would have been gutted if he said dada first because he walked out when ds was 8 months old! I was told if you gently cup the babies ears and say mama they can hear the m sound better! I'm not ashamed to admit I did this and it worked!

All mine said no as their first word....DS1 was then dada, DS2 cockcock -chocolate and DD dat (that).

Mama was very far down the list for all of mine.

DD1's first word was "duck". I don't remember how long it took after that for mama and dada to appear in her vocabulary or in what order they appeared.

DD2 I don't even remember her first word!

DD said dada first. Then no. Then yes. Then finally mama .

DS' first words were Peppa pig. Looking back, I think I prefered DDs words!

I can't really remember what she said first but I remember 'dada' 'mama' and 'cats' were around the same time. In fact 'cats' might've been the first one!

Mine said a bit of both: "ma-da" - trouble was, it sounded like "murder"

It's just a thing about what sounds they're able to form first - da da is easier than ma ma.

Our DD said da da for absolutely ages and people used to say how cute and that my husband must be delighted. My same sex partner and co-mother didn't give a hoot!

So my point is, there was no dada and yet DD said it all the time. It doesn't necessarily mean anything.

You might want to look at your response, though. How's your relationship with DP? And how are you finding being a mum generally?