The Biological dad of my baby has ignored me for months and despite my attempts to get him to decide whether or not he wants to be involved he only wanted to be involved until I made it clear that he couldn't use her to control me. Ever since then he's ignored me completely. He used to be a regular where I work and hasn't been in since, and it's been 4 months since he's even made any effort to speak to me. I don't want my baby to have a father whose only interest in her is temporary or because he thinks he can use her as bait, but I think maybe I'm being a bit unfair to him. To clarify, it was an unexpected pregnancy because he refused to wear condoms and I had been taken off my birth control for medical reasons ( I know- it takes two to tango, that's on both of us). When I told him I was pregnant he really pushed for an abortion, until we broke up- then he was suddenly very interested in us "being friends" for "the benefit of the baby". I told him I would be civil with him and would never stop him seeing his child but that we would never be friends. I don't intend on asking for child support or anything like that, but I don't want him involved at all if he isn't even interested enough in her to make a decision about involvement. AIBU to not let him know? ( I'm worried that my own feelings are clouding my decision- I was selfish in dating him to please my family and could only stand to sleep with him whilst drunk, which was not fair on him.)