To think a significant minority of MN users don't respect SAHMs?

[Bumpitybumper]

During my time on this forum I have seen the following views being expressed about SAHMs:

• SAHMs are bad feminists and therefore not entitled to any kind of opinion regarding feminist issues. Particular objections are raised about SAHMs having thoughts about feminism in the workplace irrespective of their previous experiences when they were employed.

- SAHMs are sponging financially off their DPs and just don't want to get a job. Many posters seem to think it is impossible for a SAHM's non financial contributions to equal or exceed the financial contribution provided by the breadwinning partner. SAHMs therefore deserve less than there working partners in any break up/divorce.

• SAHMs should be responsible for all housework regardless of capacity to fit this in during the day. If a SAHM struggles to get things done due to ages and temprament of children they are told they are just not trying hard enough.

-SAHMs should do the vast majority, if not all the night wakings with babies and young children. This usually extends to women on maternity leave and holds true even if SAHM is shattered and her working partner is relatively well rested.

There are loads more examples too that I can't think of right now, but I see it pretty much on a daily basis. Is this just me or is the quite a lot of disdain for SAHMs on MN?

People who judge SAHMs:

Do you judge women of certain ethnicities who never work and stay at home their whole lives? There are plenty of those.

Do you judge part-time women workers? How many hours constitutes a “real job”? I know masses of women teachers who work maybe one or two days a week but still say they are a teacher, not a four-fifths SAHM.

What about people who say they are a writer, or actor, but really don’t make any money at all? Most people don’t say “i’m an advertising executive” if they last bothered the world of advertising 15 years ago, but it seems that if you were in The Bill for one episode or published one crummy children’s book, you retain an artistic title for life.

Keeptrudging Sure. Good thing he found a 'good woman' in the end to save him for his ex's utter chaos.

Considering they'd been divorced for 5 years at the point we met, it's irrelevant. I don't consider her 'chaotic'. If anything, she's possibly financially astute. Why bother working when it means you lose your tax credits/housing benefit?

Zasazajuju - my post was exactly about childcare workers being paid poorly.
It does also fascinate me that you believe the going rate for the person responsible for the development of your child, is not worth half of what you do - whatever that may be. You must regard your job as very important if you are worth more than what she’s doing for your dc.

I didn’t say I never worry about my pay packet, money can be a worry. But then if I earned more and relied more on childcare my worry would be about the welfare of my child, not money.
I did say poorchildcare/nurseries can be stressful for a young child. That’s why I’ve been very careful about where ds attends, minimised his hours there, and he didn’t go before age 2.