Inheritance - am I being U?

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Regular poster but have NC'd for this.

My mother passed away a few months ago, I have a 2DB and 1DS and our mother left a will which left us each a quarter of a (fairly sizeable) estate. The estate is still going through all the legal bits but my issue is that a couple of other relatives have indicted that because my siblings have children and I don't, they feel that their share should have been more.

I can be a bit sensitive about the 'not having children' thing anyway (50+ & single so no hope now sadly) but I'm finding it really upsetting, basically it feels like they are saying I am worth less because I'm on my own?

Or do you think their amount should be more as they have families and bigger outgoings? AIBU?

YANBU! Why on earth should they get more!

I am the only one of my two siblings and me to have ave children myself and I wouldn't ever expect more from my parents!

If you have no DC then presumably your nieces and nephews will end up with your share eventually anyway? As they're your closest descendants to leave your assets to? They just have to wait a while!

Wtf. Tell them to get stuffed

Never ceases to amaze me how many people think they should have a say on other people’s money. They’re bloody crass in the extreme.

As for the OP leaving money to her nieces and nephews, why should she? I mean she might but even if she decided to leave the lot to a cats home that would be up to her as well.

But tbh my thinking is that people should spend their money where possible before they die, that way it gets round all this bitterness. There is no way I expect my parents to leave me money when they die. I hope they spend it and live a bloody good life on it. It’s theirs not mine.

YANTOTALLYNBU

I’m one of three children. Have three children myself and one brother has two. The other has no dc. Absolutely no way would I ever expect to inherit a larger share because of my choice to have kids. And so far that’s the way it’s worked with the inheritances we have had. I suppose there may be the potential that dB may choose to share his estate with my other brother and me, or pass it on to our kids. But he could leave it all to battersea dogs home and that would be fine by me.

Dh has two brothers. His father’s will made specific provision for grandchildren with the remainder of the estate divided three ways between the brothers.

Neither way is wrong. But I would be deeply uncomfortable for me as an individual to be left more than my brother because I have children.

I meant YAtotallyNBU. Extra N snuck in.

Yanbu.

Presumably when you die some of your dns could benefit anyway ..

It's a very fair will. Your DM loved you all equally because you all are her children.
It's probably not even true that your Mum was talking about this. Probably this other relative was talking about this and your Mum just listened politely.
Sorry for your loss

Yanbu. You should all get equal

I agree with everyone else.

Your relative is being rude, unhelpful, intrusive, insensitive and more.

Sorry for your losses.

How awful op I’m one of three and only me and one db have kids the other db does not but we would never expect more because we have kids from our parents state.