Shouldn't I feel terrible?

[Liergotcaughtagain]

Regular poster NC for this. I am sure how I feel is not wrong, but OH thinks otherwise.
We went away for my birthday this weekend. It was more of my plan than anything arranged specially by the OH. Ended up booking a hotel and had a fairly good start to the trip. Day 2 ( which is today) we went for breakfast to a near by cafe and while having breakfast, me & him talked about some stuff here & there & about the royal wedding. I mentioned my reservations about Meghan Markle. Nothing too much. Just a quick conversation. He seemed to agree, I think. But like I said it was more of chat than discussion.
He wanted to go for a quick smoke before we could proceed further, so I took DS to a shop near by to get some fruit & water. Fast forward 10 mins we meet OH & proceed according to the plan. I asked OH to take a picture of DS & me. Which he did & with no effort at all. He always does this. I took his phone to take a picture of him & DS & to show him how to take a decent picture for me. As I was showing him I spotted a picture of Megan Markle in bikini. It was the picture before the one I had just took. I asked him & it turns out that while he was smoking he had sent the thing attached below to his group of boys.
I never ever stop him seeing his friends. He goes for night outs when ever he likes. In fact I encourage him to take trips with his friends. I am seriously hurt. He thought it was a good idea to post this just minutes after having conversation with me. That too on my birthday. This clearly is about me when he says "SPEAK TO ANY WOMAN" Also all his internet history is gone & all he has to say is that he doesn't know.
Firstly he defended himself by saying that it's a boys thing & then proceed to say that it's a joke. All that effort to find semi naked picture of Meghan Markle to make a joke, on my birthday. I am so hurt by his comments .

@pastaofmuppets glad it's not just me chuckling at the irony of this 😂

It was disrespectful of your OH to do that OP.

I think it was the word ‘reservations’ that removed any sympathy I might have had. Why be so patronising and superior?

Yuk, a smokey banter dad. Bleurgh!!!!!! At least this high-maintenance diva has taken him on, keeping him away from the rest of us.

Can't wait for the wedding thread, OP!

Its nothing to do with Meghan Markle, its the fact your DP can't put his phone down and be mentally present on your birthday day out, so you should have told him that. He sounds quite immature in his messages to friends but some men never grow up, you obviously knew he was like that.

Is there a whatsapp group in existence that doesn't have the odd picture of a celebrity chucked in for everyone to agree they're fit?

You really are being a bit precious OP.

And yes, women and men alike can see why Harry got with Meghan, she's bloody gorgeous. Most of us treat sexual attraction as pretty high priority when we choose a mate, you might as well choose someone easy on the eye if you're going to be looking at them for the next 50yrs.

Well, I do hate all this 'LOL, women are all jealous and can never be happy for a woman who is better looking than they are' crap, and in your shoes I'd be annoyed, but no need to 'feel terrible' about it.

"It's a fee country & I am free to have opinions."

But your DH isn't?

I hope the initial attraction was based on lust, that's healthy and normal in your 30's. Rather than picking a breeder, like previous relatives.

I was on the thread about the celebrity's clothes. I didn't like T Hardy's bald head, but luckily Idris provided a bit of eye candy. I don't think Men are just for fucking, though.

Just to add to that. He avoided an argument with you, even though he doesn't agree, possibly because its your Birthday.

Perhaps he's sick of the negativity in what was supposed to be a nice day out and needed to lighten his own mood.

I had a Birthday day out, it wouldn't have occurred to me to find someone to slate. Do you do that often?

so youre ok to have reservations your dh have an opnion and nor can we

ok then

You made some negative comments about MM. Your DH obviously disagrees but doesn't want to make a deal of it on your birthday. So in a spare monent he sends a jokey, off-colour text to his friends about it - a text you weren't meant to see.

I agree that his message was a bit disrespectful to MM because it's objectifying and to you because he's insinuating that you're jealous and he's ogling another woman online. Not kidding myself that my DH doesn't find other women attractive, but like most of us I would rather not have the evidence so starkly in front of me.

But I've definitely sent the odd text to a friend when the person I am with has said something I disagree with, so I'd be a hypocrite if I said it was an evil thing to do.

I can see why you're upset, but I would try to let it go. It wasn't a great message but you weren't meant to see it and nobody's behaviour is perfect all the time. I don't think it's worth having a fight over.

It's a free country & I am free to have opinions

but your boyfriend isn't?