Shouldn't I feel terrible?

[Liergotcaughtagain]

Regular poster NC for this. I am sure how I feel is not wrong, but OH thinks otherwise.
We went away for my birthday this weekend. It was more of my plan than anything arranged specially by the OH. Ended up booking a hotel and had a fairly good start to the trip. Day 2 ( which is today) we went for breakfast to a near by cafe and while having breakfast, me & him talked about some stuff here & there & about the royal wedding. I mentioned my reservations about Meghan Markle. Nothing too much. Just a quick conversation. He seemed to agree, I think. But like I said it was more of chat than discussion.
He wanted to go for a quick smoke before we could proceed further, so I took DS to a shop near by to get some fruit & water. Fast forward 10 mins we meet OH & proceed according to the plan. I asked OH to take a picture of DS & me. Which he did & with no effort at all. He always does this. I took his phone to take a picture of him & DS & to show him how to take a decent picture for me. As I was showing him I spotted a picture of Megan Markle in bikini. It was the picture before the one I had just took. I asked him & it turns out that while he was smoking he had sent the thing attached below to his group of boys.
I never ever stop him seeing his friends. He goes for night outs when ever he likes. In fact I encourage him to take trips with his friends. I am seriously hurt. He thought it was a good idea to post this just minutes after having conversation with me. That too on my birthday. This clearly is about me when he says "SPEAK TO ANY WOMAN" Also all his internet history is gone & all he has to say is that he doesn't know.
Firstly he defended himself by saying that it's a boys thing & then proceed to say that it's a joke. All that effort to find semi naked picture of Meghan Markle to make a joke, on my birthday. I am so hurt by his comments .

What's with all these threads? Seriously, whose bizarre idea of a PR campaign is this??

I'd be a little bit stung if DP had gone to the effort of finding the photos and posting that to mates. A true word is said in jest and all that. I don't think I'd find it objectifying or sexist particularly, just an insight into how, what or why he might find some women more sexually attractive than others. That's natural. We all do. But, I'd be fine because I know who I am, I know my own value, I have choices I can make, eat cake, don't eat cake, get fit or sit, or get my hair done or not.......I'm not Meghan and neither do I want to be. I'm me and DP is with me for all the same reasons he'd find her attractive. I have no reason to feel I'm not the best version of myself, and that comes from care of the self both physically and on the inside. So although I'd feel a little hurt, I know it's not rational.

So, why do you feel so pissed off OP?

This is the problem when you go through life attributing so much value to looks. You end up partnering this kind of man.

I think you probably bored your OH stupid by droning on. Harry doesn’t give a fuck what you think and neither do the royals. Neither does your DH.

Liergotcaughtagain
I read your OP, you bitch about Meghan to your DH, he humors you by not saying anything bad to you but seem to have raised his eyebrows inwardly and sent a jokey text to his mates.

Yes, you are free to bitch about a public person, and your DH is free to find you ridiculous for doing so.

The fact that it's your birthday is completely irrelevant, you sound like a little Madam who expect everybody to fawn around her. I mean who wrote to show him how to take a decent picture for me

You asked if you were BU, the answer is yes. You are hurt because your DH found a stunning woman attractive and mocks the petty comments she gets from jealous women?

If you think it wasn't a total lack of respect to bitch about Meghan and proudly bitch about her again on this forum, then what do you think that was exactly?
I feel sorry for your DH to have to put up with you.

Flamingoose.... Thank you for your outlook. These were my exact words to him. That's how I felt exactly. It unfortunate that some people don't seem to understand the post, but think it's ok to jump on the comment wagon.

Ikeepafork.... You obviously have a lot of time to respond within seconds of me replying. Don't you have anything better to do than just be a keyboard warrior? I say it again, don't project your insecurities and aggression on post. Get a life.

"He did it on my birthday!"

FFS, what age are you.

Your DH is wrong. If you spoke to me I would give you lots of reasons why I think Megan is good for Harry. This woman had loads of shit thrown at her for weeks before she got married. She was literally alone with people trying to bring her down. She then walked down the aisle on her own in front of 2 billion people. She has massive balls and has nerves of steel. Harry needs a very strong woman in his life.

You need to get over yourself TBH. Your DH finds a celebrity attractive. So what. I have semi naked Charlie Hunan pictures all over my pinterest.

IKeep - definitely. 'But it's my birthday' - you what? You are away on a special weekend and he has to keep his eyes on you, take a proper photo of you, do all that you require in not even thinking of his mates or another woman because it's your birthday?

Hard work.

You REALLY don't like people to disagree with or have a different viewpoint to you do you OP? I feel a bit sorry for your OH.

I'm very confused by this thread.
You were judgey about MM. Then your DP was also judgey about MM but in the opposite way, right?
It looks to me like you're quite well suited to each other.

And then a lot of stuff about it's your birthday so everything's got to be perfect blah blah?
And now you're upset because not everyone on here immediately understands and agrees with you? But it's AIBU, that's not the thing to expect here.

Liergotcaughtagain
keep writing, every new post of yours put you in such a lovely light! What are your reservations about the Duchess of Sussex again?

Btw, not agreeing with you doesn't make posters troll or keyboard warrior. You asked a question, you got some replies. Not everybody feeling sorry for you should make you think you might not be the innocent victim of a terrible crime here?

You both sound about twelve.

You- it’s MY BIRTHDAY! ONLY TALK AND THINK ABOUT ME! DO WHAT I WANT!

Him- sends a puerile text to his mates bagging women.

You are blub really weird.

Liergotcaughtagain
Ikeepafork.... You obviously have a lot of time to respond within seconds of me replying. Don't you have anything better to do than just be a keyboard warrior?

With all due respect have a check on how many posts you have in this thread and try not to be a hypocrite.

I say it again, don't project your insecurities and aggression on post. Get a life

Trying to insult anyone that dares to question your motives or actions is giving us a great insight into your personality.

Its not pretty

Liergotcaughtagain - your username is quite .. telling? Has he got form for lying to you about looking at/sending memes about/thinking about other women not you especially on your birthday?

Happy birthday BTW.

I think it just sounds like you were annoyed because he didn't make enough effort for your weekend in your eyes, it was your plan not his, he can't take photos properly, he had a smoke and sent a text whilst doing it so that took up 10 minutes of your weekend.

I object to him saying "speak to any woman...etc" All the women I know agree with me that Meghan is an intelligent, accomplished woman whom Harry is lucky to have found.

You posted on an ‘Am I Being Unreasonable’ thread. If you are completely 100% certain that you are in the right, as you seem to be, then why would you post on a thread, the sole purpose of which is to invite debate and consider other points of view?
You are in no doubt that you were correct so are wasting everyone’s time here.

Oh OP get a grip!

You slag off Meghan to your DH who probably does a million internal eye rolls and then sends a jokey message to his mates. This upsets you enough to post on a forum about it.

Should you feel terrible? Yes for letting something so trivial affect your day.

Gosh you sound like hard work - and with every new post pointing out those who don’t agree you have been TERRIBLY SLIGHTED by your DH are all trolls who don’t understand your point - well that’s just reinforces it. We understand perfectly well - we just don’t agree it’s something to get worked up about. This is AIBU - you are going to get opinions not sycophants.

Go and enjoy your day.

You checked his Internet history? Jesus Christ OP, get a grip.

If you have problems with his behaviour apart from this message, then that's another matter. This is just a stupid non-issue. It sounds like you're fed up with him in general and this is just another thing to get annoyed by.

Yuk, a smokey banter dad. Bleurgh!!!!!!

You mention in your earlier posts twice that it's a free Country. But that seems to only apply to your comments and posts. If it is a free Country then he is every bit as entitled to send whatever messages he likes. Or is it only you that gets to say and do things with no consequences?

Apparently, they weren't invited to the wedding though.

They were; they just kept a low profile.