Whats the best thing that ever happened to you?

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Outside of Childrens births and meeting your OH.

Mine is my MIL.

And my parents-in-law. They’re phenomenal and I love them masses.

I think a lot of the best things in my life, the best days, have actually been really mundane. But just wonderful warm memories.

I'm extremely lucky and have had a great life so far. Happy childhood, roof over our heads, great holidays (camping as a child usually!) and am healthy. I'm so so so so grateful for all of this as so many people don't have it. And of course DH and DC massive part of it but haven't mentioned those as OP stated.

That's not to say a bunch of shite hasn't occurred in my life because it sure has!

DC3 is alive and healthy (nearly three years ago we were all at her bedside saying goodbye).

Having my own business.

Buying our house young (no help form anyone).

Having DC when we were in our early 20's (our friends are just starting).

My DSis and her family, DBro and my closest friend.

I look back now at some of the people I spend most of my time with between 13-16, I should of been a drug addict and had 10 kids by the time I was 25! I had an amazing childhood but 90% of my friends were taking class A drugs regularly and were like rabbits somehow even though I was offered drugs I've only ever smoked cannabis a few times in my teens.

My ex (he was 16 and we'd be dating for 6 months) when I was 14 left me because I wouldn't have sex with him and got with a friend of a friend who ended up pregnant instantly. His family were so furious when they came to my house telling my parents about my pregnancy and how I'd ruined his life by tricking him. I'm very proud of how I handled myself by that break up, very glad my dad was home that day and that he believed me.

The best things seem to have happened to me at the worst times.

I come from a very disadvantaged area where I’d never known anyone to go to university, it just wasn’t an option for people like us. None of our teachers encouraged it even. During my first term at college my brother was killed, he was in a gang. I had an incredible substitute teacher at the time who really took the time to look out for me and opened my eyes to the opportunities available to people who attended university. With her help, I applied for a scholarship and couldn’t believe my luck when I was successful.

I then moved away from home to attend university and felt like I didn’t belong there so got involved with a charity that helped kids with backgrounds like mine. During my last year of undergrad, my mum committed suicide. The charity really helped me and the work I’d done with them meant I was eligible to apply for a postgrad scholarship which I then got.

I’m coming to the end of my final degree now and my ddad has just passed away and my husband has left me. Not long after this, I found out I’d been successful in getting my dream job which starts in September.

I can’t believe where I’ve come from and where I’m at now. Having this focus in my life has made all of the tragic events bearable and I don’t know what I’d do or where I’d be without it.

Odd as it may seem, having a complete mental breakdown has changed my life for the better.

I can now accept myself the way I am and I see life in a completely different light. I finally believe in myself and my abilities and am about to start a project that I would never have dreamed possible before.

Probably going to university. I went on a whim, but it was completely the making of me and I feel like I really found myself there.

My job.

It has made my confidence soar, I have met some amazing people and I am the happiest I have ever been. It has helped my MH and I get to make a difference to others.

Redundancy. Meant I changed direction and a decade on I'm delighted!

Moving to Germany

Leaving home and moving 200 miles away for uni, aged 19. I bloody loved it, thoroughly enjoyed it, met lifelong amazing friends, discovered proper decent sex and did very well. I still live in my uni town (didn't intend to really but now I have kids it is a great place for them to grow up) and I still like it here. Near lots of nature, mountains, lakes but also within an hour of several large cities for shopping/culture, safer than most places to live, house prices not too bad.

Best decision ever. Almost chose another uni, it was very close, but I know that wouldn't have worked out anywhere near as well.

Kicking OCD in the teeth and getting my life back. I'm not longer trapped by my own mind, after a life of control and anxiety I'm free! I'm happier, my children are happier, my husband is happier, my life has infinitely improved for being able to get free of it. Life isn't scary!

I was 18, a single parent, poor as hell, living in a manky flat in a high-rise block surrounded by junkies and prostitutes. I had zero confidence, no real ambition and I could see no way out of my shit life.

But I loved doing hair so one day I walked into a stylish hairdressers in a posh area to ask how I could become a hairdresser. I expected the stylish, gorgeous people working in there to snigger at me and I expected to get turned away. But, the owner was completely lovely, offered me work-based training and asked if I'd be interested in helping her expand the business into Afro-hair.

That was fourteen years ago and I've never looked back since.

I joined a social media fan page a few years ago, and some of the people on there from all over the globe have become the best friends I've ever made and I've had experiences with them I'd never have had otherwise. Funnily enough, I only met up with some of them on the off chance because I'd got rid of a toxic 'friend' and had a spare ticket to an event - best thing she ever did for me was fucking off!

Having wonderful parents. I still miss them every day.
Buying our first home
Having an amazing son
Moving abroad
Being able to retire early and travel
The best thing for the future is that we all stay healthy.

Snapping out of my mother's spell- realising that she's just a woman with whom I share some DNA, accepting that I don't have any obligations towards her and recognising that she's a nasty, selfish, judgmental, controlling cow and I shouldn't feel guilty about keeping her at arms length.

My divorce

Travelling, best thing i ever did.

borage13

Getting divorced.

Other than ds being born, the day i first met ddog at dogs trust and i knelt down and he put his paws on my shoulders and gave me kisses... a week later i brought him home. We celebrate 6 happy years on the 2nd june. I love him so much. He came to me at 4 and was recently 10

Passing my driving test
Years and years and years of hard work and money
I was euphoric in a way I have never been before

My family. My parents aren't perfect but they are always there for me practically and emotionally, my cousin is my best friend and more like a sister, my extended family is eccentric and wonderful, my in-laws are the best in-laws you could want for and my brother is a pain in the arse right now but he hasn't always been and he won't always be, so that's okay.

Also, discovering theatre. It taught me who I am, introduced me to the most wonderful friends, gave me purpose at a time when my life was fairly purposeless, gave me the strength to end a toxic, abusive relationship, encouraged me to move back to London where I was happiest, and led to me meeting my DH.

Quitting my job to go back to uni and retrain in my dream career.

My parents

An amazing little cat that was in my life for a short while. My little Pumpkin chose me and he was so special.