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AIBU?

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To think parents really should put some clothing on kids in public?

172 replies

somesetmeadow · 20/05/2018 08:47

At the beach, water fountains in parks and so on, there’s always at least one parent who lets their children charge around without a stitch on.

I just find it really inappropriate. Prepared for a flaming but I do!

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SpitefulMidLifeAnimal · 20/05/2018 20:26

Where I live, there's a water fountain installation in the city centre. There's frequently naked kids (and ones who are dressed) in it. Is this actually hygienic? The city council haven't released any info on whether this fountain water has been treated in some way but assuming it hasn't, is this actually safe? I can't help but think it's just a breeding ground for verrucas and skin diseases.

MrsDilber · 20/05/2018 20:37

I agree with the poster who said "wearing pants isn't going to spoil their fun" you hit the nail on the head.

Jessikita · 20/05/2018 20:38

The naked body is not an issue at any age. The issue is yours.

bringincrazyback · 20/05/2018 21:12

YANBU. You never know who's about.

bringincrazyback · 20/05/2018 21:13

The naked body is not an issue at any age. The issue is yours.

Aw, c'mon. That's an overly simplistic view, we all know there are perverts about. It's not about prudishness.

Mabeldidit · 20/05/2018 21:26

The naked body is not an issue at any age. The issue is yours.'
The issue is naive people who think its everyone else scare mongering. There are lots of dodgy people about. Why would a pp sneer about 'a paedo in every corner'. There probably is.

If you wouldn't have your 7, 8 or 9 yr old running around naked in public places (and I really hope you wouldn't), then don't let toddlers or any DC too young to be be aware. They have every right to have privacy regarding their genitals.

00100001 · 20/05/2018 21:48

But rules that apply to 9 year olds don’t always apply to 2 year olds.

For example You would bring a 2 yo into a toilet cubicles with you at Tesco, but the 9 yo would wait outside.

Mabeldidit · 20/05/2018 21:51

Yes 'rules' don't apply in the same way. A 9yr old will be body conscious and not want to run around naked in front of strangers. That's where parent come in when DC are too young to know.

When in public places you should be your DC's advocate and ensure toddlers have their privacy until they are old enough to ask for it.

00100001 · 20/05/2018 21:54

“Why would a pp sneer about 'a paedo in every corner'. There probably is.”

Because people like to think that there is some dodgy paedo in a long coat that hides in a bush rather than face the uncomfortable truth that the paedophile is far far more likely to be the other parent, the family member, the trusted friend, the community leader. It means that they can tsk and shake their heads and run around in forums going “Im such a better parent for being aware of that potential weirdo in the bushes.”

Facts are facts. Children are more likely to be abused by a person of trust than some fucking random guy on the street. There’s no “probably” about that.

VioletCharlotte · 20/05/2018 22:06

00100001
I don't disagree that children are more likely to be abused by someone they know.

However, my concern is to do with naked images of children being shared online. Some of the Police stats around this are horrifying. In 2015, Police removed 68,092 urls hosting indecent images of children. On average 375 offenders are arrested every month for viewing child porn.^^ A 2016 report suggests there are half a million men in the uk who have viewed indecent images of children.

Our job as parents is to protect our children. As lovely as it would be to let them run around naked and free, I'd be devastated to think someone may have an image of my innocent child naked, and be using it for sexual gratification.

Turkkadin · 20/05/2018 23:08

Children have a right to dignity and privacy just as much as an adult.
How on earth does a pair of swimming bottoms or pants stop the child from having as much fun? I wouldn't have wanted anybody seeing my children naked on a beach and they never did. We still had some great holidays.

corythatwas · 21/05/2018 09:06

Dignity and privacy doesn't mean the same thing to a 2yo as it does to a 35yo. Plenty of toddlers do enjoy running around naked.

MotherforkingShirtballs · 21/05/2018 09:42

As soon as I take DDs nappy off, she flips over and escapes as fast as she can. She much prefers being naked to being clothed.

JaneyEJones · 21/05/2018 10:21

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Pinga · 21/05/2018 13:22

A naked child running round at the beach is in no more danger than a fully clothed child.

Mind bogglingly ridiculous statement.

Gottagetmoving · 21/05/2018 13:37

As lovely as it would be to let them run around naked and free, I'd be devastated to think someone may have an image of my innocent child naked, and be using it for sexual gratification

So children can't be naked in a safe place with their parents just in case there may be a pervert enjoying it?
Perverts don't just get off on naked children you know?! You would have to keep your children in isolation if you want to be sure a pervert won't see them and have pervy thoughts.

Pressuredrip · 21/05/2018 13:43

If you find a naked kid so inappropriate you can't look at them you have disturbing issues.

JoeElliotsMullet · 21/05/2018 13:52

Please can you explain this to my almost3yo? I could put her in a straightjacket and ten seconds later she'd be naked and the other side of the park. She has a natural talent for streaking and she is fast

I get where you're coming from though.

Hillfarmer · 21/05/2018 13:54

Don’t understand what the problem is. Who is it inappropriate for? The child? The other parents? The other kids?

Little kids frolicking naked in fountains and paddling pools etc are a joy.

We’ve got enough hang-ups around nudity without this.

YABU

corythatwas · 21/05/2018 15:20

Pinga Mon 21-May-18 13:22:25

"A naked child running round at the beach is in no more danger than a fully clothed child.

Mind bogglingly ridiculous statement."

Perhaps you would care to provide some stats here?

00100001 · 21/05/2018 16:51

"Mind bogglingly ridiculous statement."

How so pinga?

00100001 · 21/05/2018 16:56

"Our job as parents is to protect our children. As lovely as it would be to let them run around naked and free, I'd be devastated to think someone may have an image of my innocent child naked, and be using it for sexual gratification."

Yes but by putting them in clothes,... parents aren't protecting them "more" than those who don't.
PPs are somewhat implying that those who let children run naked aren't doing everything possible to protect their kids. which is just bollocks. Iit is clealry fucking OBVIOUS that anaked child is not at any more risk of being a target to a perv than a child at play. As I said before, it's not as if someone who is going to public places goes along and thinks "oh well, no naked kids today, i'll move on..." no they're going to watch the kids no matter what their state of dress.

And, you would be just as bloody devastated if someone had an image of your fully clothed child and was using it for sexual gratification.

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