AIBU to ask for your stories of hope after repeated pregnancy loss?

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Just that really.
Had first trimester mmc the first time round second trimester loss the second and have just finished a chemical pregnancy. Feeling pretty low and like it’s never going to happen for us (i’m 33) and really sorry for myself.

Would really appreciate any stories from people who have had similar and gone on the have DC.

Sorry to bring the mood down.

Loss after loss for us. I couldn't say it out loud. Suddenly a pregnancy lasted. Terrible birth, we both nearly died and we were shell shocked for so long. And while I was dealing with everything, within months I was pregmant again! And it lasted. Easy birth this time. I have 4 now.

So many losses.

I will never forget how you feel now. Please be kind to yourself. You need kindness and love.

Have you been referred for investigations?

Five losses. Two missed, one late, one chemical and one genetic defect.

I have a healthy 2 year old DD now. I'm 35. Tests were inconclusive but was watched like a hawk from missed period and scanned every two weeks. She was induced.

5 losses 3 kids - hang in there

10 mc, the last on new years day this year. All before 7 weeks.
Didn't get my period after the last one and was thinking it was perimenopause or something, until just for the hell of it I did a test, which was positive and made me 9 weeks.. I'm now 15+5 and everything is good. Nobody can give me any reason for the mcs or why this one is working.

My mum had 4 miscarriages but had 4 kids too. I know you must feel terrible, but it's probably more common than you think because it isn't spoken about much. I hope it works out for you.

3 miscarriages over three years, Ashermans as a result of all the ERPCs, finally managed to hang onto DS last year after four years of trying.

I had a difficult pregnancy with him (vasa praevia and placenta accreta so spent my entire third trimester as an inpatient) but he was delivered in a super-straightforward planned ELCS at 36 weeks, and has been the picture of health ever since. Currently toddling around happily, waving toys at me and jabbering away.

Multiple losses really are more common than you would think. No reason at all for ours, just bad luck.

I had three miscarriages in a row and two children. The period of time after the third was the worst, I felt so flat and grey and spent most of my time reading recurrent miscarriage info on the internet (over and over) and TTC again while feeling so low. I will never forget that feeling, for you
Tests were inconclusive but I was prescribed progesterone pessaries to 14 weeks in future pregnancies and carried to 35/37 weeks, so a happy story in the end.

3 losses and 2 extraordinary DDs.

It’s a long hard road well travelled

Between my mum and her sister they had 12 miscarriages and three children.

I don't want to boast but they are pretty damn good children!

4 mc and one dd. Diagnosed after the 3rd with high natural killer cells and prescribed prednisone, aspirin, vit d3 and progesterone - had dd then fell pregnant whilst breast feeding before had any periods and mc at 8 weeks.

It's so hard, take care of yourself.

My auntie had 8 miscarriages before she had my cousin. By the time my cousin was a year old, my auntie was 6 months pregnant with baby number 2. There is hope

My 4th child was my 10th pregnancy

I had two easy pregnancies followed by six miscarriages then finally got a sticky number three! No reason was found the only thing I changed was to start taking low dose aspirin. It is absolutely heart breaking however far along you are. When you see that positive test that's your baby there, then when the blood comes it's such a shock. Good luck op stick with it are you getting help?

6 miscarriages, 3 children - interspersed so I have not been through the horror of loss after loss after loss with no continuing pregnancies that some of you have , but the 3 consecutive mc (nos. 4, 5 and 6) I had before my third child were tough. It turned out I had genetic clotting issues and carried dd to term on heparin, but I also miscarried on heparin and had carried to term without, so I'll never know if it made any difference (beyond lowering my thrombosis risk).

Op, so sorry 💐

A friend lost 7 babies - all early.....and no reason as such.

She carried on and now has two healthy children.

She nearly stopped trying as it hurt too much but is so glad she didn’t now

Good luck x

It's shit. After 9 years ttc, 5 losses and 1 failed ivf cycle I was ready to end it all. Literally went to my GP and cried and cried and told her I couldn't keep going. Last NHS IVF cycle went really badly, poor egg yield, crap embryos, both put back in. Now 6 months pregnant, due on 10th wedding anniversary.

Keep asking questions and don't give up.

I tend to lose them around 6 weeks.

I had four m/c before carrying my little boy to term. He is now a wonderful 2 1/2 yr-old.
I have had 2 further m/c since.

Hello, there is hope.

I had a child followed by another 4.5 years later no isssues. Lost a baby at 17.5 weeks due to a major birth/ genetic defect not compatible with life so had to have a medically induced termination... lost my next pregnancy at 10.5 weeks, then lost another pregnancy exactkey one year later at 9 weeks...

Marriage broke down.

Met someone else, later on down the line became pregnant. Lost it at 5.5 weeks so I think that’s classed as chemical. At this point with two different partners and continuing to lose babies I was sure it was me that must have a problem..

Was waiting on an appointment with the recurrent miscarriage clinic when I became pregnant again. I demanded progesterone this time around and the consultant really didn’t want to help me but I happily wrote me a prescription for a months worth. I put muself on low dose aspirin after all the things I read on the internet and stayed on both until about 5 months pregnant for the progesterone and 32 ish weeks with the aspirin.

I delivered my baby 2016. The consultant that delivered my son was the Sam man ironically who dealt with me when I lost my previous son 5 years prior. My sons due date was 1 day short of my baby’s birth date in 2016.

So yes , after 4 losses I got a take home baby. Please read into low dose asprin

My ds was my 6th pregnancy. I had 4mcs and a stillbirth. I was terrified the whole way through the pregnancy that we would lose him, but he is a bright, funny 3 year old now.

There is hope I promise.

I would see your GP, get your hormone profile checked again. I'm assuming you know Day 21 should actually be called 7 DPO. Get your thyroid, clotting profile, ESR, CRP tested. Even if you're slightly hypothyroid it can make a difference and you would benefit from a small dose of thyroxine. Again with clotting profile, even if borderline, you might benefit from baby aspirin. ESR/CRP show inflammation which can cause issues, there's a white blood cell too, I think leukocytes that indicate possible autoimmune issues.

Ask your GP if they would be ok with you trying progesterone support should you get pregnant again. When pregnant again, ask them to check HCG & progesterone levels. As it plays a part in pregnancy.

If your prolactin is raised, they'll likely retest, then if still high refer you for an MRI to check you don't have a non cancerous tumour causing high levels. They can treat high prolactin with tablets.

For £150 you can get a sample of your womb checked for NK cells. DM me for more info. This if it's an issue is treated with low dose steroids.

You can take B Complex vitamins after the tests, as the B Complex helps your hormones, particularly B6 & B12. There's a variety of vitamins you can take, a lot of it is covered by pregnacares specific conception supplement.

It's scary, it's heart breaking, but please don't give up hope. There's so much research taken place that they know so much more now than a decade ago. Hopefully it's something straightforward and with treatment you'll be fine.

I've had a lot of losses, I also have 2 DC, I studied miscarriages, causes, etc. I also co-operated with studies, so I'm aware of things most gynaecologists don't consider.

Any questions I'm more than happy to help. I would also ask for a mid cycle scan just to check your womb and follicles etc. Your GP can do this, but you should also be sent to a specialist, I would research for a specialist with an interest in recurrent miscarriage.

4 losses for us including one at 17 weeks and now have 4 kids ( well fourth is on the way )
Latest is surprise pregnancy with erratic periods and thinking fertility was gone .

3 miscarriages, one DD another miscarriage then DS, both times I was booked in for investigation I found out I was pregnant the week before with the ones that stuck!
Only thing I did differently was take low dose aspirin, no idea if it did anything but specialist said it wouldn’t do any harm

Thank you so so much for taking the time to reply. I’m a bit tearful at all of these responses and feel a bit mortified that I’m so upset about three when so many of you have endured worse.
I don’t know why this one has affected me so much but I just feel exhausted by the whole thing, and like it’s hopeless - so hearing your success stories has really helped.

I want to reply to some of you individually who asked questions/ gave some advice but I’m shattered so will come back tomorrow.

In short, we are under a consultant and have a good doctor. I have an appointment with him
next week to discuss things moving forward. Second trimester loss was due to suspected genetic issue so not strictly a m/c more a tfmr. I’m unsure whether this will count now as three consecutive losses in order for the referral for mc investigations.

So so sorry for all your losses x

Just want you to know there is hope, even when you feel it will never work out. I had 2 MC, one at 6 weeks and the second was especially tragic as at my 12 week scan the babies heart had stopped beating. I was 35. Hospital said they would not investigate why as id ONLY had 2 MC. I then had ovarian cysts removed and got pregnant aged 36. I had realy bad hyperemisis for the bulk of the pregnancy. A year later did it all again, as wasn't sure whether would carry baby ok or MC. Was very poorly with HG again. However it was all worth it as have 2 wonderful DD now. Never give up. MC are much more frequent and happen to many people, you are not alone. You too can have a wonderful happy outcome one day.

1 early loss before I knew I was pregnant, followed by another, 1 missed mc that I needed an erpc for, followed by another at 9 weeks.
I was referred for miscarriage investigations after and during a routine scan I saw a tiny embryo with a beating heart. My consultant suggested low dose asprin even though all my blood clotting tests came back negative. I had regular Doppler & growth scans which resulted in an elective caesarean at 36 weeks. DD is almost 10

My relationship broke down when she was 18 months, then started ttc with a new partner some years later, I started taking the low dose asprin but was told by a midwife that it was nonesense, so I stopped taking it then miscarried at 10 weeks.
I fell preganany with my DS 3 months later, took the asprin regardless of midwife advice and was also prescribed progesterone pesseries. DS is now 4

It was a long tough road, I tried to take my own life before my DD was born. Thankfully I have what i always wanted.

Wishing you all the best