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Or is Meghan Markle making the right choice?

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CaliforniaDream · 17/05/2018 12:31

I don't know if it actually was her choice or her father's, but it seems to me that it's the right decision for him not to come to the wedding.

He's obviously not at all well and needs to recover from his heart attack. He is also obviously wildly in over his head with the media. I think Kensington Palace have something to answer for there as they should have taken him under their wing from the start and given him more help in dealing with press speculation. But the damage is done and now he has caused himself and his daughter a lot of heartache - that must be causing him stress, and I think he will be happier and more healthy for missing it.

I really feel for Meghan. She obviously had quite a complex and uneasy relationship with her dad. She must feel so betrayed that he went behind her back to have these press photographs taken, and it seems he is also texting gossip fodder directly to TMZ. While there are mitigating factors, he very clearly hasn't been putting his daughter's wellbeing first. If he had, she'd be able to have her dad at her wedding and now she can't.

I hope she still has a great day on Saturday, and that her father recovers, and that she's able to move on from this and have a reasonable relationship with him.

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QueenOfTheAndals · 18/05/2018 10:40

Oh yes, I agree that it's a good show of support from the Firm and a nice two-finger salute to the naysayers!

caperberries · 18/05/2018 10:49

a nice two-finger salute to the naysayers!

nice show of support from Charles

Not especially. Think about it. The statement from KP makes it very clear that MM asked Charles to do this - under the circumstances he could hardly refuse.

Had he himself offered to do it, yes, that would have been a clear show of support. As things stand, the RF's backs are against the wall.

MightyMucks · 18/05/2018 10:52

The statement from KP makes it very clear that MM asked Charles to do this - under the circumstances he could hardly refuse.

Oh yes he could and would have done if he’d wanted too. That man never does anything he doesn’t want to do - including squeezing his own toothpaste!

caperberries · 18/05/2018 10:53

I doubt he'd have the stomach to stand up to one of Harry's tantrums at this late stage!

Mumto2two · 18/05/2018 11:02

I think this just about sums it all up!
When you think about the historical meaning behind this tradition of ‘giving the bride away’. One family to another. To ask your future fil as opposed to any one of your own family or somebody who has been close to you throughout your life, and has helped shape who you are as a person, is in my opinion, a huge insult, and a huge denial, of who you really are, and where you have really come from.

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HerMajestysSecret · 18/05/2018 11:08

To ask your future fil as opposed to any one of your own family or somebody who has been close to you throughout your life, and has helped shape who you are as a person, is in my opinion, a huge insult, and a huge denial, of who you really are, and where you have really come from.

Absolutely. Does Meghan really have absolutely no-one in her family or social circle who could do this for her? I think that says a great deal about her. Everyone unsuitable has been airbrushed out of the picture.

She wants it to be her and the future king on the photos, not someone who may not fit the new profile she is creating for herself.

FirstOfHerName · 18/05/2018 11:14

Meghan is vulgar and an airhead.

oh yeah, that article in Time magazine on period poverty was definitely written by an airhead Hmm

LaurieMarlow · 18/05/2018 11:15

Does Meghan really have absolutely no-one in her family or social circle who could do this for her? I think that says a great deal about her.

But has she done the 'airbrushing' or has the palace?

For all we know, Meghan really wanted her mum to do it and her mum was willing, but the palace were uncomfortable with it and used their considerable influence to ensure it didn't happen.

We really don't have a clue what's actually going on. There are so many ways to interpret the situation.

Creambun2 · 18/05/2018 11:16

@firstofhername

Her name may have been on the article. I doubt she actually penned it.

caperberries · 18/05/2018 11:16

It's fairly clear that MM has been airbrushing her origins out of her life for some time now - this process of reinvention began long before she met Harry..

user1457017537 · 18/05/2018 11:17

I think she should have asked Wendell Pierce

AsdaPooShaker · 18/05/2018 11:18

Why isn’t her mum giving her away?? Why has her mum only been in the country for a couple of days? MM hardly knows Charles. It’s all beyond odd.

Mumto2two · 18/05/2018 11:19

I really don’t think the Palace has engineering any of this. MM has clearly set herself an agenda, to extricate herself from her past. Just as she seemingly has with her previous ‘life’...and the one before that too.
It’s farcical really, for somebody supposedly so clever, she must think the rest of us are dumb!

LaurieMarlow · 18/05/2018 11:21

I really don’t think the Palace has engineering any of this. MM has clearly set herself an agenda, to extricate herself from her past

And you're privy to her Machiavellian intentions how exactly? Hmm

SoupDragon · 18/05/2018 11:23

MM has clearly set herself an agenda, to extricate herself from her past

No, it’s not “clear” she has done that. It’s just what you think.

Mumto2two · 18/05/2018 11:26

You don’t think any of this bizarre behaviour, points towards somebody who wants to assume they have no significant family or loved ones from their past? Wipes the slate clean..and starts again??

Mumto2two · 18/05/2018 11:27

Only this time bigger and better than before...

Mumto2two · 18/05/2018 11:28

LaurieMarlow...I just think that if MM really wanted her mother to walk her down the aisle, the palace would have supported that.
Why wouldn’t they?

SoupDragon · 18/05/2018 11:29

You don’t think any of this bizarre behaviour, points towards somebody who wants to assume they have no significant family or loved ones from their past? Wipes the slate clean..and starts again??

No.

caperberries · 18/05/2018 11:29

No, it’s not “clear” she has done that. It’s just what you think.

She has apparently no relationships with any family members or close friends from the first 30-odd years of her life - apart from her mother?

This is surely a major red flag, it isn't normal

Mumto2two · 18/05/2018 11:30

No it’s not normal. But some people on here clearly think it is!

SoupDragon · 18/05/2018 11:33

Some people don’t assume we know everything there is to know.

LaurieMarlow · 18/05/2018 11:35

You don’t think any of this bizarre behaviour, points towards somebody who wants to assume they have no significant family or loved ones from their past? Wipes the slate clean..and starts again??

No, but I can see how someone who doesn't like her would think that.

There are many potential explanations...

Her close friends/family are uncomfortable with such a high profile role and she doesn't want to put them under pressure.

The palace doesn't like the idea of a break in protocall and are applying pressure.

Meghan is overwhelmed and is subconsciously trying to do what she thinks the RF would prefer.

Who the fuck knows? But I hate all this jumping to the worst conclusion because people actively want to paint her in a bad light.

Mumto2two · 18/05/2018 11:36

I don’t think anyone on here has assumed they know all there is to know??
But what we do know...is clearly odd.

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