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Or is Meghan Markle making the right choice?

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CaliforniaDream · 17/05/2018 12:31

I don't know if it actually was her choice or her father's, but it seems to me that it's the right decision for him not to come to the wedding.

He's obviously not at all well and needs to recover from his heart attack. He is also obviously wildly in over his head with the media. I think Kensington Palace have something to answer for there as they should have taken him under their wing from the start and given him more help in dealing with press speculation. But the damage is done and now he has caused himself and his daughter a lot of heartache - that must be causing him stress, and I think he will be happier and more healthy for missing it.

I really feel for Meghan. She obviously had quite a complex and uneasy relationship with her dad. She must feel so betrayed that he went behind her back to have these press photographs taken, and it seems he is also texting gossip fodder directly to TMZ. While there are mitigating factors, he very clearly hasn't been putting his daughter's wellbeing first. If he had, she'd be able to have her dad at her wedding and now she can't.

I hope she still has a great day on Saturday, and that her father recovers, and that she's able to move on from this and have a reasonable relationship with him.

OP posts:
raisedbyguineapigs · 17/05/2018 22:50

Rose Just out of interest why do you care about MM if you don't care about the RF?

speakout · 17/05/2018 22:50

OOh Markle family bingo.

Hold on I'll pass around the cards.

First person to be caught cheating wins.

ILikeMyChickenFried · 17/05/2018 22:56

I've found myself reporting pretty much every MM thread. It starts off as an interesting discussion and turns into something quite rotten.

user1457017537 · 17/05/2018 23:03

Ilikemychickenfried or you could just not read them.

MightyMucks · 17/05/2018 23:04

I think the gig has been called off but I think there may have been visa issues too.

ILikeMyChickenFried · 17/05/2018 23:05

It's just very unpleasant, page upon page of nasty, bitter comments about a woman we know nothing about.

CocoaGin · 17/05/2018 23:07

I thought well of Harry and Meghan until I saw they'd invited the Spice GIrls to their wedding. And James Corden.

Then I thought they were idiots.

BrendasUmbrella · 17/05/2018 23:08

I just had a thought, what if MM told PH a bunch of stuff, or even kept things from him about her family, poor me etc. and now it is all coming out. I wonder if he is shocked, having second thoughts.

It was Prince Harry who said that the Royal family would be the family Meghan never had. And having seen their behaviour, I understand what he means now! No, I think she explained her family accurately and neither one has been shocked that they lived down to their reputations...

Wtaf - who goes to tea when their father is suffering from a heart attack and surgery

Someone who is about to marry a Prince in two days? I'm quite amused by people who think the wedding should be postponed because her father had some stents put in. This isn't a simple registry office do!

Out of interest why is no-one questioning why Meghan's estranged relatives are clustering in Windsor when they are not invited to the wedding and could be sitting at the bedside of Markle Senior instead?

I'll be happy when Saturday comes so that the desperate and questionable can stop reaching and praying that the wedding doesn't happen Hmm

CurlyWurlyTwirly · 17/05/2018 23:08

Yes, how the hell do they know all these sleb types

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 17/05/2018 23:20

What is it with all these rancid threads lately? Such vicious bile dressed up as 'conversation' by no-nothing blowhards... I wish MNHQ would just delete them.

Mycatiskillingme · 17/05/2018 23:21

Megan obviously does not have the best relationship with her father and maybe she has not had that for a while. In the video posted in the sun she was about 18 and the relationship was not that good then.
www.thesun.co.uk/news/5067383/meghan-markle-reveals-fractured-relationship-with-father/
Really nobody should judge her as only she knows what their history was like. You don’t owe your parents anything they owe you a stable relationship and you do not have to let damaging people in your life just because they are your parents.

I feel for her and hope she her wedding day goes brilliantly.

HadronCollider · 17/05/2018 23:24

Oh you are seriously joking....James Corden?!

MissEliza · 17/05/2018 23:30

I know this sounds horrible but I really don't buy the story that her dad is having an operation.

School12345 · 17/05/2018 23:31

Yup.

And the Spice Girls.

Are Harry and Meghan good friends with the Spice Girls or do they think this shows them as having their fingers on the pulses of modern popular culture? 😂

MissEliza · 17/05/2018 23:34

Why are threads like this a 'fucking disgrace'? I think as taxpayers who are forking out millions for the security for this wedding, I think we get entitled to an opinion about certain aspects of it, particularly when its descended into a bit of an undignified farce in front of the rest of the world.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 17/05/2018 23:41

Good on Soup and other posters who are reporting these thick-wit fests. They are indeed, a 'fucking disgrace' and anybody who needs to ask why are not worth explaining to.

REPORT, REPORT, REPORT... I hope MNHQ are limbering up to get rid of this spiteful dross and any other that spews forth.

GoodAfternoonSeattle · 18/05/2018 00:05

Oh come off it. It’s just threads of what amounts to celeb gossip. Who really cares? Bet Meghan doesn’t. If she didn’t like people talking about her she wouldn’t be an A-list celebrity about to marry into the royal family.

Stay off the threads if they raise your blood pressure. It’s just an Internet forum.

RoseWhiteTips · 18/05/2018 00:53

Exactly. If you do not approve of other people’s opinions, you should stay away. It is not your duty to “police” threads and attempt to stifle any comments of which you do not approve.

SoupDragon · 18/05/2018 06:58

Exactly. If you do not approve of other people’s opinions, you should stay away. It is not your duty to “police” threads and attempt to stifle any comments of which you do not approve.

Take your own advice. Who made you thethreadpolice?

I won’t stop saying how disgusting it is the way posters are picking over thiswithglee.

caperberries · 18/05/2018 07:46

A Royal wedding is inevitably a major event, and it isn't every day that someone from a family of hillbillies marries into the Royal Family so it's hardly surprising that people will be discussing it.

Are we all supposed to avert our eyes and pretend that there's nothing unusual about the situation?

MightyMucks · 18/05/2018 07:57

I don’t know. When it was just a bit of speculating about the guest list, but what’s happened this week has been like the worst excesses of the War of the Wales.

There’s no need for them to keep showing wall to wall coverage of her awful sister or fly in random assorted nephews and ex wives to put the boot in. And what’s happened with her Dad is horrible.

Until Sunday I thought it was plausible her family had genuine grievance, but her siblings have just behaved like scum the last week so it’s obvious she was right not to invite them.

SheStoopsToConker · 18/05/2018 08:20

FGS it's not like Harry's side is covered in glory - grandfather allegedly was a wife-beater, dad wants to be a tampax, uncle has a dodgy paedo friend etc etc. What's staging a few photos in comparison??

JamieFrasersArse · 18/05/2018 08:22

If you do not approve of other people’s opinions, you should stay away.

Some of us have a funny way of not approving of the opinions of liars who make borderline racist comments...

SoupDragon · 18/05/2018 08:30

Are we all supposed to avert our eyes and pretend that there's nothing unusual about the situation?

And you can’t see the difference between thinking it’s unusual and picking over every detail with utter glee?

As for calling them “hillbillies” that’s rather offensive.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 18/05/2018 08:30

RoseWhiteTips, Just because you don't like the comments opposed to your own nasty views doesn't mean that other posters are 'policing' them. They are just expressing their disgust at the comments.

I don't know why anybody gives you any credibility at all really. Even on an anonymous forum there are some standards, however low.

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