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To go for afternoon tea with my 3 year old

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yellowmellw · 16/05/2018 11:12

I'm feeling a bit down and anxious at the moment. I'm going through a miscarriage (of which my body hasn't realised yet so it hasn't actually started) baby should be 12 weeks tomorrow but heartbeat stopped around 8. I've a hospital appt tomorrow to start the medical route.

So would it be weird to go for fancy afternoon tea with my 3 year old as a wee treat. Would it look weird.

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BlueJava · 16/05/2018 11:14

I'm sorry about your miscarrage and I hope the medical side goes well.

I can't understand why it would be weird to go for a lovely fancy tea with your 3 year old. Sounds lovely to me!

PorkyPortia · 16/05/2018 11:14

Go for it , I used to do it all the time with mine
sorry for what you are going through yellow

SadieHH · 16/05/2018 11:14

Hell no. Do whatever you need or want to do at this time.

Sorry about your mc, look after yourself FlowersBrewCake

Igottastartthinkingbee · 16/05/2018 11:15

Flowers do whatever you need OP. X

Confusedbeetle · 16/05/2018 11:15

Just do it, be kind to your self and your little one, who will be confused if you are sad

Oysterbabe · 16/05/2018 11:16

Not weird at all, one of the great things about having small children is always having a coffee / lunch buddy on hand.

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yellowmellw · 16/05/2018 11:16

Your replies are so lovely and making me emotional. Everyone in real life doesn't seem to understand or care about miscarriage apart from my lovely dp who is in work at the moment so feel a bit lonely.

I'm going to go for some fancy tea. Just needed a little kick.

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Velvetbee · 16/05/2018 11:16

No, that sounds a much needed treat. Not weird at all. Do be gentle with yourself and make a nice memory with your 3 year old.

vampirethriller · 16/05/2018 11:16

I think that's a lovely idea. And not at all weird.
I'm sorryFlowers

viques · 16/05/2018 11:17

Go for it, some Marks and spencer stores do a great afternoon tea for two at a very reasonable price and you would be less likely to get side eye looks in M and S.

So sorry to hear of the mc.

WeWere0nABreak · 16/05/2018 11:17

Not at all. I took mine at 2.

So sorry OP. Do whatever you need to take care of yourself Flowers

KirstenRaymonde · 16/05/2018 11:18

I think that sounds like a great plan, I have no kids and would also like to do that, 3 year olds are the best company. So sorry about your miscarriage, do whatever you need to make you feel happy Flowers

Waddlelikeapenguin · 16/05/2018 11:24

That sounds like a lovely idea I know my 3 yr old would love something like that.

So sorry for your loss I hope the medics are kind & helpful tomorrow Flowers

SquishySquirmy · 16/05/2018 11:26

I've taken my 4 year old for afternoon tea, and it wasn't weird at all...
She absolutely loved it!

We went for a cheapish one at the local garden center, where they offer a kids afternoon tea as well as an adults.
I underestimated how big the children's one would be though.

When they brought out the two cake stands, her eyes lit up and she asked "mum, can I have whichever cake I want?" I told her that ALL the cakes were for us and she nearly exploded with excitement. Grin

I suppose it depends on what your child is like (eg if they will sit still for cake) and on how posh the afternoon tea is - I don't think I would take her to a very high end hotel afternoon tea for example, but then again I would have thought they'd tell you at booking if the place wasn't suitable for children.

If its like the tea we went to and you can't finish it all between you, ask for the left over treats to be boxed up for later.

Hope you both have a lovely time.
Flowers

thetriangleisarealinstrument · 16/05/2018 11:30

Flowers thats so hard!
Certainly take your 3yo for afternoon tea im sure you will have a lovely time! Its not weird at all. I often take my 3yo to the tea rooms in our village, he loves it.
Its a great idea to do something nice for yourself and to bond with your 3yo.

WeWere0nABreak · 16/05/2018 11:32

Depending on where you live, you could look for somewhere that does a children's tea? We're fairly near here, for example:

www.chatsworth.org/shopping-eating/afternoon-tea/childrens-tea/

I accept no responsibility if you think the kids' one looks more delicious than the grown-up one, however!

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yellowmellw · 16/05/2018 11:33

It's a local garden centre tea which does children's also

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Singlenotsingle · 16/05/2018 11:34

I don't mean to burst your bubble but if it was my gc, she would be bored and wreck the place. Maybe yours is well behaved and quiet, though?

Highhorse1981 · 16/05/2018 11:35

Why don’t you see if any chance DP can join you two?

Orchidflower1 · 16/05/2018 11:35

Sounds a lovely thing to do. Sorry for you loss 💐

Igottastartthinkingbee · 16/05/2018 11:37

single I doubt OP would be considering afternoon tea if her 3 year old was likely to make it a stressful experience! Both of my kids were very happy to sit nicely in cafes at 3 years old (very food motivated kids!).

Kittykat93 · 16/05/2018 11:39

I think that sounds a really nice idea. Do you not have any friends close by who could join? If not enjoy your afternoon just you two Thanks

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yellowmellw · 16/05/2018 11:40

Lovely idea but he's a teacher and only has a small lunch break unfortunately.

Yes my dc is very food motivated and I'm in a play-centre at the moment to burn some energy.

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mydietstartsmonday · 16/05/2018 11:40

Go, go go
Your 3 yr old will know its a special treat
So sorry to hear what you are going through.

Silvercatowner · 16/05/2018 11:41

What a lovely idea. Mine used to love special things like that and would have been good as gold.

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