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Alcohol and children

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TyrannosaurusBexx · 15/05/2018 21:10

Very stressful day. Would love to finish the bottle of wine left over from a recent bbq but I'm alone at home with the toddler and 7 month old baby.

AIBU to think it's not too awful to have a glass or two? The almost 2 years of bed sharing with one child or another up until now meant alcohol was completely ruled out. Now they are both in a bed of their own and sleep through the night.

Is it finally time for a shred of normality? Wine

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IAmALamp · 15/05/2018 21:10

It’s fine! Wine

kissthealderman · 15/05/2018 21:11

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Llanali · 15/05/2018 21:13

Why would it not be fine?

PurpleDaisies · 15/05/2018 21:14

Why do you think you need to ask permission? It’s fjbe.

Bi11yOneMate · 15/05/2018 21:14

I fairly frequently have a small glass and bedshare. I just make sure I stay awake until I've processed all the alcohol. I didn't until they were about 6 months old, but after that, hell yes!

DiddimusStench · 15/05/2018 21:14

As long as you’re under the limit to drive if there was an emergency, I don’t what the problem would be

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 15/05/2018 21:15

It’s fine.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 15/05/2018 21:15

There won’t be an emergency.

Squishandasquash · 15/05/2018 21:17

Cannot see what the issue would be. Am having a glass myself right now with my 2 under 3s in bed. And I don't get the 'as long as you can drive' argument - we don't have a car!

Storm4star · 15/05/2018 21:17

The law states you can’t be “drunk in charge of a child” that’s the specific offence. Unless your going to get steaming drunk on two glasses, it’s fine. Enjoy 😊

SoyDora · 15/05/2018 21:18

Genuinely can’t see why it’s an issue!

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TyrannosaurusBexx · 15/05/2018 21:18

Not having any parent friends makes these sort of judgement calls a little hard. I think I'm in shock that I'm actually starting to regain a somewhat normal life after two years of tiny, dependent dictators taking over Grin

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Storm4star · 15/05/2018 21:21

Normal service can be resumed, your ok OP 😉

cardibach · 15/05/2018 21:22

I just googled that Storm and it’s actually drunk in charge of a child under 7 in a public place.
It’s fine OP. And yes - I don’t get why you need to be fit to drive either. Plenty of parents don’t have cars - does that make them unfit? If my child is ill enough to require hospital treat,ent in a hurry in the middle of the night I’ll be calling an ambulance anyway as I’m not qualified to help her. Or at least a taxi so I can focus on her and not crash. (DD is 2w now actually, so I won’t be doing anything of the sort, but you get my meaning!)

cardibach · 15/05/2018 21:22

22 not 2w

Original poster
TyrannosaurusBexx · 15/05/2018 21:22

Enjoying the glass now, if an emergency arises at least I'll have the calming affect of wine to see me through Wine

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Crispbutty · 15/05/2018 21:24

“As long as you’re under the limit to drive if there was an emergency, I don’t what the problem would be”

Hmm and what if she doesn’t drive .. even if age does she can get a taxi, in the very very unlikely event of needing to get somewhere.

Crispbutty · 15/05/2018 21:24

*She not age

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 15/05/2018 21:24

If you’re too drunk to drive then your judgement/awareness may be impaired more generally, I don’t see it as being just about transport if there’s an emergency. I would think a glass or two of wine is fine.

Strokethefurrywall · 15/05/2018 21:30

I don't think I've ever, in all my 6+ years of parenting, ever worried about drinking too much of an evening "in case there was an emergency and I couldn't drive".

Honestly, how paranoid can people be??

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TyrannosaurusBexx · 15/05/2018 21:30

I don't currently drive, but in an actual emergency I'd be calling an ambulance- a lesser emergency I'd call my mum or sister to drive so I could focus on the child.

Either way I wouldn't be driving them in an emergency, I'd probably drive better when drunk than I would when panicked about my child's life!

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CatLadyToddlerMother · 15/05/2018 21:44

Single mother to a 2 year old here, I always have a glass or two on a Saturday. Am never drunk.

As long as you don't get so off your head you can't react to the children waking then you should be fine.

Goodasgoldilox · 15/05/2018 21:44

There is always a taxi if you have no help and need to drive.

Enjoy you wine. Stay sane!

IsMyUserNameRubbish · 15/05/2018 21:46

I'm in the minority here, I don't drink so maybe I'm a bit biased, but alcohol around a seventh month old baby is wrong, you know that or wouldn't be asking for justification. What would happen if for any reason, heaven forbid you needed to take your child to hospital, or get the doctor in and the smelt alcohol on your breath, is it really worth the risk, but like I say I'm probably biased because I've not had a drink for twenty years, just didn't like the effects or taste, and feel tonnes better health wise for it, I have had however two seven month old babies, so I'd still say no, one drink leads to two, leads to three etc.

nursy1 · 15/05/2018 21:49

I’d just have 1 to feel “ the relax” - get drunk too quickly so 2 glasses over my limit on a school night.

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