Alcohol and children

[TyrannosaurusBexx]

Very stressful day. Would love to finish the bottle of wine left over from a recent bbq but I'm alone at home with the toddler and 7 month old baby.

AIBU to think it's not too awful to have a glass or two? The almost 2 years of bed sharing with one child or another up until now meant alcohol was completely ruled out. Now they are both in a bed of their own and sleep through the night.

Is it finally time for a shred of normality?

What would happen if for any reason, heaven forbid you needed to take your child to hospital, or get the doctor in and the smelt alcohol on your breath

What would you expect the doctor to do? The op isn’t talking about getting hammered, just having a couple of glasses of wine.

Usually if one of us wanted a drink (always my ex) they'd sleep downstairs and the other wouldn't touch alcohol so me having a drink whilst being alone just feels alien.

Anyway this one glass is drastically improving my day. Thanks guys

I've been a parent for 26 years. I have 5 DC, 2 still quite young and at home.

Only once have I had an evening emergency. Luckily I'd only had 1/2 a glass of wine very unlike me

I just drink if I want to, to be honest.

Fine if your DH is home and not drinking as well, otherwise no I'd refrain.

I'd be livid with those ages if my DH drank alcohol whilst in charge of them. It impairs the senses, judgement etc and whilst an emergency may be rare it's not the point.

When my DH worked away and I had to get four of the little blighters to bed on my own, I used to have one large glass of wine once they were all asleep. I knew I could drive in an emergency, but it just chilled me enough once the busy day was over so that I went to bed and slept properly.

Enjoy your wine.

@IsMyUserNameRubbish one glass is remaining at one glass as the leftover wine was more emptied by my darling mother than previously thought so don't worry about me suddenly overcoming to binge drinking

There are a lot of overly-anxious people on MN. I see it time and again.

Enjoy your wine, OP. I've spent NYE with a paediatric consultant and her husband. Everyone in the house was pretty drunk. In the unlikely event of an emergency we would have called a taxi or ambulance.

I read your thread title and thought you were on about giving alcohol to children.
Having a glass as an adult? Much better idea!!

Tyrann I'm not worried about you in the slightest, it's not my seven month old, just giving an opinion. You obviously only wanted to hear the ones condoning drinking around an infant, so you've got them now you can crack on.

Wow. Your username may or may not be rubbish but your advice is. A single glass of wine of an evening isn't going to lead to a sudden binge. It won't do the child the slightest bit of harm. What an odd attitude.

Drink your wine and enjoy , I was very naughty and had a large glass in the sunshine this afternoon whilst my youngest was napping 😄

Can't understand why you even need to ask.
And definitely don't agree with Rubbish.
Sounds completely over-anxious.

no, one drink leads to two, leads to three etc

Does it? Not for me.

Oh dear, terrible, I assumed OP could drive

I was only saying it’s the kinky reason I could think of that could persuade someone not to have a drink - just in case they had to use the car and had no one else to rely on to drive. It’s that simple. I’m not judging, I often have a drink when DCs are asleep and I’d happily have more than one or two if someone else was around to drive if needs be.

Stand down.

BoxsetsAndPopcorn: what if OP is a single mum? What is her DH works away a lot? Should she still refrain then??

OP: cheers! Enjoy it!

I don’t get out much, having two young dc, so a couple of glasses of wine (every now and again!) helps keep me sane!!

HAAA!!! Kinky reason.

Not even been drinking

I'm in the minority here,

Yes - for a good reason. It's a completely over reaction to think that one or two glasses of wine is going to cause those sorts of problems.

@IsMyUserNameRubbish

You have obviously distanced yourself from alcohol so much that you have lost complete sense of the risks of a glass of wine. Most people are able to sensibly evaluate risk and exercise appropriate caution.

Of course a glass or two of wine is fine OP.

Wolfe how do you know what it will lead to? I worked in my local A&E when a mother brought her daughter in who'd fell down the bottom four steps in her house and broke her leg, the woman was reported to social services why? because she's been drinking and as far as I could see, she wasn't drunk but the doctor smelt it. Anyway, I don't give a shite who drinks, who doesn't and no attitude here just giving my opinion, as are you. Won't be bothered reading any more replies to my opinion, so as I said crack on.

Unless you reported the woman you don't know the real story. People aren't reported to social services for having one glass of wine. People who get drunk every night or habitually drink to excess don't wonder if it is ok to have a single glass of wine.
You have issues. Not the OP.
May just crack on and have a glass myself. Just the one.

Good for you!

@Ismyusernamerubbish.

My son fell off a slide at playgroup and broke his arm, That was reported to social services. As far as I am aware none of the playgroup leaders had been drinking.

My DD fell down 8-9 concrete stairs in April and that was reported to Social Services, it was 8am in the morning and I’d most definitely not been drinking! So I don’t think she was reported for drinking.

Rubbish we're talking about two glasses of wine, not a vat of vodka. I don't understand how people with your level of obsessive risk assessment function in their lives.

OP, it sounds like you've given this some serious thought and are a responsible parent. You're not going to get hammered on two glasses of wine. Enjoy yourself.

I confess I do enjoy the alcohol threads on mumsnet.

They are up there with the exploding cars when people leave kids sleeping in a car on their own private drive in sight, the kidnsppers who strike when you pay for pertol at the forecourt, the deadly foxes eating sleeping babies iin their prams in gardens and the deadly cat poo lurking to kill in flower beds.

op.

Aren't most A and E accidents with children reported for follow up?