I am unsure what to do over some behaviour I have witnessed from a local nanny. She is well known in the area and has built up a positive reputation for herself.
On one occasion, I witnessed an incident where one of the children she was looking after was running away from her, despite her calling the child's name repeatedly. The child is only a toddler, and she proceeded to call the child a 'little shit' under her breath (and in earshot of myself and other parents!). I know we have all had moments of frustration with our young children, but to actually say that aloud and in front of other parents is unacceptable and unprofessional in my mind.
On another occasion she started loudly speculating with other mums that the child she is looking after must have ASD, and the mother is in denial. She went through lists of his behaviour, being critical of the mothers approach to him. Cue her asking the other mums what their opinions are and discussing her theory in front of said child!
I know if this woman was looking after my child I would want to know about these incidents. I would not continue using her for childcare. AIBU to think this is really inappropriate? I am unlikely to report it as I am fearful I will alienate myself and I feel it isn't my place to snitch on the nanny. I have not seen anything that would cause major alarm bells, just highly inappropriate behaviour.