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I think IBU but could I take DD out of school for this

65 replies

NeverEnoughSleep1 · 15/05/2018 09:43

I do think IBU and wanted to get a MN opinion, my DD is in reception and have fantastic attendance and I would never normally let her miss time off school for holidays or things like that (not judging people who do). So DP has 2 D.C. and we've been having a few issues between the girls lately and it's really affected my DD lots of questions, tears and upset. DP has been spending more 1-1 with his DD and I think my DD needs the same from me.

Problem is I work weekends with no flexibility for time off so I'm wondering/debating if it would be acceptable to take her out of school on Friday and just have a really fun day the two of us something we wouldn't normally do that I know she would love?

OP posts:
kitkatsky · 15/05/2018 09:48

Well it's only a couple of weeks til the hols so would be inclined to wait, but if you can't then I can't see it doing much harm provided she knows it's a one off

TeenTimesTwo · 15/05/2018 09:48

As a one off, I don't see why not.
Just tell the school, and expect it to be marked unauthorised, but not an issue.

Storm4star · 15/05/2018 09:49

You may get different answers from others but I would say go for it. A lovely girlie day, just the two of you sounds just what she needs right now.

Mari50 · 15/05/2018 09:49

I don’t think YABU to do it however I’m not sure that a day of one on one with mum sounds like it’s going to solve the ongoing problems.
You might have to look a bit harder at the dynamics in your family unit.

Unihorn · 15/05/2018 09:50

She's in reception, I would do it without hesitation.

AgentHannahWells · 15/05/2018 09:51

My DC still remember the day we all skived off, they were in infants and they are now high school age. Do it and enjoy!!!

Starlighter · 15/05/2018 09:51

Reception? Go for it. Their mental well-being is important too. Lovely idea.

Happinesss · 15/05/2018 09:52

Go for it, I would

LoveInTokyo · 15/05/2018 09:52

If you do this I would write a sick note so you don’t get any hassle from the school.

NameChange30 · 15/05/2018 09:53

YABU

It’s half term in a week and a half, you could spend the whole 5 days with her.

If it was ages until the next school holiday I could understand it but you really don’t have long to wait.

I also think you are BU to work all weekend every weekend when you have a school age DC. I realise most people have to work and don’t always get to pick and choose working days and hours. But you should look for a different job IMO.

As for the problems between the girls, try family therapy.

Unihorn · 15/05/2018 09:55

AnotherEmma
I didn't realise weekend jobs were reserved for the childless Hmm

BlueBalletDress · 15/05/2018 09:56

I would definitely! Her mental health and well being are more important that one day in school.

Have a great day.

NameChange30 · 15/05/2018 09:57

Who looks after her at the weekend when you’re working - her Dad or your DP?

What about his DC, are they with you full time or do they also see their Mum?

Abetes · 15/05/2018 09:57

Wait until the holidays. They are only a week and a half away. Plan a really nice day then, just the two of you.

PorkyPortia · 15/05/2018 09:58

Jesus AnotherEmma , she wasn’t asking you your opinion about her job
Yes OP take her out of school and have some fun

bobstersmum · 15/05/2018 09:59

Just do it, it sounds like a lovely idea, enjoy your day together!

NameChange30 · 15/05/2018 10:01

@Unihorn
That’s not what I said!
Nothing wrong with a weekend job, just that if it’s so inflexible that it doesn’t allow any weekend days off at all, it’s not ideal. I realise some people don’t have a choice but I would really really hate not having a full day with my DC at least once or twice a month.

Fruitcorner123 · 15/05/2018 10:02

I would take her out

but

I get that what anotheremma says seems controversial but could DD's behaviour be down to the fact that she never ever has a day with you. One day might be nice but could you look at rearranging things or changing jobs so you can get some days with her every week or even every few weeks?

Newtothis2017 · 15/05/2018 10:02

Definitely do it. A special day like that would mean the world to your dc

mumeeee · 15/05/2018 10:02

YANBU. She is in reception and a fun day with you would be good for her at the moment

BlueJava · 15/05/2018 10:04

I would not do it because it reinforces the idea that school is not that important. It'll be half term very soon anyway so could you do something then instead?

AlonsoTigerHeart · 15/05/2018 10:04

We skived to go get a kitten once when ds1 was in year 1, It was near the coast so we spent the morning at the beach and got the kitty on The way back k he's 15 now and Hasn't turned into some school skipping delinquent devil child for it.

Ds2is in year two and we are planning a London museum trip for early July, it will be a school day.

HellenaHandbasket · 15/05/2018 10:05

I absolutely would. No hesitation

NameChange30 · 15/05/2018 10:08

I can’t believe it’s “controversial” to say that parent(s) and DCs should ideally have the opportunity to spend a day together on a regular basis Confused

AlonsoTigerHeart · 15/05/2018 10:10

It's not controversial, its just not well thought out.

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