I think IBU but could I take DD out of school for this

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I do think IBU and wanted to get a MN opinion, my DD is in reception and have fantastic attendance and I would never normally let her miss time off school for holidays or things like that (not judging people who do). So DP has 2 D.C. and we've been having a few issues between the girls lately and it's really affected my DD lots of questions, tears and upset. DP has been spending more 1-1 with his DD and I think my DD needs the same from me.

Problem is I work weekends with no flexibility for time off so I'm wondering/debating if it would be acceptable to take her out of school on Friday and just have a really fun day the two of us something we wouldn't normally do that I know she would love?

I wouldn't keep a child off school unless ill mainly because of what happened to me, my mother would always keep me off school, was always feeling ill with her nerves found out later was the menopause, she would beg me not to go, I was around 10 at the time would bribe me to stay off would say she would take me out buy me things, tell me not to tell my dad who was at work, it ruined my life spent so much time off couldn't catch up never took any exams, I swore when I had my dd I wouldn't never be like that, she hated school at one point but I made her go she done very well at school and uni and now has a very good career, for years I resented my mother for doing that to me, I know it's not the same thing but hit a nerve with me

i believe that 1 day counts as half a percent. i think time with your child is precious and one day missed of reception class off will hardly matter when she is in her twenties. have a nice time just the two of you.

I'd just tell school its a doctor or dentist appt. Agree 1;1 time with DC's so important and just a little time can be invaluable at any age!

Go for it
Tell the school the truth though
When my DS was in reception, he was tired and emoitional one morning and I dropped the school a now to say that he wasn’t coming in. He wasn’t ill but he needed a quiet day with me to get back on track. They messaged back “very sensible”.
We went to the park, cinema, chilled. Somehow seems less fraught mid week than at the weekend.

If she's not yet 5 it's not a legal requirement to attend school. Go for it in any case. What a lucky little girl

My DD's teacher actually suggested this idea to me herself in reception when I mentioned DD was pretty tired! We played and and ate ice cream in a sunny park all afternoon. Go for it.

Ignore the jel-arses and do it.

Ive done with with my DC who are older than yours and wouldn't hesitate to do it again if needed.

I agree with you anotheremma. But I do feel for the op if she has tried to change her job/working hours and doesn't have any choice. If thats the case op take the day off! And enjoy x

I do it a couple of times a year and DD is in Yr9 😀

Do it, go somewhere lovely and special, take lots of photos/video.

If your child isn't yet 5 there is no legal requirement for them to be in school. It is one day. I work in a primary school, lots of children have been off recently because of bank holiday weekends meaning they can have 4 unauthorised days out of school and not be fined (it is 5 days or more here.)

I have a relative who regularly allowed her kids days off school on a whim. She had quite a dysfunctional life and it really affected her kids outcome in life in the end. The ease at which they didn’t need to go to school, carried through to their secondary school years, and they often didn’t bother, for the most trivial of reasons. And this is unfortunately how they still behave in adulthood. One of them has never been able to hold down a job for very long, always phoning in sick with made up half baked excuses, and is now currently on benefits. It’s sad really, but they never had a good example set for them.
However, that’s an aside, and one day in reception, especially if under 5, is hardly setting a precedent in stone, and your children’s psychological well bring matters just as much as their education. I certainly wouldn’t judge based on that.

Do it. The benefits for both of you are huge. It's reception, it's not mandatory that under 5s are there, and if you can give the class teacher/school a bit of warning, even better. Have a brilliant day together.

Bank holiday on monday?

It’s half term shortly! You haven’t said why you can’t do it then?

Just do it! Unless she has exams or something, take the time out. She will love it, it will be a great boost.