To be sick of Facebook pages/threads moaning about being a mum?

[Hugsythespacecowboy]

Like yeah, it's hard, it's tiring, it is shit at times, but there are so many pages and articles and mushy poems being circulated at the moment and I'm absolutely sick of seeing them.

Parenthood is hard. We get it. The childless must be absolutely rolling their eyes.

I know how that woman feels! Don't we all?

However, reading it just made my stress levels rise, ha!! I won't be following her, needless to say!

Yes I totally agree OP! Constance hall is the worst, she’s an absolute car crash. It’s not good for your mental health to dwell on how awful your life is so I don’t get that argument at all.

Child free person here and I thought it was just me! I hate hate hate all the martyr-ish prose. I know it's hard but jeeeez!

I hate to sound patronising but until you have kids you don't really 'get it'. I know before I had dc I had this idealised picture in my head of what raising kids would be like, the reality is very different!

Child free person here and I thought it was just me! I hate hate hate all the martyr-ish prose. I know it's hard but jeeeez

I don't think a child free person is right to judge tbh .
You don't know how hard it is unless you have your own

YANBU being a mum is the best thing ever! I can’t stand hearing people complain about it.

You don't know how hard it is unless you have your own

Did you not think every parent ever saying ‘it’s really hard and tiring’ wasn’t enough of a hint?!?!?

People moaning about their children are so boring.

People moaning about people moaning are so boring

You don't know how hard it is unless you have your own

Not even remotely true. Before my own DC I used to babysit my sister's two DDs often. They were exhausting, hilarious, delightful and, at times, soul-destroying. You can spend a few hours with a child and get a rough idea of the unrelenting nonsense that parenthood can bring.

Also, parenting is awesome. I genuinely am happier and a better person now I have DCs. All the martyr posts are attention-seeking and whilst I get that for some women motherhood is exhausting, it's also not a contest and I find looking at all the things I love about it helps me not whine when one of them gets up at 5am and dresses as Thor and demands a biscuit.

It’s not that hard. Jeez. Plenty of people have harder lives than an average person bringing up a few kids

but there are so many pages and articles and mushy poems being circulated at the moment

Maybe it's just because its Mothers Day in many countries today?

YANBU at all I’m glad it’s not just me. I had a miscarriage last year and it really changed my perspective on parenthood and a lot of these Mum bloggers really get on my tits. A lot of is relatable and life for me right now is hectic with a 3 year old and 10 week old but I chose to have my children and frankly I don’t have the time to write endless posts about how hard it is blah blah.

The ones I love to hate the most are the validating shit parents ones. “Sweetie you left your children in the pub. We’ve all been there. You’re doing your best, it’s so fucking hard, so so hard, this parenting lark. Your children love you and you’re a queen. It could happen to any of us, I mean, how can we remember to take our children home amongst all the other hardships we have?”

I hate to sound patronising but until you have kids you don't really 'get it'. I know before I had dc I had this idealised picture in my head of what raising kids would be like, the reality is very different!

Not every child-free person has an idealised idea of what it's like! A lot of us have spent a lot of time with children, you know.

Also, parenting is awesome. I genuinely am happier and a better person now I have DCs.

Glad to hear it, moon!

YANBU. They’re awful

Rita.
Im an early years teacher, have a large extended family with many small children and babysat as a teenager. NOTHING prepared me for the storm of motherhood. It really is something you can only understand by experiencing it.

That said, it's tough but I love it. And yes, I do find those articles/memes really annoying.

People moaning about their kids are as irritating as the ones with the flowery shite about how being a mummy is the best job on earth. And those who talk as if they were the only woman ever, to have become one.
I suppose you ought to feel sorry for them really, as, happy mums or sad mums, they seem to define themselves only as mothers.
But by jeez, that mummy-blog-whinebag the OP linked to makes me want to hurl things. What is it with women who seem to suddenly become bloggers after childbirth?

Heh we all have a fuck off thought at stuff. Mine is about how bloody awesome being a mother is, these are the people who can’t cope when they go off to live their own lives because motherhood defines them. We all have something we roll our eyes at.

Read them, don’t read them.

At first many years ago I kind of liked it, as it made me feel not so alone. However, it sort of spiralled from the odd thing on it here and there to being everywhere I look. I guess it's due to my friends being parents and algorithms. I hide the posts but don't want to hide my friends or I'll miss out on the point of Facebook I guess.

It's all just got a bit martyr-ish I guess. Plus there's so many of them I do wonder what the dads of the world think when they see them.

The ones I love to hate the most are the validating shit parents ones. “Sweetie you left your children in the pub. We’ve all been there. You’re doing your best, it’s so fucking hard, so so hard, this parenting lark. Your children love you and you’re a queen. It could happen to any of us, I mean, how can we remember to take our children home amongst all the other hardships we have?”

😂😂

I don't understand why anyone gets upset over anything on Facebook. It's literally the most soul destroying platform in existence. Just don't look at it!

Zzzzz

I think one major secret about having children that no one says out loud is that everyone has different levels of difficulty they can cope with. Some people’s are high, and some are very low. Imagine you have a stressful job and have spent your 20s doing it. Imagine you are a barrister or a nurse or an accountant or a TV producer. You can cope and thrive under huge amounts of stress. Then imagine those people whose careers have been easy- totally wiped out by parenthood. Would you take those people’s advice about how hard it all is? Everyone has different levels and this is accepted in normal life. However with parenthood it’s somehow expected that one persons “hardest thing I’ve ever done”
Is equal to everyone else’s

Meh, suppose it's there way of letting off steam like you are here