The young woman in Lush called me My Dear today AIBU to

[NotsoLush]

Wonder if this is what The a Young are calling everyone these days (like when they kept saying "bless" a few years back) or did she think I was from her gran's generation?

So because one person said that? Everyone’s saying it? Ok then

AIBU to what?

Eh? So somebody called you dear. Big deal?

Need more context. What was the sentence, and accent.

I can’t get too worked up, a new young guy at my sports club restaurant kept saying darling or love or summat/ i did notice and it maybe irked a little but couldn’t get too annoyed about it enough to say anything - anyway - he has either moved on or learned.

It depends on how it was said.

angryburd - read my OP and you should get the AIBU

Melanie - she handed me my purchase and said "there you are, my dear". No accent.

Everyone has an accent

English accent.

Why is it unreasonable that she called you my dear? Would you rather she said ‘there you go dickhead’?! She was polite. I don’t understand the issue here

She's was being polite. Would you rather of her stood there chewing gum and gossiping to the cashier next her making out you're an inconvenience and that she's doing you a favor by serving you.

I wouldn't think twice about it. Some people use endearments when they speak to strangers some don't. I've experienced it since forever, so not an age thing IME.

Londoners say m'dear a fair bit. And luv. And darlin'.

Midlanders - m'duck, m'lovely ect

Maybe she's now kicking herself wondering how that came out of her mouth when she was just trying to politely finish your transaction.
I wouldn't give it any more head space.

Yep if she called you 'dear,' it means she thinks you look over 65.

Sorry OP.

I still get called 'luv' or 'duck' - so can't look that old yet!

I'm in my 30's and I do this. It's completely not intended to be offensive and usually it's for someone I've had a very pleasant interaction with. Maybe I shouldn't? I'm sure she was just being jolly.

@catmum26 now I sort of want someone to give me my stuff in a shop and say "there you go dickhead" 😁

You're reading way too much into this.

Occasionally people say 'madam' to my mum. She loves it. But then she's 80 ... i won't relish the day that begins!

Well.... You're not unreasonable to wonder anything, however this makes me wonder how boring your life is if you are somehow offended by someone calling you "dear"

My DD's DP calls me 'my love'. I think it's sweet and hope it means he likes me.

If he starts calling me 'dickhead' I'll know he's changed his opinion of me.

My friend calls everyone my dear, including children, I think you are probably just reading too much into it.

Growing up in the north, I was used to "luv". Don't live there now.

My dear was only ever used by or to old people. It just seemed strange coming out of a young person's mouth.

No need for some of you to get so arsey about my question. I smiled back at her and thanked her. And then thought

The staff in Lush are always so lovely, I'm surprised you found anything to complain about!

Yes, it means she sees you as the same as her granny.